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MeganS · 02-20-2008, 02:15 PM

Its your (sons) reception, so its your choice! I wouldn't do it, but I'm LDS (Mormon) so we're not supposed to drink anyway.

But she's an adult, if she doesn't want to drink it, then she doesn't have to. Its up to you!

Good luck!

Ponyup · 02-20-2008, 02:24 PM

I was raised Methodist. They believe drinking is a sin, but I know that Catholics do not. And me personal, I don't believe it's a sin. I like to have a glass of wine at times. Even though my religious back ground isn't the same as my catholic friends it doesn't stop me from attending their events. I don't feel weird that they do things that are different then my religion. It's up to your family & you what you want at your baptism. I really wanted alcohol at my wedding, but my grandma refused to come if there was any, so she was more important. I guess it's up to you if your friend is more important then alcohol, but I personally think a good friend wouldn't make you choose.

TommiGirl · 02-20-2008, 04:25 PM

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Originally Posted by Yorkieluv

I agree that a wedding that takes place in a church is most definitely religious as well...
It's your son's baptism! Even though there will be wine, I highly doubt that anyone will be getting sloppy drunk at a baptism reception...People just don't do that!!

I really don't think you have anything to worry about there. Guests will probably just have one or two drinks with their meal or hors d'ouevres or whatever you are serving.

The alcohol usually served at a wedding is saying "hey, have a good time!!" The alcohol served at an event like this is more like "have a glass of wine or enjoy a beer with your meal."

Catholic baptisms take place when the child is still a mere infant.

Forgive me for being ignorant, but is a baptism a party for children?
I thought it was babies that got baptized, and therefore adults would be in attendance.
So if I were you i would do what I wanted to.
Your friend does not have to drink if she does not wish to.

Kaluiah · 02-20-2008, 04:45 PM

It is totally up to you. I just had my daughter dedicated back at christmas and and the dinner afterwards I chose not to serve beer. Being that it was a reliougus event I didn't think it was right to serve any achoholic beverage. Wedding are different from baptisms. baptisms you are dedicating your life to Christ and to live your life in a christian way. Wedding you are vowling to love and cherish each other in the eye of god.

Kaluiah · 02-20-2008, 04:47 PM

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Originally Posted by TommiGirl

Forgive me for being ignorant, but is a baptism a party for children?
I thought it was babies that got baptized, and therefore adults would be in attendance.
So if I were you i would do what I wanted to.
Your friend does not have to drink if she does not wish to.

a baptisim is a dedication ceremony and it can be for children or adults

cariblonde · 02-20-2008, 07:31 PM

I appreciate all your responses and opinions, It just really got under my skin b/c (and i hate to say this) I think she is somewhat jealous of my husband since we have been friends for so long and she is not married so she finds every way possible to ridicule him and put him down, she thinks it's HIS tradition to drink at a baptism

I told her I just wanted to have some wine for guests that enjoy that with their meal and as soon as i see anyone getting to the point of intoxication no more...... and I know if she comes she will drink

TommiGirl · 02-20-2008, 10:13 PM

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Originally Posted by Kaluiah

a baptisim is a dedication ceremony and it can be for children or adults

thanks for clarifying that for me.
I have been to a few, but the ones being baptized were infants and the guests were adults.
So I see not problem in serving wine.

Boosted Panda · 02-20-2008, 10:18 PM

Its a celebration!!!! God wouldn't mind if you guys popped a cold one in his honor. People need to loosen up a bit. Its a joyeous occassion and as long as people don't get sloppy drunk it should be a good time!

Yorkieluv · 02-20-2008, 10:20 PM

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Originally Posted by TommiGirl

Forgive me for being ignorant, but is a baptism a party for children?
I thought it was babies that got baptized, and therefore adults would be in attendance.
So if I were you i would do what I wanted to.
Your friend does not have to drink if she does not wish to.

Tommigirl, I think you misunderstood my post. LOL

That's exactly what my post was trying to explain

That's why I said that Catholics baptize children when they are infants, therefore, it's not like it's a children's birthday party or something like that. Mainly adults are in attendance and sometimes their children, so having drinks at a Catholic baptism is not like a wedding in that people won't go there looking to get drunk. They will go there to celebrate a baptism and have a couple of drinks with their meals

TommiGirl · 02-20-2008, 10:22 PM

got it!!!

Boosted Panda · 02-20-2008, 10:24 PM

I am buddhist HOWEVER I was a baptized Catholic and in my baptism post party pictures you see my hippy uncle with a cold budwieser playing guitar with baby me on his lap!

Yorkieluv · 02-20-2008, 10:39 PM

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Originally Posted by TommiGirl

got it!!!

Tillys_mom · 02-20-2008, 10:56 PM

Personally I wouldn't. As a child I had family that chose alcohol over me so I just naturally don't serve it at any of our family events. I chose not to even at our wedding, I wanted to feel like my family came for me, not free beer. LOL I know your situation is different.

Whenever we have friends that serve alcohol at gatherings we still attend but choose not to drink. I just suck it up for a couple of hours then its over. If she is a true friend she will put the differences behind her and come and have a great time.

chachi · 02-21-2008, 04:13 AM

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Originally Posted by Tillys_mom

Personally I wouldn't. As a child I had family that chose alcohol over me so I just naturally don't serve it at any of our family events. I chose not to even at our wedding, I wanted to feel like my family came for me, not free beer. LOL I know your situation is different.

Whenever we have friends that serve alcohol at gatherings we still attend but choose not to drink. I just suck it up for a couple of hours then its over. If she is a true friend she will put the differences behind her and come and have a great time.

I wouldnt either its a childs event. I didnt serve alcohol at my wedding either. And none of our family cared

02-20-2008, 02:15 PM	#16
MeganS Donating YT 7000 Club Member Join Date: May 2005 Location: New Jersey Posts: 12,016 Blog Entries: 1	Its your (sons) reception, so its your choice! I wouldn't do it, but I'm LDS (Mormon) so we're not supposed to drink anyway. But she's an adult, if she doesn't want to drink it, then she doesn't have to. Its up to you! Good luck! __________________ Megan "I have my dreams, I have made plans." - The Pirate Queen All Gave Some; Some Gave All

02-20-2008, 02:24 PM	#17
Ponyup YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Jul 2005 Location: Northern Indiana Posts: 1,252	I was raised Methodist. They believe drinking is a sin, but I know that Catholics do not. And me personal, I don't believe it's a sin. I like to have a glass of wine at times. Even though my religious back ground isn't the same as my catholic friends it doesn't stop me from attending their events. I don't feel weird that they do things that are different then my religion. It's up to your family & you what you want at your baptism. I really wanted alcohol at my wedding, but my grandma refused to come if there was any, so she was more important. I guess it's up to you if your friend is more important then alcohol, but I personally think a good friend wouldn't make you choose. __________________ Ponyup Mom to LOGAN Last edited by Ponyup; 02-20-2008 at 02:27 PM.

02-20-2008, 07:31 PM	#21
cariblonde Donating YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Mar 2007 Location: wilmington nc Posts: 1,585	I appreciate all your responses and opinions, It just really got under my skin b/c (and i hate to say this) I think she is somewhat jealous of my husband since we have been friends for so long and she is not married so she finds every way possible to ridicule him and put him down, she thinks it's HIS tradition to drink at a baptism I told her I just wanted to have some wine for guests that enjoy that with their meal and as soon as i see anyone getting to the point of intoxication no more...... and I know if she comes she will drink __________________ Proud Member of the Spoiled Rotten Club and in the end, its not the years in your life that count but the life in your years.... Abraham Lincoln

02-20-2008, 10:22 PM	#25
TommiGirl YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: Up North, further up north Posts: 771	got it!!! __________________ When you hear hooves, think horses, not zebras.

02-20-2008, 10:56 PM	#28
Tillys_mom Spoilin' Tilly & Jack Donating Member Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: Indiana Posts: 2,227	Personally I wouldn't. As a child I had family that chose alcohol over me so I just naturally don't serve it at any of our family events. I chose not to even at our wedding, I wanted to feel like my family came for me, not free beer. LOL I know your situation is different. Whenever we have friends that serve alcohol at gatherings we still attend but choose not to drink. I just suck it up for a couple of hours then its over. If she is a true friend she will put the differences behind her and come and have a great time. __________________ Momma Tilly Money will buy you a pretty good dog, but it won't buy the wag of his tail.

02-20-2008, 04:45 PM	#19
Kaluiah Ramsey little Devil in disguise Donating Member Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: Here Posts: 985	It is totally up to you. I just had my daughter dedicated back at christmas and and the dinner afterwards I chose not to serve beer. Being that it was a reliougus event I didn't think it was right to serve any achoholic beverage. Wedding are different from baptisms. baptisms you are dedicating your life to Christ and to live your life in a christian way. Wedding you are vowling to love and cherish each other in the eye of god.

02-20-2008, 10:18 PM	#23
Boosted Panda BANNED! Join Date: Mar 2007 Location: Manhattan Beach Posts: 460	Its a celebration!!!! God wouldn't mind if you guys popped a cold one in his honor. People need to loosen up a bit. Its a joyeous occassion and as long as people don't get sloppy drunk it should be a good time!

02-20-2008, 10:24 PM	#26
Boosted Panda BANNED! Join Date: Mar 2007 Location: Manhattan Beach Posts: 460	I am buddhist HOWEVER I was a baptized Catholic and in my baptism post party pictures you see my hippy uncle with a cold budwieser playing guitar with baby me on his lap!