Personally I wouldn't. As a child I had family that chose alcohol over me so I just naturally don't serve it at any of our family events. I chose not to even at our wedding, I wanted to feel like my family came for me, not free beer. LOL I know your situation is different.
Whenever we have friends that serve alcohol at gatherings we still attend but choose not to drink. I just suck it up for a couple of hours then its over. If she is a true friend she will put the differences behind her and come and have a great time.