Fight with hubby

[karen171]

Yep, sounds familiar. Sometimes men just store those frustrations up(and not necessarily anything to do with you). Then one little comment and it all comes rolling out and they want to take it out on somebody. Women usually want to talk about problems as they happen...much healthier that way, IMHO. Let him make up with you first...he's probably feeling guilty anyway.

[stedmansmommy]

I'm so sorry honey I will say a prayer for you guys and I do hope that things get better for the two of you. Fighting with your hubby is never fun I am so ticked off at my husband right now too, we are not even talking He is the type that if he knows I am mad, he won't even talk to me (probably because he doesn't want to "hear it" ) - and I think NOT talking is even WORSE than fighting.

I don't bring alot of my personal issues to the board (actually, I don't know that I have ever posted about any of them now that I think of it) BUT - sometimes it sure would be nice to just get some advice on things

Anyway, once again, I am saying a little prayer for you guys and please do the same for me - if my hubby doesn't open that mouth of his soon and say something, I am about to GO OFF ON HIM....I can't STAND this "silent treatment" crap

[Graleyne]

Oh I HATE the silent treatment. When Mike is really mad he wants to be "alone" and that makes me crazy. I can't stand not talking either. If we have to fight I want to fight, calm down, talk about it, make up, and it all be over right then and there. This dragging it out stuff KILLS me.

If you ever want to talk feel free to PM me. I promise to keep it just between us.

Hugs and I hope ya'll work it out soon too. I will definitely say a prayer.

[MissPinkBarbie]

Originally Posted by Graleyne

Yep. This one started because I mentioned he needed a new jacket. (which he DOES - HE has even said he does). I told him there was one at Holme's that I thought he would look good in. Then he popped off with "Well, if you are ashamed of the way I dress then you don't have to be seen with me!" What?! All I did was mention I thought he would look handsome in a jacket.

Then the next thing I knew I was crying and screaming at him that he was a cold hearted bunch of words I can't repeat here, and he was calling me a preppy spoiled bunch of words I can't repeat. Then I got MAD and I let him have it and ripped him to shreds. Then, to my surprise, he let me have it all right back. (which is really unlike him) We insulted everything from each other's parenting, to each other's relationship skills, to each other's bedroom abilities.

It was just awful. What really sucks is that he is very stubborn and hard headed and as much as I want everything to be over with and all better when he comes on tonight, I really don't think it will be.

Oh there must be something in the water...this happened to us the day before yesterday...We are still barely speaking.

We pretty much insulted everything about each other. and funny, he sounds alot like your DH. We both said some really hurtful things.. he calling me "a spoiled lil &*#@.." and me calling him "an awful husband and selfish person....worst guy I've ever been with..etc"..

The "D" word came out a few times too. Yea, it was bad. I know we didnt mean at of that, but the both of us are the same "hot-headed" kind of ppl.

I'll pray for you and you can do the same for all of us here having the same problems w/hubbies...

[Graleyne]

I will definitely be praying that God make everyone's husbands normal again.

[red98vett]

not to preach cause I've been there - BUT - it's the holidays and seems to be a hard time for some marriages -

Remember the things you love about him and the little everyday things he does - then picture him not there ever again to do them & what your life would be without him ....AND GO MAKE UP !!!

it only takes ONE kiss and an apology to make things right no matter who makes the first move & you'll both be happier for it

[red98vett]

ok - I forgot to say -

BACK to your corners and COME OUT KISSING !

[Graleyne]

Originally Posted by MissPinkBarbie

Oh there must be something in the water...this happened to us the day before yesterday...We are still barely speaking.

We pretty much insulted everything about each other. and funny, he sounds alot like your DH. We both said some really hurtful things.. he calling me "a spoiled lil &*#@.." and me calling him "an awful husband and selfish person....worst guy I've ever been with..etc"..

The "D" word came out a few times too. Yea, it was bad. I know we didnt mean at of that, but the both of us are the same "hot-headed" kind of ppl.

I'll pray for you and you can do the same for all of us here having the same problems w/hubbies...

Yep we threw the D word around too. He was still throwing it around this morning. Then he said separation, then he said wait until after the holidays.

What gets me is, is one minute he talks like everything is going to be OK and the next minute he's mad and being a butthead again. Like this morning, I was still mad so when he asked what I was doing I said, "I am cleaning your house." Then he replied that it was "our" house. Then, not even an hour later he was talking about divorce or at least separation again. I hate it when he does that. It makes me a nervous a wreck because one minute I can say something and its just fine, then the next I say something and he's mad again. Its like I can't do or say anything right so I'm scared to death to say anything at all. Then he gets mad because I'm not speaking to him.

[Tiramisu]

Our fights are always over "your kids - my kids". I was married for 9 years, single for 17 years, and now married for 12. So, I grew very independent and set in my ways during that 20 or so years of the last of the first marriage and being on my own, raising two kiddos. Good luck - try hugs!

[HallTx1203]

Originally Posted by cindy0721

I agree ... marriage is really hard... hubby is being a ass thiss morning... too.. men!

I think there must have been something in the air today...That affected men??

Mine was in a mood for most of the day....lol

But he is a keeper.....


I am sure things will be different tomorrow....

Joyce

[mypreciouspups]

Originally Posted by Mybabyboymax

Im an aries too and I already explained how I use to deal with the issues lol, I understand you are worried because he hasnt apologized yet, but Im sure he will. Some people need longer to cool off. Try not to worry, I know easier said than done. Im sure you guys will be ok.

An Aries male apologize.... never heard of it, I am married to an aries, never
my two sisters also married to aries. neither of them could neither.

My hubby just said tonight to my friend we are not buying gifts for each other this year, we have spent to much lately. well he wanted to trade the fifth wheel for a motor home, so we traded, he thought a newer golf cart was needed. He bought a 100.00 stereo for it, then bought two weather proof speakers, and an antenna, then he needed two more speakers. but he thinks we do not need anything for christmas. I guess he got what he wanted is what he is saying.
I found a set of sheets and a quilt and a perfect throw pillow at a cost of 200for the set. I guess I will not be getting that this year. grrrrrrrrrrrrrrr

So I know what it is like to be married to an aries man. pooh's mum

[mminichan]

Originally Posted by red98vett

Remember the things you love about him and the little everyday things he does - then picture him not there ever again to do them & what your life would be without him ....AND GO MAKE UP !!!
it only takes ONE kiss and an apology to make things right no matter who makes the first move & you'll both be happier for it

I agree with you!!!Try only think of the positive than negative....always imagine....if there is no tomorrow....cherish what you have at the moment....

Go make up!! It is holiday season...It is all about looooove!

[Baby Blessing]

Originally Posted by red98vett

Remember the things you love about him and the little everyday things he does - then picture him not there ever again to do them & what your life would be without him ....AND GO MAKE UP !!!

it only takes ONE kiss and an apology to make things right no matter who makes the first move & you'll both be happier for it

Vi thanks for the words you spoke here, you expressed exactly how I feel.
I am thinking of you and keeping you in my prayers.

mminichan

always imagine....if there is no tomorrow....cherish what you have at the moment....
Go make up!! It is holiday season...It is all about looooove!

Oh my gosh, your words really touched my heart. Yes, cherish every moment of today cause we know not what tomorrow brings, as I continually observe Jack deteriating with Parkinsons Disease, how I cherish each and every day with him, there is no words or anything in life worth robbing one of the love from their spouse. So many times through Jack's daily frustrations he loudly says to me," you don't know what this is like." I just tell him, " no I don't, but God does and we just have to lean on him more and more to get us through difficult times."

Think on being grateful that you don't have to hear words of affliction from your loved one and think of the foolish words spoken that hurt one another, robbing each other of precious moments that could be.

Life takes a lot of PATIENCE and and sometimes the key is let it begin with ME. These are just my opinions and feelings, prayers for all to be okay for you.

Patti

[BLowry]

Originally Posted by Graleyne

*sigh* All because I said I thought he'd look good in a jacket. Go figure that one. The thing is though, that once we started fighting about that one little thing, then ALL the frustration came out about 100001 other little things, which made the little fight turn into one big full fledged, mud slinging, WAR. So then he threw out an ultimatum at me and I slung one right back at him. It was, "You have until the first of the year to do ______________ and if not, then I want a divorce." Now neither one of us wants a divorce and we both know that. I am just still angry, hurt, and frustrated about some things that got said to me.

Why does marriage have to be so HARD sometimes? Why do husbands have to so difficult at times?

Welcome to my world! My husband was recently diagnosed bi-polar and.....he drinks too much. He isn't a very easy person to live with...unless you agree with everything he says and don't stir the waters. I can't tell you how many times he has told me he wants a divorce...Finally I called his bluff and told him...if you want to leave then leave......he's still here. I don't want him to go,...He is getting proffessional help and on meds. I just pray, everyday, for God to give me the strength to get through this.

How long have you been married

[red98vett]

Originally Posted by BLowry

Welcome to my world! My husband was recently diagnosed bi-polar and.....he drinks too much. He isn't a very easy person to live with...unless you agree with everything he says and don't stir the waters. I can't tell you how many times he has told me he wants a divorce...Finally I called his bluff and told him...if you want to leave then leave......he's still here. I don't want him to go,...He is getting proffessional help and on meds. I just pray, everyday, for God to give me the strength to get through this.

How long have you been married

You have my prayers Brenda - I'm sorry but hopefully the medication will even out the ups and downs - You're a strong woman to be able to understand why this happens and cope. Hugs to you girlfriend -

and where have you been ???

and Patti - I really REALLY relate to you and I hope each day with Jack is better than the last.....I think of you both often !!!

Merry Christmas...I hope ALL the men in your lives realize the grass is NOT greener and you all have a great holiday