Fight with hubby

[patty58]

Oh Aerrica, I am so sorry. Believe me in 39 years of marriage I have been right where you are. I am sure you are exhausted with all the stuff you have been going thru and that may have something to do with how you are feeling. And something else...........no one can tell me that men don't have PMS too With us it always seems to come in cycles Anyway, I agree with Judy, just suck it up and give him a hug and tell him you love him. Good luck

[Bizzymammabee]

Oh hon that has happened to all of us. Doubt a married person on here has not been in the same boat.

Just let things calm down. I know he doesn't think that you want a divorce.

I try to remember when we fight to watch what I say...very hard because I am a hot headed leo. Somethings once they come out can't be taken back but we can get over them.

Trust in what you have built and know that you will both chalk it up afterwards to frustration.

I totally agree just give him a cuddle and that will melt a lot of the ice wall that has gone up.


Hugs.

[Graleyne]

I understand. I am a hot headed aries with a temper and half. I do try and watch what I say and keep my temper in check, this time though everything just hit me and I came at him full force with both barrels blazing.

I guess everything, all the stress, of the past few weeks finally caught up with me and I found an outlet and took full advantage of it.

I'm just scared and worried because even though I apologized, and I don't want a separation/divorce, he hasn't and I don't know what he is thinking or what he wants. I don't THINK he really wants that, but he's at work right now so I can't really talk to him and get a good feeling about where he's at.

Right now the agreement is to just make it through the holidays and let everything (and everyone) calm down before making any decisions.

[Bizzymammabee]

Originally Posted by Graleyne

I understand. I am a hot headed aries with a temper and half. I do try and watch what I say and keep my temper in check, this time though everything just hit me and I came at him full force with both barrels blazing.

I guess everything, all the stress, of the past few weeks finally caught up with me and I found an outlet and took full advantage of it.

I'm just scared and worried because even though I apologized, and I don't want a separation/divorce, he hasn't and I don't know what he is thinking or what he wants. I don't THINK he really wants that, but he's at work right now so I can't really talk to him and get a good feeling about where he's at.

Right now the agreement is to just make it through the holidays and let everything (and everyone) calm down before making any decisions.

Jeeze honey I feel for you...my hubby is an aries and when we get going the heat ratchets up.

He is kicking himself right now for a lot of stupid things said so believe me he is feeling remorseful as well...it's not only you.

It sucks because if your anything like me when it's like that I literally feel sick to my stomach.

Things will be ok. Sending you a xmas wish and I know it will work. You just need a bit of cooling off.

Hugs

[Graleyne]

Yeah my tummy is not very happy at all today. That's definitely not helping me feel better that's for sure.

Maybe I'll feel better when he gets home tonight. He did ask if I wanted to leave our youngest with his mom tonight so he could come home and we could just relax.

[Mybabyboymax]

Im an aries too and I already explained how I use to deal with the issues lol, I understand you are worried because he hasnt apologized yet, but Im sure he will. Some people need longer to cool off. Try not to worry, I know easier said than done. Im sure you guys will be ok.

[Bizzymammabee]

Originally Posted by Graleyne

Yeah my tummy is not very happy at all today. That's definitely not helping me feel better that's for sure.

Maybe I'll feel better when he gets home tonight. He did ask if I wanted to leave our youngest with his mom tonight so he could come home and we could just relax.

Ok he is extending the olive branch. Get rid of the kids and maybe have a nice grown up night. It's funny but I have come to realize that we do need date night at least once a month. It's nice to just be able to be an adult and enjoy each other's company.

I think my xmas wish for you is in the making.

[Bizzymammabee]

Originally Posted by Mybabyboymax

Im an aries too and I already explained how I use to deal with the issues lol, I understand you are worried because he hasnt apologized yet, but Im sure he will. Some people need longer to cool off. Try not to worry, I know easier said than done. Im sure you guys will be ok.

Sometimes you wont' get that sorry depending on how stubborn or how hurtful the situation was but the other party will make way on trying to rectify things.

[mizzwanned]

Originally Posted by BabyFidgette

I've learned that women want to always talk right then about the problem. Men hold it in (just like you said) and then when they can't anymore they burst with ALL the things you've done "wrong." It's their human nature, but it sure hurts more. .

lol im like that. I don't like talking about it then and there

[mizzwanned]

I'm sorry you are fighting Aerrica, I hope it gets better.

[Graleyne]

Thanks. I hope they do too. I hate fighting with him. It just rips my heart out.

[Baby Blessing]

I just sent you a pm. Patti and Jack

[karen171]

Hang in there and it sounds like he wants to make up. I agree with Patti...Men do have PMS! The worst fight my hubby and I ever had was when all the flies somehow got in the house. He accused me of leaving the back door open and I told him he was a no good nit picking &*%$!.. well you know...lol

[Graleyne]

I got it. Thank you. Hugs!

[Graleyne]

Originally Posted by karen171

Hang in there and it sounds like he wants to make up. I agree with Patti...Men do have PMS! The worst fight my hubby and I ever had was when all the flies somehow got in the house. He accused me of leaving the back door open and I told him he was a no good nit picking &*%$!.. well you know...lol

Yep. This one started because I mentioned he needed a new jacket. (which he DOES - HE has even said he does). I told him there was one at Holme's that I thought he would look good in. Then he popped off with "Well, if you are ashamed of the way I dress then you don't have to be seen with me!" What?! All I did was mention I thought he would look handsome in a jacket.

Then the next thing I knew I was crying and screaming at him that he was a cold hearted bunch of words I can't repeat here, and he was calling me a preppy spoiled bunch of words I can't repeat. Then I got MAD and I let him have it and ripped him to shreds. Then, to my surprise, he let me have it all right back. (which is really unlike him) We insulted everything from each other's parenting, to each other's relationship skills, to each other's bedroom abilities.

It was just awful. What really sucks is that he is very stubborn and hard headed and as much as I want everything to be over with and all better when he comes on tonight, I really don't think it will be.