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chloeTG · 12-18-2007, 06:39 AM

Well as they say marriage is hard enough just with the simple every day things life brings you...Financial issues being one of them...If he's in debt up to his eyeballs I wouldn't be with him...You're so young and you deserve the best and someone that trusts you enough not to make comments like that either!!

I would move on, he's not boyfriend material much less marriage material...how is he going to support you in the future or will you work your but off so that he can stay at home and work a part-time job?? Hope everything works out for you darlin'...

CollegeCutieUSF · 12-18-2007, 06:43 AM

I sounds to me like you've already made up your mind.

Yeah, you may be just 19....but if you don't see a future with your current boyfriend, why stay with him? You'll only end up hurting him and yourself in the long run. The longer you stay in the relationship, the harder it is to leave.

It's like my mom always told me: "Don't ever settle for less than you're worth"

Good Luck!

rebecca127 · 12-18-2007, 09:16 AM

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Originally Posted by JeanieK

Move on Honey

Too many issues and way too spoiled.

It is proven that spoiled people are never satisfied, because they have never had to work for anything. So everything is meaninless, including significant others.

Sweet heart, for a moment I thought u were talking about me!!! LOL, my ex was the same way but we are older. I just recently left him and I feel great! There is no need for someone to stress you out and make u feel like a pawn for their enjoyment. Imagine my ex will be 29 and he sounds just like ur ur bf who is 19 now that is sad...

Move on and find a gentleman not a LOSER!

ryorkies · 12-18-2007, 09:28 AM

That special someone in your life should be making you smile and feel good about life, if this guy can't do this for you now... it certainly will not happen when you are married.
Just keep reminding yourself... I should be really happy right now, not filled with doubts and worry.

celstu1 · 12-18-2007, 09:33 AM

Never hope someone changes... this has nothing to do with HIM it has all to do with YOU... what YOU want, what you put up with ... My best friend once told me this and it was on the spot advice that stuck with me cuz its soooo true "ALL people have their own 'issues', but there is one guy out there whos issues will be tolerable or ok to you"

and yours to him! Move on girl... this BOY has sooooo much growing up to do. You sound mature .. he sounds like a child.. and by the sounds of it... wait til he hits 21 and is able to get into the bars and clubs... I dont think thats going to be a pretty stage for you to go through!

celstu1 · 12-18-2007, 09:37 AM

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Originally Posted by rebecca127

Sweet heart, for a moment I thought u were talking about me!!! LOL, my ex was the same way but we are older. I just recently left him and I feel great! There is no need for someone to stress you out and make u feel like a pawn for their enjoyment. Imagine my ex will be 29 and he sounds just like ur ur bf who is 19 now that is sad...

Move on and find a gentleman not a LOSER!

Mine is 33 (almost 34) and soundst JUST like BOTH your exs!!!! I swear girls, they never change....

tammy8833 · 12-18-2007, 01:54 PM

hi

relationships are hard and changing rarely happens..you are waiting for him to do the same thing that he wants you to do. change..

he wants more time, more lovey dovey, more attention and cares little that you have more than enough going on and you want him to change, to grow up, have goals and become independent and responsible..

at 19 and only 6 months into it, have fun dont stress over him..as you grow and mature and further yourself he will probably do the same but at a slower rate

tell him to slow down and that he needs to respect your time and space and that you have goals that you will make in life and that he has to respect that and encourage him to do the same.

sometimes its meant to be and sometimes its not and sometimes you both have to grow before its meant to be...

chin up!

12-18-2007, 06:39 AM	#31
chloeTG Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: Plano, Texas Posts: 239	Well as they say marriage is hard enough just with the simple every day things life brings you...Financial issues being one of them...If he's in debt up to his eyeballs I wouldn't be with him...You're so young and you deserve the best and someone that trusts you enough not to make comments like that either!! I would move on, he's not boyfriend material much less marriage material...how is he going to support you in the future or will you work your but off so that he can stay at home and work a part-time job?? Hope everything works out for you darlin'... __________________ Chloe and Kylie's Mom

12-18-2007, 06:43 AM	#32
CollegeCutieUSF Mom to Biggie & Capone Donating Member Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: Tampa, FL Posts: 1,662	I sounds to me like you've already made up your mind. Yeah, you may be just 19....but if you don't see a future with your current boyfriend, why stay with him? You'll only end up hurting him and yourself in the long run. The longer you stay in the relationship, the harder it is to leave. It's like my mom always told me: "Don't ever settle for less than you're worth" Good Luck! __________________ I Mr. Biggs & Capone COMING SOON: peacelovedogs

12-18-2007, 09:33 AM	#35
celstu1 Donating YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: New Hampshire Posts: 10,534	Never hope someone changes... this has nothing to do with HIM it has all to do with YOU... what YOU want, what you put up with ... My best friend once told me this and it was on the spot advice that stuck with me cuz its soooo true "ALL people have their own 'issues', but there is one guy out there whos issues will be tolerable or ok to you" and yours to him! Move on girl... this BOY has sooooo much growing up to do. You sound mature .. he sounds like a child.. and by the sounds of it... wait til he hits 21 and is able to get into the bars and clubs... I dont think thats going to be a pretty stage for you to go through! __________________ “Petting, scratching, and cuddling a dog could be as soothing to the mind and heart as deep meditation and almost as good for the soul as prayer.” ― Dean Koontz

12-18-2007, 01:54 PM	#37
tammy8833 Donating Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: VA Posts: 2,775	hi relationships are hard and changing rarely happens..you are waiting for him to do the same thing that he wants you to do. change.. he wants more time, more lovey dovey, more attention and cares little that you have more than enough going on and you want him to change, to grow up, have goals and become independent and responsible.. at 19 and only 6 months into it, have fun dont stress over him..as you grow and mature and further yourself he will probably do the same but at a slower rate tell him to slow down and that he needs to respect your time and space and that you have goals that you will make in life and that he has to respect that and encourage him to do the same. sometimes its meant to be and sometimes its not and sometimes you both have to grow before its meant to be... chin up! __________________ Tammy YT Gallery Lil Girl Princess & Theodore *Gidget R.I.P**

12-18-2007, 09:28 AM	#34
ryorkies No Longer a Member Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: Yorkieville Posts: 2,860	That special someone in your life should be making you smile and feel good about life, if this guy can't do this for you now... it certainly will not happen when you are married. Just keep reminding yourself... I should be really happy right now, not filled with doubts and worry.