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09-11-2013, 11:10 AM | #1 |
Yorkie Talker Join Date: Oct 2006 Location: nc
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| I will never survive Part 2 All of you have been so thoughtful and wanted more info. my little elvis who I had for 10 years died last week.he had such terrible luck and pain in his life. he was hair trigger pancreintitus and had it 6 times.2 years ago he developed the auto immune disease and I finally got that regulated with immune surpressents. what truly hurts is over the past 3 months he started getting smaller and I thought it was just the ID lowfat diet. 3 weks ago I took him in and his kidney function values were awful and he got fluids. 3 more tests over the weeks showed no improvement and they taught me how to give him fluids under his skin 3 times a day. last Thursday he stayed in his crate and I got him up and his gait was very wobbly like something neurological. at the vet he ran into walls walking and the vet said he was blind. I wanted them to give him iv fluids and they agreed until he started throwing up blood with a high BP and the vet said he was having a stroke possibly but needed to be put down I cry all the time cause I didn't do anything as he kept getting smaller and I cry cause his last day on earth was hell. I live alone and he was my best pal in the world. I nursed him through so many things and our bond grew. I just cant get it out of my mine seeing him blind and wondering if another bag of fluids would help I loved my deseased dad dearly but this hurts more. I don't know how I will be able to pick up his ashes Thank you all for your support |
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09-11-2013, 11:16 AM | #2 |
Donating YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Apr 2011 Location: montana
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| I am so sorry for your loss// this is a good place to come |
09-11-2013, 12:17 PM | #3 |
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| John, it sounds like you did everything you could do for Elvis. I'm so glad you are sharing things about Elvis with us. We are all here to help you and support you. So many of us here have experienced the intense hurt and pain when we lost these precious pups. |
09-11-2013, 02:12 PM | #4 |
I ♥ my Cookie Monster! Donating Member Join Date: May 2013 Location: South Texas
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| Don't beat yourself up over what-ifs please, John. I know I had a ton of them too, but there was nothing I was going to do to change the fact that Minnie's kidneys were just barely functional, and there was very likely nothing you could do with Elvis' kidneys either. You did so much for Elvis, so please be proud of that and of the time you got to spend together (it's never long enough sadly).
__________________ Cookie ;;; RIP Minnie |
09-11-2013, 02:44 PM | #5 |
Donating YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Oct 2011 Location: USA
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| John, when you get out of the immense fog of grief, you will realize that we do the best we can. It sounds to me as if you have been a very very vigilant father to Elvis - how many dogs survive that many pancreatic attacks? Just as a layperson - I don't think there was anything more you could have done. Sometimes bodies just stop working and it sounds as if both of you were fighters for a very long time. Be kind to yourself. I get the thing about being more upset in some ways over Elvis than your father. My theory with that - is it's not really measuring one or the other - it's that our pets are so physically entwined to every day actions in addition to our emotional hearts that it's a much more visceral loss when we lose a baby like this. That's how I explained it to myself anyway when I lost my Max and then three family members in a fairly short timespan. Please keep reaching out. and while you will never be able to replace Elvis - because you just can't with special pets, you may find room in your heart to love another that will help you heal a bit and distract you from the pain - when the time is right - whenever that is. God bless. Nicole
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09-11-2013, 03:00 PM | #6 |
Love my Boys Donating Member Join Date: Dec 2006 Location: w/ my boys
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| John, from your post I can feel your pain and heartache you’re in from Elvis's passing. These little ones become so much of a part of our lives, we can never imagine them not being there sharing every moment with us. They truly become one of our closest friends and companions. Having lost two of my own I can truly relate to your post. One of the most complex decisions those of us who love animals will ever make – the one that causes the most pain, grief and regret- is when to let go. The guilt and the questioning of ourselves concerning the circumstances of the loss can be so overwhelming, it just seems to consume every moment of the day. Unfortunately, I do believe that guilt is part of the grieving process. Not having any guilt in making this decision is not an option. No matter what decision is made some doubts and guilt will remain, unfortunately. . ..Only caring, responsible pet owners go through this agony….. You did the best you could for Elvis, that is all you can ask of yourself. He was clearly loved for the ten years you were blessed to have had with him. You were there when Elvis need you the most to make a selfless decision to relieve him of his suffering and pain. It takes courage, strength, and love to assume this last duty and it is our last responsibility to a pet which has given us love and companionship. Part of the love is being able to let go, not for us, but for them. For a year I couldn't even talk about my loss without bursting into tears and I can say that there are still some sad days, not as many but it still hurts. I suppose that feeling of emptiness never quite goes away completely. A part of me hopes it never will. I hope for you that you can get to a place of peace when you think of Elvis, The joy found in the companionship of a pet is a blessing not given to everyone. Hold Elvis in your heart until you are together once more. I'm so sorry for your loss of your friend and your buddy. RIP sweet Elvis...((Hugs))
__________________ B.J.mom to : Jake J.J. Jack & Joey, momma misses you..... The joy found in the companionship of a pet is a blessing not given to everyone. The two most powerful words when we’re in struggle: me too.. |
09-11-2013, 03:45 PM | #7 |
♥Love My Puppies!♥ Donating Member Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: US
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| John, when I read your post I kept thinking over and over how lucky Elvis was to have had you for a daddy. I am so sorry that you lost him but so glad that you and Elvis found each other in the first place. Hugs....
__________________ RIP My Sweet Darling Angel Daisy 08/09/03 - 10/02/15, RIP My Sweet Baby Boy Teddy Bear 02/01/04 - 02/11/16 Photos HERE |
09-11-2013, 04:17 PM | #8 |
Donating YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Toluca Lake, CA
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| I am so sorry John it sounds like you were a loving and devoted caregiver to Elvis and that you did everything possible to help him. I honestly believe that even on his hellish last day he knew he was loved and he was comforted by your presence. Bless you and the Yorkie Angel Elvis.
__________________ CarolynBuster Brown "The happiest people don't have the best of everything, they just make the best of everything." |
09-11-2013, 05:13 PM | #9 |
YorkieTalk Newbie! Join Date: Sep 2013 Location: Yakima
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| Im so sorry for your loss. I just lost my dear friend Tink from tracheal collapse...I know exactly how desolate you feel. |
09-11-2013, 05:20 PM | #10 |
YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Jun 2013 Location: North Ridgeville, Oh. US
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| Prayers from my heart to help you recover.
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09-11-2013, 05:47 PM | #11 |
Donating YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Sep 2010 Location: USA
Posts: 4,285
| Oh John, so sorry for your loss. I lost my previous Yorkie of 10 years from renal failure. Her decline was heart wrenching and I thought I would never get over losing her. That was four and a half years ago - and I still miss her and think about her all the time. You have come to the right place. I think most of the folks here at Yorkie Talk have lost a dear furbaby and can relate to how you are feeling. Thank goodness your furbaby had someone who care as much as you did and you were able to have that special furbaby in your life ! Hang in!
__________________ . Cali , and Cali's keeper and staff, Jay No, not a "mini" Yorkie - She loves to motor in her Mini Cooper car |
09-12-2013, 08:48 AM | #12 |
Donating YT 3000 Club Member Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: A little town south of Chicago
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| John, I am so very sorry for your loss. I know there is nothing I can say to ease your pain except that I truly understand as most of us do on YT. It is hard to deal with our losses but eventually we can start remembering the funny sweet things our babies did and once again share a story and smile or chuckle. The joy I have had in living with pets is worth the pain I feel when I loose them. I hope that some day you can once again feel joy. |
09-12-2013, 09:24 AM | #13 |
Love My Girls Donating Member Join Date: Jul 2010 Location: Decatur, IL
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| John, my heart aches for you. I just read your post on the loss of your little Elvis. Most of us on Yorkie Talk have been in your shoes at some time. The grief feels unbearable and you don't know how you can go on.....,but you do. Each day it gets a tiny bit easier. I too lost my little best friend. She died on the operating room table during a routine procedure. Like you, I didn't know how I could make it through picking up her ashes. When I did pick up her ashes, a sense of peace came over me in the car and I knew then I could get through this. You and Elvis are in my thoughts. May you find peace during this difficult time.
__________________ Karen, mama to Macy and Molly It is easier to fool people than to convince them they have been fooled. (Mark Twain) |
09-12-2013, 09:57 AM | #14 | |
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| I too lost mine only to cancer Quote:
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09-12-2013, 07:43 PM | #15 | |
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