Is It Normal To Hurt THIS Much?

[chattiesmom]

I am so very sorry for your loss. I don't know how much you hurt, but I do know how much I hurt when I lost my first Yorkie Laciebug, even though she had been sick for a very long time and she was ready to cross the bridge. Let your other two furkids help heal your hurt with puppy kisses.....

Sending you Yorkie hugs and kisses.....

[sabrinasmom]

First let me say it's normal. Oh, so normal. But second let me say that I bet your son is feeling so guilty right now he's as traumatized as you are. Having our beloved pets is part of life's learning experience for us all. Helping him get through it will help you too. Forgive. Pain lessens with time, but only with time. I bet your son will be the best of dog owners after this, when he decides to have a pet. They are like our children, but they are not our children. As precious to us, but in a different way. I feel for you so much, but grieve together, and let it be - it was your pups time for some reason.

[candy2005]

My Pomerian I have had since she was 6weeks old and just turned 11 years old passed away the 6th of this month. I am so torn up too. I awake in the night wondering if I done all I could and can't sleep. She is buried in my dog pen which is behind the house. Had a marker fixed with her name and date's with her picture. I know just how bad you feel losing one of your babies, but I do believe I will see them again.

[Lexi Rae]

i am so so sorry for your loss,my heart goes out to you... i feel so sad for you, tears are rolling out of my eyes and this screen is so blurry.... i cant imagine what you are going through.. you will be in my thoughts and prayers.
go bless you....

[SnowWa]

Drakes Mom - I just ran across your post.

Two months ago, I put a little dog to sleep. She was 9 years old and was the love of my life. I missed nearly two weeks of work. I tried going to work, but cried all the way to work, at work, and all the way home. My heart was broken, and I thought I would never get over it.

I still remember the first day that I didn't cry, but, of course, I cried again the next day.

I know exactly how you feel. My daughter finally sat me down and told me that I just had to get over it. She said, "I know how you feel, but people are only going to put up with this for so long and are going to think you are nuts."
We laughed a little - but she was right. And, I have recovered from the intense grief. But I still never think about "Dutchess" without tearing up and wishing I had her back.

Don't beat yourself up with guilt. I have experienced a lot of guilt too because my little dog had a back problem and could have had surgery. It would have cost around $5000, and I would also have had to miss a lot of work. Dutchess was 9 years old, and she had diabetes (which was no problem other than giving her two insulin shots a day). She had had some other medical problems, which were completely resolved, but which had cost me nearly $2000 the preceding year. I just felt overwhelmed with her pain, her diabetes, her age, and all the medical bills.

On the way home after putting her to sleep, I felt that I had made the worst mistake I'd ever made in my life. I wished I had remortgaged my house and spent whatever it took to keep her.

My guilt is also lessening as time goes by. Thank God!

I understand what you have been going through and hope that you are starting to feel better.

Carol Jean

PS: I shouldn't say this - I really shouldn't -- because I know it was done with a good heart, but that "Rainbow Bridge" stuff really got to me after a while. First of all, there isn't a Rainbow Bridge - it's just something someone made up --and everyone has been using it every since. I felt it was almost an insult to my intelligence - and certainly it was nothing that would make me feel better after losing my little dog. Someone even told me that the "little dog fairy" would come and take my dog and keep her safe until I could be with her again. If someone had said, "Maybe dogs go to heaven and maybe you see her again." That - I could hope for.

The "Rainbow Bridge" and the little "Dog Fairy" really weren't things that helped me through my pain. I needed to hear from people who had gone through a similar experience, who knew how I felt, and who had somehow survived. I needed understanding and knowing that I would not feel so much pain forever.

Again, I hope you are feeling better. They say "time heals" and thank God, it really does.

[SoCalyorkiLvr]

SnowWa~

I also had a situation where finances prevented me from possibly saving my dog's life. I was only 13 at the time and I had a miniature poodle who was about 2 years old. She never went out on the road but one day she did and was hit. My father and I rushed her to the vet and the vet said they could operate and possibly save her but my dad said we didn't have the money so he had her put to sleep. It was so sad for me and to this day I have vowed to spend whatever it takes to keep my babies alive and healthy.

I am so sorry for your loss and I believe that if their is a heaven that dogs definitely go there. They sure deserve it more than we do!!

[red98vett]

SnowWa ....I hope this helps.... but I believe Rainbow Bridge IS heaven and I'm sorry for your loss too...People here really do understand the pain and there are many in the world who don't...I guess in a way they're lucky ..than again maybe they're not.

the time we have with them just isn't enough is it ?

[whispersmom2]

I, too, think that Rainbow Bridge is the name we have given to the place where our animals go in their afterlife. We humans call it Heaven--well, those that have as part of their belief system.
I cry everytime I read of the death of one of our 4-legged babies. I think back to Jesse and what, if anything more I could have done for him. I even agreed with my vet that he might do better in another home,,but he didn't.. And, sometimes I think maybe, just maybe...and nothing comes to mind waht "maybe" was. I know many of my tears are for Jesse and wee Albert but it still hurts to read of another's sorrow.
We understand the pain and sorrow that goes along with the loss of our companions, but I for one, would never consider not having these babies in my life....

[Stitches29]

Lexy will always be with you. Right now there is one playful Lexy waiting for you and your family at the "Rainbow Bridge". I too know of the hurt. The pain is so great, that it's hard to face each day. Two of my fur children were cremated and now live in our curio cabinet. Upon their urn, is there collar and picture. Sometimes when I look at their pictures, I still break down and cry. It's been years since they passed away, but I will always have their memories. Feel free to talk about it as much as you need to. Talking helps heal the heart.

[chipperdancing]

I am so sorry for your painful loss, I began to cry just reading your sorrow pouring out. From my own experiences, I know the initial pain and anger will pass but you'll always hold the sweet memories and good times in your heart. I feel such pain for the 14 year old, this is something the child will never forget and, whether he lets anyone know or not, he will always blame himself ~ and his pain and self blame may come out in the form of anger and defiance ~ be gentle with him and gentle with yourself. And, please don't even consider giving up your other two ~ they love you and your family as much as you love them, they would never understand such a thing. I lost my chocolate Lab, Daisy, over 10 years ago to cancer. I knew one teat was weeping and postponed taking her to the Vet ... when I did, the mastdectomy was too late ~ it had spread into her other organs. I'll never forgive myself for not taking her to the Vet when I knew the teat was weeping a almost a sure sign of cancer ~ she loved me and trusted me, I let her down and I let her die. Today I have beautiful Yorkies, and I don't postpone their healthcare ~ I learned from Daisy.

Be gentle with your son, your Yorkie-Poo and Yorkie, and your husband ~ all of you are feeling the pain, but it will pass in time. Hold each other close.