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09-21-2005, 12:30 PM | #16 |
YT 3000 Club Member Join Date: Jun 2005 Location: Rialto CA
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| I feel so bad for you. Now I can't stop crying. I know how it feels to blame yourself. When Gus was attacked, it was my son who was watching him and although there was nothing anyone really could have done about it. I keep thinking to myself what if,,,,,,, I still cry when I think about it. It is not your fault! I think the other 2 furbabies are very lucky to have you. They are in the best place and only place they know and love. They love you and you will find that they will comfort you in this time of morning. A pets love is unconditional and I know you must feel unworthy but I trully feel that in the long run you will find that they are what helped you deal with Lexy's death. My thought and prayers are with you!
__________________ Monica, Proud mom of Gus who is forever missed! And new mom to Leiloni Gus's Dogster page |
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09-21-2005, 12:36 PM | #17 |
YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Apr 2005
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| so sorry I am so sorry words just are not enough to comfort you but you are in our thoughts,(dianne and prudence)
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09-21-2005, 12:51 PM | #18 |
Donating YT 7000 Club Member | i'm so so so so so sorry!! that is just awful!! they are such a big part of our family, and loosing them is awful!! especially to lose them in such a tragic accident. i'm so sorry, i will be thinking of you, your family, and the sweet RB angel. Rest In Peace oh- and please try not to blame yourself. it isn't your fault! i know its hard to not think something like that now, but its not your fault. i know you will be with her again...someday
__________________ Megan "I have my dreams, I have made plans." - The Pirate Queen All Gave Some; Some Gave All |
09-21-2005, 03:04 PM | #19 |
BANNED! Join Date: Jun 2005
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| please please dont blame yourself it was a sad accident, you will feel pain and sadness coz to you she was a family member, and although you will always think of her, as time goes on you will remember her with smiles instead of tears wendy and rosie |
09-21-2005, 08:55 PM | #20 |
Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Feb 2005 Location: Missouri
Posts: 107
| Wow!!! You ALL are SO very nice and thoughtful, and I can't begin to tell you how much it has helped, reading all of your replies! It feels so good to be able to "talk" to people that actually understand! My husband and my son understand my pain and are very supportive and the rest of my family is, too, for the most part, but they don't understand completely....only people like my friends here can understand....people that are dedicated enough to belong to a site like this for mere conversation and chit chat about our "babies"! I would like to say that I have in no way even implied to my son that it was his fault! I have said over and over again that it's mine....I'm the parent!! But, he told me last night when we talked that he wishes he had done things differently....not just about THAT night but a lot of things! He said he'd like to get a new lab puppy and start all over again....training, etc. but I told him I can't handle it....not this soon! He totally understands, which makes me feel better! The thought of getting another one makes me feel guilty, like I'm betraying Lexy, and I cannot even begin to think of feeling that! It has definitely made me take on a whole new relationship with Harley & Drake....that's for sure! Like many of you said, everything happens for a reason, and I believe that as well! I would like to thank each and every one of you for kind thoughts, words, prayers, etc.! You have NO idea how much they have all meant to me! Most of all, I'd like to thank you for understanding! May God bless you all and your "babies", too! Karla |
09-22-2005, 03:49 AM | #21 |
No Longer a Member Join Date: Jul 2004 Location: South Florida
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| loss Bless your heart..I am happy to hear you are feeling better. Sometimes when we lose something we love like a dog, the grief is not just for that one dog. We are grieving over other losses in our life. It is not unusal for us to store up emotions and then when something like this happens we cry for all the past hurts as well. When I lost my first Yorkie from a c-section I cried for a week. I thought I would never stop...I would burst into tears anywhere. My doctor told me those were tears for the loss of my mother, tears of guilt for breeding her, tears for every pain I had the last few years...it is healthy to grieve and let it all out. Best wishes |
09-22-2005, 06:11 PM | #22 |
Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Feb 2005 Location: Missouri
Posts: 107
| Pat, I definitely think you are right when you say we are grieving over other losses! My mother (my best friend for 37 years; the person I never went one day without seeing; the person that was there for me no matter what the situation, etc.) passed away almost 2 years ago....October 28, to be exact! That was the most devastating thing that had ever happened to me because it was SO unexpected....it was a sudden heart attack, and I felt like my life had just ended, as well! When I first saw that Lexy was gone, the first thing that came to my mind is "Why??? Why do the things I love have to die?? Why is God doing this to me??", etc. I have even told people that I haven't felt this kind of pain since my mom's passing and that it's like it's all rehashed again, which makes it even worse! Thank you for bringing this to my attention! I will say that today has definitely been a better day! I live in a small town where everyone knows everyone else, and I am going to find out who hit her and didn't stop if it's the last thing I do! I want to face them....not to be mean because I'm pretty sure I'm over the angry stage....I just want to let them to know if they ever do it again to PLEASE stop and tell the owners....just so they will know! That was a major issue that tore me up inside, and I don't want anyone else to have to feel that if I can help it! Lexy was a hunting/sporting dog, too, and I have LOTS of pictures of her! I will cherish every single one of them! I'm sorry for anyone else reading this that has lost a pet, but let me tell you....I'm even more sorry now because you have NO idea what it feels like until it's happened to you personally! My heart goes out to each and every one of you! God Bless You All!!!!! |
09-22-2005, 06:29 PM | #23 | |
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our lives and since I had a mother with us with cancer and a bother sick and the kids emotions to take care of; I didn't have time for myself. When my Molly died I cried for weeks( and I don't cry easily) People would say hello and I would cry but I did tell them that I missed Molly so much but I think I 'm also crying for everything I hadn't in my life.
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10-28-2005, 04:28 PM | #24 |
YT Addict Join Date: Oct 2005 Location: Schriever, Louisiana
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| The grieving is normal. I never knew it would hurt this much when Lacey died. I knew it was going to hurt, but I feel like a huge part of my life is missing. 4 months later and I still find myself crying everytime I look at her photos. I really want another yorkie pup, but no other pup will replace my Lacey. She was one of a kind! |
10-28-2005, 08:46 PM | #25 |
Donating YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Aug 2004 Location: TX
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| I'm so sorry for your loss. I too was devastated when my 15 year old toy poodle had to be put down a couple years ago. I know my situation is different in that it was to be expected at that age but the grief just hit me like a ton of bricks. It was like I was looking at myself wondering who that person was. I now understand the feelings I've always heard about when losing a loved pet and I hope you can heal soon. It does take time... just reading your post brings me to tears with the memories but we have Tatum now to fill our hearts although no dog can ever replace our first babe. Be strong and know that you're in our thoughts.
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10-28-2005, 09:06 PM | #26 |
BANNED! Join Date: Jul 2005 Location: USA
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| AWWW Im so sorry I know how you feel. I was watching My sons dog and He was even in a kennell and he got out and got hit. I watched my son carry his dog with tears running down his face I felt so sorry for him . It was his first dog and I feel so bad about the dog. my son also had to dig by hand and it took him many hours . I still feel so bad. |
10-28-2005, 09:58 PM | #27 |
Double Trouble Donating Member Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: FLORIDA
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| I am so sorry to hear about your baby! May God give you the serenity to continue. How very sad! My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. Believe that she is in Rainbow Bridge!
__________________ PEBBLES AND SASHA MY DOGS ARE NOT SPOILED...I'M JUST WELL TRAINED! |
10-30-2005, 04:40 PM | #28 |
Donating YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: Rockland county, NY
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| What else can I say that hasn't been already said so eloquently. But I did want you to know how sorry I am for your loss. Be comforted by knowing that you gave your baby a good life and that she was so loved, so many pets don't know what that is. She will always live on in your heart. You are in my prayers.
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10-30-2005, 05:32 PM | #29 |
YT Addict Join Date: Jul 2005 Location: Bella Vista Arkansas
Posts: 482
| Oh I am so sorry for the loss of your loved pet. It is grief as a family member. You are totally normal to feel as you do and it is good that you have honored her so. |
10-30-2005, 06:20 PM | #30 |
YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: May 2005 Location: West Virginia
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| I am sooo sorry.. I am so sorry for your loss of Lexy. We too had a black lab named Midnight. She was a stray when we found her as a puppy and fell in love w/ her instantly. We had her for about 2 years and I've still never found another dog w/ more soul and more heart than she did. She never used to stray from our house (probably bc she had seen the pains of what it was like to be out on her own w/ nothing and then coming to such a great home and being loved) but one night she just didn't come home to our calls. (she was a strictly outdoor dog. We live far from the road and have plenty of woods and fields for running etc) My brothers, sister, mom and dad and I were hysterical and went out looking for hours. My dad finally made us go on to bed. We all went to bed but didn't sleep.(atleast I couldn't) The next morning I raced down to look in her dog house expecting to see her snoozing there like many, many days before. But she wasn't there. We went on to school only to come home to find that our Midnight's dog house had been taken off our patio and was no where to be found. A note was inside from my mom asking me to call her. So I did and she told me that dad had found her this morning on the road and rushed her to the vet. She died just barely before she made it there. The vet still looked her over and told us that she had bled to death and that if whomever had hit her had only had the heart to stop and let us know they hit her she would have survived. I've never gotten over it. Ever. I blame myself, just like you. What if I had gone on and kept looking and found her?? She could have lived.. Life's not fair and sometimes doesn't make sense to us.. Since then I think about her all the time and sometimes wonder whether I should be allowed to have the animals I have in my life.. I mean, what if I put them at risk too? You can't blame yourself. It's totally human to grieve and love your Lexy as much as you do. She isn't upset w/ you and is probably playing around w/ my midnight as we speak. God will heal your wounds. As far as me, the only way I've been able to deal with it is that I pick up and place stray dogs as often as I can. I've picked up over a dozen different dogs and either tracked their owners down and returned them or found them new homes all together. Sometimes things happen in our lives that open our eyes to bigger things we have to do. You have every right to have and love your other two babies. We may not even know it but sometimes God puts obsticles in our way just so we can push on through and appriciate even more the things we've had along. He's always got a plan for us. And for your Lexy. You'll be in my prayers. Take care.
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