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lyricandme · 06-09-2005, 07:47 PM

This just makes me want to cry! I don't even have any good advice because this makes me angry! I know that you will make all the best choices! I could never hurt my baby! We don't hurt those that we love, right? Good luck to you and I am going to say an extra prayer for that poor puppy!

LvMyYorki · 06-09-2005, 07:54 PM

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Originally Posted by ingallsra

It's amazing how well you think you know someone until one day......
My advise is to take the puppy if the husband offers it, and back away from your friend for a while. What she did, not to mention the condition she's leaving the dog in, is bordering on abuse. She is in the wrong--not you. If she can't take some constructive criticism from someone she's known for so long, then maybe she's not such a great friend after all. This might sound harsh, but in the same situation, I would be more concerned about the puppy than the friendship. She is responsible for her behavior and actions--you don't have to make excuses for her. Your reaction was justified. This goes against what some other people are saying, but it's just my opinion.

Good luck, and please keep us posted!

You took the words right out of my mouth!

I know that you have been friends for a very long time, but people change. I am so passionate about animals that I don't know what I would have done if someone that I thought was my friend hit their pet! You controlled yourslef so much better than I would have and I commend you for that.... This is totally just me, but I don't care how long I had known someone, if they were capable of hitting an animal, any animal, I would have to think that this is not someone that I could trust. I don't trust people that hit animals. Period. Friendhips are based on trust. I think what she is doing is abuse... first she didnt take him to the vet and now she hits him? Grrrr!

Mydogkelsey · 06-09-2005, 07:55 PM

Oh no!

That is the saddest thing! Im so sorry!

ZoeysMom2005 · 06-09-2005, 07:58 PM

Well i called her at 10pm and she was still upset with me. i asked her how the puppy was doing and she told me he was still a pain in the a**

but i let that comment go. but i did tell her i will help her if she wanted me too and she flat out and told me well what the h*** why don't you take him. i told her i'll take him. then she told me i was wrong for yelling at her and telling her what to do. i did apologize for yelling at her but i didn't tell her what to do i just told her how i felt. so now she was saying she don't know if she wants him so she will let me know. i even told her to try to train him she told me she has no time but she is going to try. she told me she just has a lot on her mind right now, so i told her to take it easy and just take it day by day. But she said she is going to talk to her husband to see what they are both going to do. so i guess i'll have to wait and see.. but i'll keep you all posted..

Mydogkelsey · 06-09-2005, 08:03 PM

I really feel like that poor dog doesnt want to be with her...i can't believe she would treat her dog that way! Obviously she doesn't love it or care about it enough...if shes going to abuse the poor thing. Your story makes me want to cry! I hope you get the dog, even if she changes her ways..that poor dog is scared for life!

txshopper73 · 06-09-2005, 08:15 PM

That poor puppy!

I hope that you will work things out with your friend and that you can have the pup. And to hit the dog in the head? I'm sorry but their little heads don't have a lot of scull to protect their brains. She could cause some serious brain damage and that's dam* right WRONG!!!

kindness_001 · 06-09-2005, 08:16 PM

You are a good friend but a bit of advice don't put her poor hubby in the middle of your arugement. It will only make things worse. Hopefully she will give you the dog. Throwing things at him is not the answer.

lily's mom · 06-09-2005, 08:18 PM

PLEASE, take the puppy!!!! If you can't keep it, I'm sure someone else can. It deserves to be loved and spoiled not fearful!!!!!

kindness_001 · 06-09-2005, 08:25 PM

You are a good friend but a bit of advice don't put her poor hubby in the middle of your arugement. It will only make things worse. Hopefully she will give you the dog. Throwing things at him is not the answer.

Brittie123 · 06-09-2005, 08:45 PM

I think you did the right thing, if someone hit a dog in front of me I would have had the same reaction, although probably would not have been able to keep my cool as well as you did! I don't understand why people get dogs if they aren't going to love them like family??

Cookie2 · 06-09-2005, 08:53 PM

I just read your post and I just covered my mouth with both hands OMG. You deffinately did the right thing! Dear Lord if anyone did that to one of my dogs I'd split their front lip open. That got me so upset! I think she might probably get pissed off when you try to explain that what she is doing is wrong. I would probably sit down and type a very long and loving letter and let her know that maybe you could take the dog and she can still visit. No bad feelings.
It's very ,very hard once a dog pees when you call them.It can take months but the dog will come around and be one of the most loving pets you'd ever have. One of the main reasons why pets pee everywhere is because they have never been trained in one room.You cant expect a dog to walk through several rooms and know that the pee pad is 700 feet away! I'm sorry for flipping out but I love mydogs so much. Just thinking of someone hitting them with a shoe, Iwould totally lose it...

Genie

chewysmom · 06-09-2005, 09:02 PM

Don't give this girl time to think!!! If you are in a position to take the dog and she will give it to you, go over tomorrow and pick him up!!!!! You will give this doggie the love and comfort he needs. I've been thinking about you all evening, I even talked about this with a friend tonight and she said "well I'll take the doggie if they don't want him" I hope you can resolve this situation and I hope your friend can get the help she needs. Even though I feel awful for this pup, I feel bad that your friend is resorting to hurting another living being. Hopeflly she can get some help and this could be a learning experience for her. let us all know what happens...

ZoeysMom2005 · 06-09-2005, 09:05 PM

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Originally Posted by kindness_001

You are a good friend but a bit of advice don't put her poor hubby in the middle of your arugement. It will only make things worse. Hopefully she will give you the dog. Throwing things at him is not the answer.

I didn't put her husband in it, he called me after she told him what had happend. he told me he knew something was wrong because we didn't call each other, we use to talk on the phone at least 2 times a day. but i did explain to him what really happened because he asked my side of it and he was upset. he told me he noticed she was being mean to the dog but he didn't want to tell her anything.

Missy's Mommy · 06-09-2005, 10:23 PM

That is so sad, I feel so bad for her little puppy. I really hope she calls you soon and tells you, you can have him. Please keep us posted, I'll keep my fingers crossed

sshaw · 06-10-2005, 03:21 AM

I would do anything to get that puppy. I would not worry to much about her feelings. Some people should just not have kids or animals.

Sue

06-09-2005, 07:47 PM	#16
lyricandme YT Addict Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: Tucson, Arizona Posts: 288	This just makes me want to cry! I don't even have any good advice because this makes me angry! I know that you will make all the best choices! I could never hurt my baby! We don't hurt those that we love, right? Good luck to you and I am going to say an extra prayer for that poor puppy! __________________ SHELLEY AND ROCKY BALBOA http://www.dogster.com/pet_page.php?i=149351

06-09-2005, 07:55 PM	#18
Mydogkelsey YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Mar 2005 Location: Orlando, Fl. Posts: 1,133	Oh no! That is the saddest thing! Im so sorry! __________________ R.I.P. Amy girl 01/06/06

06-09-2005, 08:03 PM	#20
Mydogkelsey YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Mar 2005 Location: Orlando, Fl. Posts: 1,133	I really feel like that poor dog doesnt want to be with her...i can't believe she would treat her dog that way! Obviously she doesn't love it or care about it enough...if shes going to abuse the poor thing. Your story makes me want to cry! I hope you get the dog, even if she changes her ways..that poor dog is scared for life! __________________ R.I.P. Amy girl 01/06/06

06-09-2005, 08:15 PM	#21
txshopper73 Donating YT 14K Club Member Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: Texas Posts: 14,226 Blog Entries: 1	That poor puppy! I hope that you will work things out with your friend and that you can have the pup. And to hit the dog in the head? I'm sorry but their little heads don't have a lot of scull to protect their brains. She could cause some serious brain damage and that's dam* right WRONG!!! Last edited by txshopper73; 06-09-2005 at 08:17 PM.

06-09-2005, 08:16 PM	#22
kindness_001 Yorkies LUV never grows old Join Date: Sep 2004 Location: Owensville,In.47665 Posts: 889	You are a good friend but a bit of advice don't put her poor hubby in the middle of your arugement. It will only make things worse. Hopefully she will give you the dog. Throwing things at him is not the answer. __________________ Megan, Killer, Cocoa Latte, and Ebony Lousie

06-09-2005, 07:58 PM	#19
ZoeysMom2005 YT Addict Join Date: Mar 2005 Location: New York City Posts: 369	Well i called her at 10pm and she was still upset with me. i asked her how the puppy was doing and she told me he was still a pain in the a but i let that comment go. but i did tell her i will help her if she wanted me too and she flat out and told me well what the h* why don't you take him. i told her i'll take him. then she told me i was wrong for yelling at her and telling her what to do. i did apologize for yelling at her but i didn't tell her what to do i just told her how i felt. so now she was saying she don't know if she wants him so she will let me know. i even told her to try to train him she told me she has no time but she is going to try. she told me she just has a lot on her mind right now, so i told her to take it easy and just take it day by day. But she said she is going to talk to her husband to see what they are both going to do. so i guess i'll have to wait and see.. but i'll keep you all posted..

06-09-2005, 08:18 PM	#23
lily's mom Lily Loves Maximus Donating Member Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: Missouri Posts: 2,633	PLEASE, take the puppy!!!! If you can't keep it, I'm sure someone else can. It deserves to be loved and spoiled not fearful!!!!! __________________ Lily and Dawn

06-09-2005, 08:25 PM	#24
kindness_001 Yorkies LUV never grows old Join Date: Sep 2004 Location: Owensville,In.47665 Posts: 889	You are a good friend but a bit of advice don't put her poor hubby in the middle of your arugement. It will only make things worse. Hopefully she will give you the dog. Throwing things at him is not the answer. __________________ Megan, Killer, Cocoa Latte, and Ebony Lousie

06-09-2005, 08:45 PM	#25
Brittie123 No Longer a Member Join Date: Jul 2004 Location: Atlanta, GA Posts: 288	I think you did the right thing, if someone hit a dog in front of me I would have had the same reaction, although probably would not have been able to keep my cool as well as you did! I don't understand why people get dogs if they aren't going to love them like family??

06-09-2005, 08:53 PM	#26
Cookie2 Donating YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Aug 2004 Location: Florida Posts: 1,568	I just read your post and I just covered my mouth with both hands OMG. You deffinately did the right thing! Dear Lord if anyone did that to one of my dogs I'd split their front lip open. That got me so upset! I think she might probably get pissed off when you try to explain that what she is doing is wrong. I would probably sit down and type a very long and loving letter and let her know that maybe you could take the dog and she can still visit. No bad feelings. It's very ,very hard once a dog pees when you call them.It can take months but the dog will come around and be one of the most loving pets you'd ever have. One of the main reasons why pets pee everywhere is because they have never been trained in one room.You cant expect a dog to walk through several rooms and know that the pee pad is 700 feet away! I'm sorry for flipping out but I love mydogs so much. Just thinking of someone hitting them with a shoe, Iwould totally lose it... Genie

06-09-2005, 09:02 PM	#27
chewysmom My Precious Pup Donating Member Join Date: May 2005 Location: New York City Posts: 2,092	Don't give this girl time to think!!! If you are in a position to take the dog and she will give it to you, go over tomorrow and pick him up!!!!! You will give this doggie the love and comfort he needs. I've been thinking about you all evening, I even talked about this with a friend tonight and she said "well I'll take the doggie if they don't want him" I hope you can resolve this situation and I hope your friend can get the help she needs. Even though I feel awful for this pup, I feel bad that your friend is resorting to hurting another living being. Hopeflly she can get some help and this could be a learning experience for her. let us all know what happens...

06-09-2005, 10:23 PM	#29
Missy's Mommy Donating YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Sep 2004 Location: Bay Area, California Posts: 1,042	That is so sad, I feel so bad for her little puppy. I really hope she calls you soon and tells you, you can have him. Please keep us posted, I'll keep my fingers crossed __________________ Jennette Missy & Max

06-10-2005, 03:21 AM	#30
sshaw YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Feb 2005 Location: vestal Posts: 1,289	I would do anything to get that puppy. I would not worry to much about her feelings. Some people should just not have kids or animals. Sue