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09-09-2006, 04:46 AM | #31 |
Yorkie Lover Donating Member | Darlene, I am so very sorry......I will keep you my thoughts/prayers for strength to handle this loss!!
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09-09-2006, 04:59 AM | #32 |
Little Bit & Buttons Donating Member Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: US
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| I am so sorry for yur loss. Praying for peace & comfort for you. |
09-09-2006, 05:05 AM | #33 | |
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09-09-2006, 05:11 AM | #34 |
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| I am so sorry. You are a good mommy and you did what you could. Hugs to you~ |
09-09-2006, 08:04 AM | #35 |
Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Aug 2006 Location: New Jersey
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| You are not a bad mommy, I am sure that Queen Lilly knew and felt all the love you gave her. My prayers are with you and Lilly I am so sorry for your loss.
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09-09-2006, 08:53 AM | #36 |
Donating Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: WA
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| Darlene you are not a bad mommy! I went through this in July when Phoebe passed away very unexpediately. I was denial, really bad. These fur babies come into our lives and they help us and others so much. We go through the good and bad and the silly and the no thats not funny times. I struggled so badly because I thought she had a bladder infection, she went out went potty, trotted back in, got a drink, I put her in her carrier and away we went. I dropped her off at the vet. 25 minutes later the vet calls(not my usual vet, he was off that day) and tells me she has a uterine infection that has penetrated the uterus and is leaking into her abdomen. He then explains that because of her size and the infection she more than likely would not survive the surgery, if she did she would not survive the recovery. WHAT! WHAT! WHAT! she did not appear that sick how could I have missed this? I was given 15 minutes to make a decsion on what to do. I did what I thought was right and let her go. But everything you mentioned I went through I had those feelings. You did nothing wrong! Sorry to go on about this but I just wanted you to know that you are not a bad mommy!!! It took me a while, but in order to heal I made a memorial where we buried Phoebe. I found a plant that blooms pink bells, we put a stone with a P, put an angel looking over a child that was praying there. Take some time, allow yourself to grieve I will keep you in my prayers.
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09-09-2006, 10:06 AM | #37 | |
Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: gilroy Ca
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thank you for the very heartfelt poem.....thank you all ....Im on my way to take some stuff thats going with her when she gets crimated ,am I a bad mommy for not wanting to see her lifeless body??? I was up all night thinking and just staring at her pictures oh dear I cant stop crying and her toys are all over my house and has her scent oh I dont know what will I do........so...theyre going to crimate her this afternoon and my friend arraged evrything for me I dont know if I can do this and take her home ..........
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09-09-2006, 10:14 AM | #38 |
Donating Yorkie Yakker Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: Greeley CO
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| Darlene, I haven't been on for awhile and just caught your post. I'm so sorry for your loss. Why is it that we always want to put blame on ourselves! You did what you thought was best for your baby as anyof us would have done. We all make decisions at times and I'm sure you felt it was the right one and I believe that it was. I would have done the same. It's so hard because we feel so totally responsible because we had it in our hands. The fact of the matter is, you baby is where God wanted that baby to be...For whatever reason! NOW, STOP BLAMING YOURSELF. Your are not the bad guy here. I believe you loved that baby with all your heart and now you are entitled to grieve, but you are not entitled to blame yourself. That baby wouldn't want you to do that. It would hurt her/him terribly to watch you. Remember, the spirit of your little furbaby is all around you still. Watching and loving you. Please be gentle with yourself and thank the Lord for the time you had together here on earth and wait, yes wait patiently until you meet again FOREVER, AND EVER AND EVER. God Bless You Dear, Dollie's Mom
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09-09-2006, 10:32 AM | #39 |
Love The Verminator! Donating Member Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: ny
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| Darlene, we all handle shock and grief differently. There is no good or bad. Almost 30 years ago I saw my cat get hit by a car. He was trying to get off the road and as I was running to help him, I saw my neighbor purposly cross the road and hit him again. I got there and he was still alive but couldn't move. I was a basket case and my neighbors were kind enough to take him to the vet to be taken out of his pain because I couldn't face doing that. I had another cat that was extremely ill. The vet called, gave me the findings, and not knowing what to do, I asked his opinion. It was to take him away from his pain. I said OK. I was bawling like a baby thru this phone call and when asked if I wanted to be there, again, I couldn't face it. They did assure me he wouldn't know, he was heavily sedated. So they took care of it and my Dad had to pick him up and bury him for me. To this day, I feel guilty and keep thinking "what if". But I don't think I was a bad Mommy. Things happen, and we can't change them, no matter how hard we want to. The only thing we can do is to remember that we loved them as much as we could and did everything in our power to keep them safe and healthy. Everything after that is up to God. You were, still are, and always will be the best Mommy you can to any of God's creatures that you are blessed to call your own.
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09-09-2006, 10:38 AM | #40 |
Donating YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: west long branch, n.j.
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| My heart goes out to you. You can find solice in the fact that you did everything you possibley do for her. |
09-09-2006, 11:09 AM | #41 |
YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: NC
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| I am so very sorry about your Lily. My heart goes out to you. I do know how you feel. There really isn't much I can say that will make you truly feel better but trust me that it gets better with time. Just hang in there. Sometimes a memorial service can really help you. My daughter and I did a very small, simple one when we lost our girl last year. It did help us both. Best wishes, |
09-09-2006, 11:26 AM | #42 |
Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Mar 2004 Location: Oklahoma
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| tears from Oklahoma Bless your heart.....we are so sorry about Lily.....we send our tears of compassion to you as you say goodbye to your sweet baby.
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09-09-2006, 11:47 AM | #43 | |
I Love My Lil' Punkin's Donating Member | My decision.... Quote:
In the end it is entirely your decision, and I pray that you have strength in whatever you choose to do. God Bless sweetheart.
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09-09-2006, 12:21 PM | #44 |
YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: michigan
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| I hope this helps you and your pain.. ON THE WINGS OF A PRAYER ON the Wings of Prayer, our burdens take flight And our load of care, becomes bearably light, And our heavy hearts are lifted above To be healed by the balm, of God's wonderful love. And the tears in our eyes, are dried by the hands of our loving Father, who understands. All of problems, our fears and despair. When we take them to Him on The Wings of Prayer by helen stiener rice from us to you..GOD BLESS..
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09-09-2006, 12:31 PM | #45 |
Owned by 3 furbabies Donating Member Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: Reading, Pennsylvania
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| i am so sorry for your loss, sending hugs to you r.i.p. Lilly
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