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Annabelles_mom · 05-19-2006, 04:34 PM

Ok, this Monday, at 2:00 pm Central Time to be exact, I get to pick up my new Yorkie baby, Annabelle.

Well, I just found out my stepdaughter (7 years old) is coming tonight to stay with us for the summer (she was suppose to come in 2 weeks).

Anyway, I am upset because I wanted to have some time ALONE with Annabelle. I have been searching for a puppy for 2 YEARS and my day has finally come. My stepdaughter has been very spoiled and absolutely DOES NOT listen to me, so when I tell her to put Annabelle down, or don't take her out of her crate because I am training her, she is not going to listen. I have been in a horrible mood since last night when I found out she is coming today.

I am not selfish, I just want MY puppy to be MY puppy. Now, I know my stepdaughter will make it hard for me. I am not a very good stepmother, I guess.

And to top it all off, I am in the Army National Guard (12 years so far) and I have drill this weekend in which we are going to pretend like we are responding to a hurricane (Louisiana, hint hint). So, my weekend is going to be a lot of hard work!
I can't whine to anyone else but you guys.

Patti · 05-19-2006, 05:13 PM

That stinks! I'm sorry I know it must be hard with a stepchild. I would just let her know that this is not a toy and she is never to pick her up without supervision and sitting down. Hopefully she will be easier to deal with once she sees the puppy. I am a softie but not when it comes to my dogs! Istill yell at my 20 year old dtr for carrying Cali with out holding her tight! I hope it works out. I hope you get some rest after your weekend!

Princessyorkies · 05-19-2006, 05:17 PM

Oh I feel for you as I have three step children and it has been a pain in my butt. It's all good now as the years have gone by.
But your husband needs to put his foot down with this spoiled child.

LuvMySissy · 05-19-2006, 05:21 PM

I feel for you. You will definitely need to be firm with both your stepdaughter and your husband. These pups are fragile. I won't let a little child pick up my baby. They can only sit on the floor and she can crawl in their lap, but that is all. If they drop her, she can die. And she can be very squirmy when excited. That is the reality - so just let them both know in no uncertain terms that what you say is law - or they don't every touch the puppy again!

Annabelles_mom · 05-19-2006, 05:41 PM

Thank y'all for the support. I was afraid people would think I am an evil stepmother. But even the most loving mother would take one minute of Hannah, and say "get this kid away from me!" And my husband lets her get away with murder because she is not here that much. She still sleeps in bed with us. So, I started sleeping in her room because there is only so much I can take. He says she is sleeping in her room this summer, but we will see about that. I guess I won't have to worry about getting pregnant this summer since I will be sleeping upstairs!

But I have been telling Hannah about how fragile the puppy will be and that she can only hold her while sitting, and she understands.

God willing, it will all work out!

Katys mom · 05-19-2006, 05:42 PM

Why not wait until Monday when you can spend more time with Anabelle to pick her up? This way she is not left in your step daughters hands?

Annabelles_mom · 05-19-2006, 05:47 PM

Monday is when the breeder said I could come get her.

winnismom · 05-19-2006, 05:58 PM

Use some sort of reward system with her. Go to the dollar store and stock up on lots of cheap fun stuff for kids. Everyday she has a good day and listens to your rules and follows them she gets to pick out of the magic bag! Good Luck and congrats on your new furbaby.

Patti · 05-19-2006, 06:14 PM

Winnismom has a great idea. I always used the reward system with my dtr and she is 20 and a real good kid and values money since she had to earn it with good behaviour.

Annabelles_mom · 05-19-2006, 06:20 PM

I think I will do that. She responds well to positive reinforcement. And she loves getting stuff.

Katys mom · 05-19-2006, 06:31 PM

I missed that. I saw the weekend drill and assumed the weekend. Sorry

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Originally Posted by Annabelles_mom

Monday is when the breeder said I could come get her.

GeorgiesMomma · 05-19-2006, 06:43 PM

Make it fun for her with Annabelle, allow her to help you with her some. Sometimes it's actually great to have a child around you can send them on poop patrol LOL. My niece (10) helps out a lot with Georgie especially at bath time and when we feed him. I know she enjoys him (grant it she is a sweetheart anyways) being around. Just make it rewarding for her this may help you and her bond with each other. I understand your frustration and I would be very unhappy if my fiance' had a child that got away with everything, but I think it can all work out. Again just try to make her apart of everything trust me Annabelle will know who Mommy is Georgie doesn't want to leave my side even if my niece is around

Latuya · 05-19-2006, 07:14 PM

You know what,,,, If I would have read this 2 years ago, I would have a total different outlook on the whole thing. I love kids and usually can deal with spoiled brats. But now that I have Cherish, (my niece) I totally understand where your coming from. It is so hard. I have her to where she know what she can and can't get away with. Luckily I got her when she was still very young. She had just turned 2 and man oh man was she BAD even for a 2 year old! But after her being here a year and a half, she can still act up from time to time but knows auntie Moca don't play around. I love her to no end and I have to realize what she's been through but believe me it's been really hard!

About the new puppy, I had to lay down the law here. But again, Cherish was still very young, your step daughter seems to be a bit older. I would have a heart to heart with dad. Best of luck to you!

oh and BTW,,, CONGRATULATIONS!!!

CPG · 05-19-2006, 07:38 PM

You can explain to her that she's like a baby and will be mostly eating and sleeping, but you'll need her help in looking in on the puppy occassionally, not bothering it, picking it up, etc... but just making sure it's still breathing and also let her pick out a special toy from her to the puppy. I have an 11 year old son and he said to not let her get too involved, because then she'd think she was more in charge than she should be, and she might bother her more. But, if you didn't include her somehow, she might resent the puppy and maybe hurt her.

Hopefully, you can come to a Happy understanding between the 3 of you. Where will your Step-Daughter be during the day? Will you be home or your husband? If not, can you take the puppy with you in it's crate. It's a great way to start crate training - you could use that as your reason for taking her.

chattiesmom · 05-19-2006, 07:49 PM

The pup will be fine, sounds like your stepdaughter could use some crate training, though.

good luck and contragulations on Annabelle

05-19-2006, 04:34 PM	#1
Annabelles_mom No Longer a Member Join Date: May 2006 Location: Louisiana Posts: 314	New puppy vs. stepdaughter Ok, this Monday, at 2:00 pm Central Time to be exact, I get to pick up my new Yorkie baby, Annabelle. Well, I just found out my stepdaughter (7 years old) is coming tonight to stay with us for the summer (she was suppose to come in 2 weeks). Anyway, I am upset because I wanted to have some time ALONE with Annabelle. I have been searching for a puppy for 2 YEARS and my day has finally come. My stepdaughter has been very spoiled and absolutely DOES NOT listen to me, so when I tell her to put Annabelle down, or don't take her out of her crate because I am training her, she is not going to listen. I have been in a horrible mood since last night when I found out she is coming today. I am not selfish, I just want MY puppy to be MY puppy. Now, I know my stepdaughter will make it hard for me. I am not a very good stepmother, I guess. And to top it all off, I am in the Army National Guard (12 years so far) and I have drill this weekend in which we are going to pretend like we are responding to a hurricane (Louisiana, hint hint). So, my weekend is going to be a lot of hard work! I can't whine to anyone else but you guys.

05-19-2006, 05:13 PM	#2
Patti Donating YT 30K Club Member Join Date: Oct 2005 Location: Illinois Posts: 35,509 Blog Entries: 6	That stinks! I'm sorry I know it must be hard with a stepchild. I would just let her know that this is not a toy and she is never to pick her up without supervision and sitting down. Hopefully she will be easier to deal with once she sees the puppy. I am a softie but not when it comes to my dogs! Istill yell at my 20 year old dtr for carrying Cali with out holding her tight! I hope it works out. I hope you get some rest after your weekend! __________________ Cali Pixie Roxie : RIP Nikki; RIP Maya;RIP my sweet Dixie girl 1/17/08 http://callipuppyscastle.bravehost.com/index.html

05-19-2006, 05:21 PM	#4
LuvMySissy Luv my Angel, too! Donating Member Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: USA Posts: 9,333	I feel for you. You will definitely need to be firm with both your stepdaughter and your husband. These pups are fragile. I won't let a little child pick up my baby. They can only sit on the floor and she can crawl in their lap, but that is all. If they drop her, she can die. And she can be very squirmy when excited. That is the reality - so just let them both know in no uncertain terms that what you say is law - or they don't every touch the puppy again! __________________ Sissy & Angel

05-19-2006, 06:14 PM	#9
Patti Donating YT 30K Club Member Join Date: Oct 2005 Location: Illinois Posts: 35,509 Blog Entries: 6	Winnismom has a great idea. I always used the reward system with my dtr and she is 20 and a real good kid and values money since she had to earn it with good behaviour. __________________ Cali Pixie Roxie : RIP Nikki; RIP Maya;RIP my sweet Dixie girl 1/17/08 http://callipuppyscastle.bravehost.com/index.html

05-19-2006, 06:43 PM	#12
GeorgiesMomma I love TBCG! Donating Member Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: MD Posts: 7,227	Make it fun for her with Annabelle, allow her to help you with her some. Sometimes it's actually great to have a child around you can send them on poop patrol LOL. My niece (10) helps out a lot with Georgie especially at bath time and when we feed him. I know she enjoys him (grant it she is a sweetheart anyways) being around. Just make it rewarding for her this may help you and her bond with each other. I understand your frustration and I would be very unhappy if my fiance' had a child that got away with everything, but I think it can all work out. Again just try to make her apart of everything trust me Annabelle will know who Mommy is Georgie doesn't want to leave my side even if my niece is around __________________ Morgan Mommy toGeorgie boy & Isaiah RIP sweet Coco 10/12/99-8/1/12 Read About Georgie's Experience with Atlantoaxial Instability (AAI) Here!

05-19-2006, 05:17 PM	#3
Princessyorkies Owned by my Furbabies Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Ohio Posts: 1,482	Oh I feel for you as I have three step children and it has been a pain in my butt. It's all good now as the years have gone by. But your husband needs to put his foot down with this spoiled child.

05-19-2006, 05:41 PM	#5
Annabelles_mom No Longer a Member Join Date: May 2006 Location: Louisiana Posts: 314	Thank y'all for the support. I was afraid people would think I am an evil stepmother. But even the most loving mother would take one minute of Hannah, and say "get this kid away from me!" And my husband lets her get away with murder because she is not here that much. She still sleeps in bed with us. So, I started sleeping in her room because there is only so much I can take. He says she is sleeping in her room this summer, but we will see about that. I guess I won't have to worry about getting pregnant this summer since I will be sleeping upstairs! But I have been telling Hannah about how fragile the puppy will be and that she can only hold her while sitting, and she understands. God willing, it will all work out!

05-19-2006, 05:42 PM	#6
Katys mom I love yorkie kisses Donating Member Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: Oklahoma Posts: 1,751	Why not wait until Monday when you can spend more time with Anabelle to pick her up? This way she is not left in your step daughters hands?

05-19-2006, 05:47 PM	#7
Annabelles_mom No Longer a Member Join Date: May 2006 Location: Louisiana Posts: 314	Monday is when the breeder said I could come get her.

05-19-2006, 05:58 PM	#8
winnismom Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: May 2005 Posts: 223	Use some sort of reward system with her. Go to the dollar store and stock up on lots of cheap fun stuff for kids. Everyday she has a good day and listens to your rules and follows them she gets to pick out of the magic bag! Good Luck and congrats on your new furbaby.

05-19-2006, 06:20 PM	#10
Annabelles_mom No Longer a Member Join Date: May 2006 Location: Louisiana Posts: 314	I think I will do that. She responds well to positive reinforcement. And she loves getting stuff.

05-19-2006, 07:14 PM	#13
Latuya YT 3000 Club Member Join Date: Jun 2005 Location: Rialto CA Posts: 3,243	You know what,,,, If I would have read this 2 years ago, I would have a total different outlook on the whole thing. I love kids and usually can deal with spoiled brats. But now that I have Cherish, (my niece) I totally understand where your coming from. It is so hard. I have her to where she know what she can and can't get away with. Luckily I got her when she was still very young. She had just turned 2 and man oh man was she BAD even for a 2 year old! But after her being here a year and a half, she can still act up from time to time but knows auntie Moca don't play around. I love her to no end and I have to realize what she's been through but believe me it's been really hard! About the new puppy, I had to lay down the law here. But again, Cherish was still very young, your step daughter seems to be a bit older. I would have a heart to heart with dad. Best of luck to you! oh and BTW,,, CONGRATULATIONS!!! __________________ Monica, Proud mom of Gus who is forever missed! And new mom to Leiloni Gus's Dogster page

05-19-2006, 07:38 PM	#14
CPG Donating Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: Austin, TX Posts: 193	It Won't Be Easy, bust since she's a girl, that will help You can explain to her that she's like a baby and will be mostly eating and sleeping, but you'll need her help in looking in on the puppy occassionally, not bothering it, picking it up, etc... but just making sure it's still breathing and also let her pick out a special toy from her to the puppy. I have an 11 year old son and he said to not let her get too involved, because then she'd think she was more in charge than she should be, and she might bother her more. But, if you didn't include her somehow, she might resent the puppy and maybe hurt her. Hopefully, you can come to a Happy understanding between the 3 of you. Where will your Step-Daughter be during the day? Will you be home or your husband? If not, can you take the puppy with you in it's crate. It's a great way to start crate training - you could use that as your reason for taking her.

05-19-2006, 07:49 PM	#15
chattiesmom Donating YT 10K Club Member Join Date: Jul 2004 Location: Alabama Posts: 17,674	The pup will be fine, sounds like your stepdaughter could use some crate training, though. good luck and contragulations on Annabelle __________________ Silk Step-In Harnesses www.foxypups.etsy.com