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rrosenberry · 02-25-2006, 08:13 AM

Claire~
Your post here touched me,and I do know what your saying,and it's not a good feeling.
I too have felt that, we all have at sometime, but there is so much good here, you can't take it personally. Even today after thousands of post, there are times I post something or pics, and it gets few hits, but it is so random here, sometimes there are tons of people online but not POSTERS, or it makes a difference how you word your title, to get peoples attention, or intrigue them enough to make them want to see what your talking about.
Don't give up sweetie, I have been there when I first joined, but it takes time. I for one will look at all your posts, I promise.

Rhonda

adunn · 02-25-2006, 08:41 AM

Thank you, this is something that needed to be said. I am new to this forum and have not posted some questions because I have read some threads that have gotten nasty and a little out of hand. This is a place where we can ask anything we are wondering about without worrying about backlash. Isn't that what it is for? Thank you for your honesty and all of your hard work!

LaviniaHyacynth · 02-25-2006, 09:09 AM

Claire, Please don't feel bad. I, for one, have followed your threads...I do not always respond because as someone said earlier...I just don't have anything that I think is useful to say. But I do admire your strength and courage...you have been going through so much but your voice stands out on here as someone who is strong and will prevail. I am so sorry that you have felt unwanted...I think we all feel that way when no one responds and it happens to all of us. Try not to take it personally..you would be missed if you stopped posting.

YorkieRose · 02-25-2006, 09:48 AM

Kathryn...you do not respond because you do not always have anything useful to say...me either, but it never stopped me from running off at the mouth!!LOL

Claire..and I might add I love your name..I have a lovely Yorkie named Claire..
Please come and talk anytime..it is so good to have friends when you are a new mom. It takes time to meet people..hang in there.

Amanda7 · 02-25-2006, 09:59 AM

Hi Claire - just read your post and wanted to say that I am new here as well. Sometimes it's a little intimidating to join an established forum where people have been friends for a long time. But from what I have seen and read, the majority of people here are genuinely kind and helpful. They have welcomed me warmly and made me feel wanted. (which I appreciate!) And now I extend that same welcome to you. If you ever want to talk and/or vent, please feel free to pm me. I may not reply immediately, (if I'm not online), but I will respond as soon as I log on. Remember - the reason we are here is that we ADORE our yorkies! That is something we ALL have in common. Cheers everyone!

YorkieRini · 02-25-2006, 10:22 AM

Claire, You sound like such a sweet person. I can related because I take things personally. Because I try so hard to be a nice person to others. It is a let down when we don't get back what we give. Hang around. There are many many nice loving people here. That's why I stay. Anytime I feel down they pick me right back up. Hopefully this thread helped you get picked back up. Congrats on that new baby!

General statement:
This thread is full of wonderful loving people. Those that are good hearted and kind. Many of you have replied nicely to my posts and some have even PMed me. I love reading this thread. It needs to be a sticky IMO. Some of us could have used it a day or two ago.

Out of all the members here I hope there will be more posting. This thread had over 2k views but less than 100 replies.

Claire · 02-25-2006, 10:31 AM

Thanks to all for the very kind words.

I just had a "light bulb" moment after a wonderful PM I just recieved.

I am feeling down in the dumps and I took all the going's on here way too much to heart. I have gotten some great advice here and I have had alot of fun. I think what is needed is a short break from YT to regain my thoughts about myself so that I can have fun again. I need to take some time to take a long hard look at myself and my selfconfidance. I think that after a year long struggle I am finally in mourning over my many losses. I am going to take the free time that I have during the day, for the next few days, and instead of logging on to YT I am going to take a good hard look at myself and I am going to mourn. I am going to spend some time just being Claire and taking stock of my life.
Thank you for your outpouring of love an support! It made me feel so loved and wanted!
See ya in a few days!

red98vett · 02-25-2006, 02:52 PM

There you go....that sounds like a Plan...I'm glad you spoke up Claire ...Sometimes things just need to be said and you did a great job sharing your feelings.

I'm looking forward to getting to know you

and hope your baby feels better...

JeanieK · 02-25-2006, 05:27 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Claire

I don't either and I have been here for over a year.

I got PM'd by someone who wanted to be friends, I Pm'd them back and then never heard from them again.... this has happened 2 times, Sure does make me feel like I'm doing something wrong!
I'm a lonley single 27 year old with a newborn baby and a young furbaby. I think that the only reason why I am on YT anymore is because I don't have anywhere else to be and because I need advice and really have no where else to turn at times. You know, I was always "that girl" in High school, that girl who was never asked to the dances, that girl who was not popular, that girl who was expected to repeat the 12th grade. I was the only girl in the WHOLE class that was not included in the sweet 16 dance because they "forgot" about me... I hate feeling like I am in High School all over again.
I posted recently about a mild problem that I was having with Gracie and do you know what the 1 responce was, "ask your vet, I don't know"... someone posted with the same problem 2 days later and got 27 responces. All of it honest good advice. It really makes me feel unwanted here.
I do have to add, that there has been some random acts of kindness here, and I am gratefull for that, but I still feel unwanted.... Maybe I'm making too much of something, maybe not. I just feel this way.
Thanks for letting me get this off of my chest.
I'm glad that this thread was started.

Hi Claire, It's apparent that you have come to the right place because obviously none of us have anything better to do than to talk about our Yorkies.

I didn't feel too welcome right after my first post either, but I took the good Advice out of the responses, then just took the rest with grain of salt.

One thing I have learned is that Yorkie people are very passionate about their beliefs, and for every question there will be conflicting responses.

The one thing we all agree on is "Nothing beats a Yorkie".

I have daughters your age, (with babies) and you can PM me anytime.

Jeanie

kim_yorkiemom · 02-25-2006, 07:01 PM

Yes, thank you, thank you, thank you - for this reminder to leave off the personal judgments and stick to the actual topic of the posts. The rudeness in criticizing members on a personal level, for example, for having less-than-clear typing and/or english/grammar skills, is totally unnecessary. Respect is key! Nobody deserves to be openly embarrassed. Responding to the new YT members' posts & questions is important for morale too - even if the long-term members have seen those threads hundreds of times. Everyone was new at one point.

Snow Yorkies · 03-15-2006, 11:20 AM

Just reading some of the posts today I think we need a reminder here!!

So, I am bumping this back up!

mustangbee · 03-15-2006, 11:24 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Snow Yorkies

Just reading some of the posts today I think we need a reminder here!!

So, I am bumping this back up!

GOOD IDEA!!!!!

BUMP
BUMP
BUMP

Storm · 03-15-2006, 11:25 AM

Thank you so very much for posting this. I'm a relatively new member and I have to admit that I have been a little scared to post any threads with questions for fear of getting rude comments.

BamaFan121s · 03-15-2006, 11:31 AM

I concur!

Nikko's_human · 03-15-2006, 11:32 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Storm

Thank you so very much for posting this. I'm a relatively new member and I have to admit that I have been a little scared to post any threads with questions for fear of getting rude comments.

In the beginning I must admit I was a bit intimidated as well. There are people that are so passionate about their opinions that they don't realize they come across as condescending to other people. This is a wonderful forum, full of useful information and many great people. We must all remain respectful of one another. Let us remember what brings us all here in the first place, the love of yorkies!!

02-25-2006, 08:13 AM	#76
rrosenberry & Bailey & Bella Donating Member Join Date: Mar 2005 Location: Ohio Posts: 8,164	Claire~ Your post here touched me,and I do know what your saying,and it's not a good feeling. I too have felt that, we all have at sometime, but there is so much good here, you can't take it personally. Even today after thousands of post, there are times I post something or pics, and it gets few hits, but it is so random here, sometimes there are tons of people online but not POSTERS, or it makes a difference how you word your title, to get peoples attention, or intrigue them enough to make them want to see what your talking about. Don't give up sweetie, I have been there when I first joined, but it takes time. I for one will look at all your posts, I promise. Rhonda __________________ Rhonda, Bailey, Josie and my angel Bella Rue' "Until one has loved an animal, a part of one's soul remains unawakened." ~Anatole France~

02-25-2006, 08:41 AM	#77
adunn Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: brookline, MA Posts: 83	thank you! Thank you, this is something that needed to be said. I am new to this forum and have not posted some questions because I have read some threads that have gotten nasty and a little out of hand. This is a place where we can ask anything we are wondering about without worrying about backlash. Isn't that what it is for? Thank you for your honesty and all of your hard work! __________________ Amy and Lola

02-25-2006, 09:09 AM	#78
LaviniaHyacynth Donating YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: montclair,nj Posts: 925	Claire, Please don't feel bad. I, for one, have followed your threads...I do not always respond because as someone said earlier...I just don't have anything that I think is useful to say. But I do admire your strength and courage...you have been going through so much but your voice stands out on here as someone who is strong and will prevail. I am so sorry that you have felt unwanted...I think we all feel that way when no one responds and it happens to all of us. Try not to take it personally..you would be missed if you stopped posting. __________________ Rest in peace my sweet angel dog, Lavinia Hyacynth, Vivi. I love you forever. Bear healed my broken heart!

02-25-2006, 09:48 AM	#79
YorkieRose No Longer a Member Join Date: Jul 2004 Location: South Florida Posts: 8,577	post Kathryn...you do not respond because you do not always have anything useful to say...me either, but it never stopped me from running off at the mouth!!LOL Claire..and I might add I love your name..I have a lovely Yorkie named Claire.. Please come and talk anytime..it is so good to have friends when you are a new mom. It takes time to meet people..hang in there.

02-25-2006, 09:59 AM	#80
Amanda7 Donating YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: Northern New York Posts: 1,307	Hi Claire - just read your post and wanted to say that I am new here as well. Sometimes it's a little intimidating to join an established forum where people have been friends for a long time. But from what I have seen and read, the majority of people here are genuinely kind and helpful. They have welcomed me warmly and made me feel wanted. (which I appreciate!) And now I extend that same welcome to you. If you ever want to talk and/or vent, please feel free to pm me. I may not reply immediately, (if I'm not online), but I will respond as soon as I log on. Remember - the reason we are here is that we ADORE our yorkies! That is something we ALL have in common. Cheers everyone! __________________ Snickers & Baxter Until one has loved an animal, part of their soul remains unawakened.

02-25-2006, 10:22 AM	#81
YorkieRini Livin' La Yorkie Local Donating Member Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: NE Ohio Posts: 1,607	Claire, You sound like such a sweet person. I can related because I take things personally. Because I try so hard to be a nice person to others. It is a let down when we don't get back what we give. Hang around. There are many many nice loving people here. That's why I stay. Anytime I feel down they pick me right back up. Hopefully this thread helped you get picked back up. Congrats on that new baby! General statement: This thread is full of wonderful loving people. Those that are good hearted and kind. Many of you have replied nicely to my posts and some have even PMed me. I love reading this thread. It needs to be a sticky IMO. Some of us could have used it a day or two ago. Out of all the members here I hope there will be more posting. This thread had over 2k views but less than 100 replies.

02-25-2006, 10:31 AM	#82
Claire YT Addict Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: Louisiana Posts: 484	Thanks to all for the very kind words. I just had a "light bulb" moment after a wonderful PM I just recieved. I am feeling down in the dumps and I took all the going's on here way too much to heart. I have gotten some great advice here and I have had alot of fun. I think what is needed is a short break from YT to regain my thoughts about myself so that I can have fun again. I need to take some time to take a long hard look at myself and my selfconfidance. I think that after a year long struggle I am finally in mourning over my many losses. I am going to take the free time that I have during the day, for the next few days, and instead of logging on to YT I am going to take a good hard look at myself and I am going to mourn. I am going to spend some time just being Claire and taking stock of my life. Thank you for your outpouring of love an support! It made me feel so loved and wanted! See ya in a few days! __________________

02-25-2006, 02:52 PM	#83
red98vett Yorkie Kisses are the Best! Donating Member Join Date: Jul 2004 Location: Houston TX Posts: 33,590 Blog Entries: 1	There you go....that sounds like a Plan...I'm glad you spoke up Claire ...Sometimes things just need to be said and you did a great job sharing your feelings. I'm looking forward to getting to know you and hope your baby feels better... __________________ Villette, Chanel & Cheri www.DesignsByVillette.net Custom Address Labels and Note Cards using YOUR Photos! Just Click HERE!

02-25-2006, 07:01 PM	#85
kim_yorkiemom YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: Texas Posts: 564	much needed reminder Yes, thank you, thank you, thank you - for this reminder to leave off the personal judgments and stick to the actual topic of the posts. The rudeness in criticizing members on a personal level, for example, for having less-than-clear typing and/or english/grammar skills, is totally unnecessary. Respect is key! Nobody deserves to be openly embarrassed. Responding to the new YT members' posts & questions is important for morale too - even if the long-term members have seen those threads hundreds of times. Everyone was new at one point. __________________ Kim, Kensington & Paddington - We miss Wimbley (1990-2001) Fenley, Scully & Barkley born 3/2/06 Pictures of my yorkies

03-15-2006, 11:20 AM	#86
Snow Yorkies Biewer Passionate Donating Member Join Date: Jul 2005 Location: Southern AL Posts: 1,684	Just reading some of the posts today I think we need a reminder here!! So, I am bumping this back up! __________________ Dare to Dream Biewers Charter Member of BAPPC

03-15-2006, 11:25 AM	#88
Storm Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Jacksonville, Florida Posts: 137	Thank you so very much for posting this. I'm a relatively new member and I have to admit that I have been a little scared to post any threads with questions for fear of getting rude comments. __________________ My goal in life is to be as good of a person that my Yorkie already thinks I am.

03-15-2006, 11:31 AM	#89
BamaFan121s Donating YT 10K Club Member Join Date: Oct 2005 Location: Alabama Posts: 11,432	I concur!