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10-25-2016, 01:25 PM | #1 |
Yorkie Talker Join Date: Oct 2016 Location: Festus
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| Puppy hates when I leave. Hi everyone. My little Hope is almost 17 weeks old and I have had her for 6 weeks. I have always worked part time. I have never left her alone because I live with 9 other family and lots of furry buddies for her. Every time I leave for work or somewhere she cant go, she cries hard and has to be held tight by someone at home. She has even darted out the door right after I left when my sister went to get a package. I spend every available moment with her which I'm sure doesn't help I just love her so much though I can't be without her as much as she can't be without me. At the same time I can't stand constantly breaking her heart. What should I do? I wish quitting my job was an option lol. |
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10-25-2016, 03:35 PM | #2 |
YT 500 Club Member | That's really sad. You said you live with 9 people? Are they adults or children? Little ones can be overwhelmed with so much activity. Can make them anxious and nervous. Sounds like she's bonding to you only. Not much you can do if you have to work outside of the house. Is there any way you can take a few weeks off? This is really tough! I feel sad for the puppy. Hopefully you have a place made for her so she can go to her safe place. Best of luck to you.
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10-25-2016, 03:58 PM | #3 |
Yorkie Talker Join Date: Oct 2016 Location: Festus
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| Mostly adults only two children age 8 and 11 all of which she adores so much. She hates being alone. The only time they were ever able to put her in my room by herself is when she had just gotten her shots and she actually slept all alone on mommy's bed. I actually am taking a mini vacation for her next Dr's visit and I will be home for 5 days with her I just hope that doesn't do more harm than good. I feel so bad for her too. She loves everyone she'll love them and kiss them to pieces but always keeping an eye out making sure I don't leave. She even loves strangers and will bark and growl at them to get them to show her attention. She hates not being treated like she's the prettiest, most precious baby in the room |
10-26-2016, 04:49 AM | #4 |
Furbutts = LOVE Donating Member Moderator | Hmmm...kind of a tough one bc I'm surprised she is so totally bonded w/ you given there are 9 other people + pets. And she obvs is spending lots of time w/ the other people and pets, right? She's not being kept away from them...? A couple little things worth trying: -- pheromone collar or plug in -- rub a small scarf/cloth all over you to get your smell and tie it (safely!) around her neck so she has your smell; don't tie too loose though or it could get caught! -- tight onesie shirt or t-shirt or Thundershirt - these can help w/ feeling secure -- go to obedience class together to build her confidence and socialization
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10-26-2016, 06:00 AM | #5 |
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| Might be a good idea if you let Hope sleep with smbd else over a week so that she feels comfortable with another member of your big family while you are away. Not sure if it works but why not give it a try? |
10-26-2016, 07:27 AM | #6 |
Yorkie Talker Join Date: Oct 2016 Location: Festus
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| Thanks for your replies! Yes she spends lots of time with everyone. She does prefer to be with my sister or niece when I'm gone. But even with them every noise she hears that's not me dissapoints her. Our house is big but most of us spend time in the living room and family room all day. She is comfortable playing with kids and other dogs, including her best bud faith, my sisters 3 month old yorkie puppy. Still no matter how distracted she is or how much fun she's had, if I'm leaving or she's started missing me she's visibly upset. She does have a soothing vest which pretty much only worked at first, only when I was home and it only put her to sleep. She's also an incredibly light sleeper most of the time. If she falls asleep next to me I can move her on me and she doesn't wake up but if get up for any reason. She pops up and waiting for me to get back. No matter how I sneak out of bed she's waiting at the edge when I get back. Its not like when I'm home she has to or even wants to be with me all the time. She loves running and playing and does get excited to see everyone she's has so much love to give but in the end she prefers me and would be content if I never left her. We do have the pheromone plug ins but I will look into a collar. We will probably start puppy obedience in the next week. Sorry for the long reply I could probably write a book about her already though lol. I appreciate you guys so much! |
10-26-2016, 03:30 PM | #7 |
Yorkie Talker Join Date: Oct 2016 Location: Festus
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| Thank you for your replies and suggestions! Hope enjoys spending time with all of the family. She is with them when I am not there and spends time with them even when I am. She has a calming vest that worked for a couple of days but only when I was home and only at first. It made her pass out lol. We do have the pheromone plug ins nut maybe I will try the collar too. We will hopefully be starting the obedience classes within the next couple of weeks. Its not like she has trouble making friends or being friendly she loves all people and pets. She just loves me most. When I'm not home she prefers to be with either my sister or my niece but she does play and she loves hanging out with all members of the family and gets super excited when she sees them. But when she's missing me she prefers to pout with them. Today I left for work and my niece told me she cried for 20 minutes before finally settling down. Then she will play and nap and hang out with everyone but once she starts missing me, every noise has her watching the door to see if I am coming in. She is an extremely light sleeper, if she falls asleep next to me i can move her onto me but if I get up, no matter how swiftly, shes up watching me. At night I can't sneak out of bed no matter how sleepy she is she will be standing at the edge waiting for me. |
10-27-2016, 07:42 AM | #8 |
Yorkie Talker Join Date: Oct 2016 Location: Festus
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10-27-2016, 09:56 AM | #9 |
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| I would prob ignore her alittle before you leave and don't greet her right away when you come back. I also would have a crate there for her with her pillow and toys in it. She could go in it for comfort. I also don't let my yorkie sleep in my bed. He goes to sleep in his crate. Actually walks right in when I said it's bedtime. This link is from Cesar's way and I do follow a lot of his thoughts on it. He does know what he is talking about. Good luck. https://www.cesarsway.com/dog-behavi...ration-anxiety
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