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dottiesyrky · 09-22-2015, 10:44 AM

Very nice offer Kathleen…hope she takes you up on it.

Thank you.

dinkster · 09-22-2015, 05:05 PM

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Originally Posted by gemy

I think it is reasonable to ask and also to be Part of the solution of training this puppy. That is reasonable for the man to ask this to be done. Not reasonable if the first goto was actually to get rid of the dog!

The OP made the decision to purchase this puppy and is ultimately and predominately responsible for correcting the problems her lack of training of this dog created.

I would not rush to presume or assume that the facts are as stated - what has been omitted? this is only one persons side of the storyline. But for sure she is doing this dog no favours in the way she has raised it. Behavioural issues are one of the prime reasons dogs are surrendered and quite frankly new homes can be hard to find for these dogs.

I totally agree.

Deadbug · 09-23-2015, 07:28 AM

Ugh. It's cases and stories like this that make me think there should be a rule that you have to take a class before adopting a puppy AND be held financially responsible for the dog for the rest of it's life. It would seriously eliminate a lot of the neglect and impulse buying.

Neither of these people are right. The boyfriend for demanding the dog go without even trying to correct the behaviors and the owner for allowing the behaviors to begin in the first place. A puppy only knows what it's been taught. You wouldn't have a child and not teach it right from wrong. Why do people think it's ok to neglect a dog that way?

An untrained pet is a liability. A well behaved pet is an asset.

Reality 101 · 10-21-2015, 10:09 PM

I think many folks with small dogs let them get away with things that large dog owners would never ever accept. And while misbehaving medium to large breed dogs are not un-common, many many small breeds are!

For example would this owner - if that Yorkie weighed a 110lbs and peed a lake in her living room accept this behaviour? I really think not! She would be forced to do something about it!

chestermama · 10-26-2015, 01:27 AM

I would never give up my dog for a boyfriend, work with the dog on training, good luck

Potter · 10-30-2015, 11:05 AM

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Originally Posted by chestermama

I would never give up my dog for a boyfriend, work with the dog on training, good luck

Ya me neither. I would not even give my dog up for my husband.

Mike-S · 11-01-2015, 12:40 PM

Hey emma, first of all I hope you haven't made the decision to give up on your dog because of your boyfriend situation. In my honest opinion you should't even be in this situation, you two should sit down and agree to find a solution to the issues, but that's just my opinion.

I understand what you mean by the annoying continuous barking, because my newly adopted puppy used to do the same (if not more, trust me), so I'm going to refer you to some tips that did wonders for me.

You might have guessed it by now that there's no shortcut to solving these behavioral issues, you have to train your dog the right way.

And before we speak about the right ways, let's get the wrong ways out of sight. Here are the things you NEVER want to do when trying to stop dog barking:

Screaming: NEVER start screaming at your dog or show your dog that you’re heated and angry thinking you’re going to get them to stop barking that way. You’re not. You’ll just make it worse because they might sense that you’re joining them in barking (let’s face it, human screaming is the equivalent to dog barking) or worse off, they will sense that you’re frustrated and might try to imitate you, and that’s a whole other dangerous story because that’s when them attacking you becomes a real possibility. If you’re going to make your dog stop barking the right way, you have to learn how to keep your cool. Speak and act in a calm yet firm way.

Being too nice: Don’t be too sweet and wishy-washy with your dog when you want them to stop barking. You must be firm and assertive (but refer to #1 and don’t yell!) so they don’t mistake your affection with your approval of their barking.

Inconsistency: Not being consistent. I see this happen a lot of times so I had to include it here. When you’re training your dog when to bark and when not to bark, the last thing you want to do is confuse them. All your household members and everyone who interacts with your dog must follow the same methods you follow when your dog barks inappropriately. If you let your dog get away with inappropriate barking one time and punish them for it the other, you’re sending them mixed signals.

Giving them food: Never EVER try to make your dog quiet by giving them a treat to make their mouth full and stop them from barking. This way, you’ll teach them that when they bark, they get a treat from you.

I can't post everything here, but there's much more golden nuggets for you to pick up on in this article about how exactly you can stop your dog from barking so annoyingly.

Good luck with the whole boyfriend situation!

09-22-2015, 10:44 AM	#106
dottiesyrky Donating YT Addict Join Date: Aug 2010 Location: SW USA Posts: 2,505	Piddle Place Very nice offer Kathleen…hope she takes you up on it. Thank you.

09-23-2015, 07:28 AM	#108
Deadbug Donating Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Apr 2012 Location: Utah Posts: 452	Ugh. It's cases and stories like this that make me think there should be a rule that you have to take a class before adopting a puppy AND be held financially responsible for the dog for the rest of it's life. It would seriously eliminate a lot of the neglect and impulse buying. Neither of these people are right. The boyfriend for demanding the dog go without even trying to correct the behaviors and the owner for allowing the behaviors to begin in the first place. A puppy only knows what it's been taught. You wouldn't have a child and not teach it right from wrong. Why do people think it's ok to neglect a dog that way? An untrained pet is a liability. A well behaved pet is an asset. __________________ Never argue with stupid people. They will drag you down to their level and beat you with experience. Gina and the gang!

10-21-2015, 10:09 PM	#109
Reality 101 YorkieTalk Newbie! Join Date: Sep 2015 Location: Las vegas Posts: 3	I think many folks with small dogs let them get away with things that large dog owners would never ever accept. And while misbehaving medium to large breed dogs are not un-common, many many small breeds are! For example would this owner - if that Yorkie weighed a 110lbs and peed a lake in her living room accept this behaviour? I really think not! She would be forced to do something about it!

10-26-2015, 01:27 AM	#110
chestermama YT 3000 Club Member Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: washington Posts: 3,383 Blog Entries: 1	I would never give up my dog for a boyfriend, work with the dog on training, good luck

11-01-2015, 12:40 PM	#112
Mike-S YorkieTalk Newbie! Join Date: Nov 2015 Location: Phoenix, Arizona Posts: 4	Hey emma, first of all I hope you haven't made the decision to give up on your dog because of your boyfriend situation. In my honest opinion you should't even be in this situation, you two should sit down and agree to find a solution to the issues, but that's just my opinion. I understand what you mean by the annoying continuous barking, because my newly adopted puppy used to do the same (if not more, trust me), so I'm going to refer you to some tips that did wonders for me. You might have guessed it by now that there's no shortcut to solving these behavioral issues, you have to train your dog the right way. And before we speak about the right ways, let's get the wrong ways out of sight. Here are the things you NEVER want to do when trying to stop dog barking: Screaming: NEVER start screaming at your dog or show your dog that you’re heated and angry thinking you’re going to get them to stop barking that way. You’re not. You’ll just make it worse because they might sense that you’re joining them in barking (let’s face it, human screaming is the equivalent to dog barking) or worse off, they will sense that you’re frustrated and might try to imitate you, and that’s a whole other dangerous story because that’s when them attacking you becomes a real possibility. If you’re going to make your dog stop barking the right way, you have to learn how to keep your cool. Speak and act in a calm yet firm way. Being too nice: Don’t be too sweet and wishy-washy with your dog when you want them to stop barking. You must be firm and assertive (but refer to #1 and don’t yell!) so they don’t mistake your affection with your approval of their barking. Inconsistency: Not being consistent. I see this happen a lot of times so I had to include it here. When you’re training your dog when to bark and when not to bark, the last thing you want to do is confuse them. All your household members and everyone who interacts with your dog must follow the same methods you follow when your dog barks inappropriately. If you let your dog get away with inappropriate barking one time and punish them for it the other, you’re sending them mixed signals. Giving them food: Never EVER try to make your dog quiet by giving them a treat to make their mouth full and stop them from barking. This way, you’ll teach them that when they bark, they get a treat from you. I can't post everything here, but there's much more golden nuggets for you to pick up on in this article about how exactly you can stop your dog from barking so annoyingly. Good luck with the whole boyfriend situation!