Boyfriend wants me to get rid of my Yorkie

[matese]

Originally Posted by Shicks

I would crate the egotistical boy friend. 😊

Originally Posted by maxdog

A small crate. With no pee pads.

I say "Amen" to that lol

[Jkpal]

Originally Posted by maxdog

A small crate. With no pee pads.

And set it outside on the back porch.

[Micah my love]

Originally Posted by Jkpal

And set it outside on the back porch.

and watch the snow fall

[Jkpal]

Originally Posted by Micah my love

and watch the snow fall

...while the wind howls (and he whines)

[kartwheelkid]

Please understand my opinion on this topic comes from being in a family who has taken in many of those fur babies (usually cats) that were given up due to their owner's issues and a lifelong career of working with small children - both of which only know what they are initially taught (or in matters such as this, NOT taught). One cat had kidney failure, was on dialysis for two weeks then lived for 6 more years, another was found abused with a broken tail and nerve damage that made her leak urine when she slept so my mpther just put training pads in the areas she slept in, another became diabetic at 13 and my parents took him with them most places for almost 5 yrs so they could administer his daily shot and monitor him. It is always incomprehensible to me when people bring a pet into their home knowing that they are a commitment of possibly 20yrs, then suddenly have a life change and discard the one thing that will love you unconditionally and are most often less costly than therapy, or want to immediately get rid of them once there is the slightest chance they may be inconvenienced in the least bit!

I have only had my puppy for just over a month, and though it took a lot of energy and patience at first to potty train her - tracking her daily activities, coming home from work during lunch or having someone come by throughout the day to take her out, etc. - she was completely housebroken (using the training pad only when needed such as when I'm gone longer than planned, outside all of the rest) by the end of the 2nd week. Just as I always said with my students, I don't care how cute they are, it is my job as the adult to teach them what the correct thing is to do and if they don't, there will be some type of consequence. As a grown man, your bf has the wonderful ability and knowledge to change his outlook/attitude to one of a more beneficial/helpful one while your dog truly won't understand when you get rid of her why she was taken out of her home for doing things you allowed all along when YOU were the one responsible to train her in the first place.

Sorry if I ranted a bit, this is a touchy subject for me!

[margaritaville]

Food and water bowl outside of crate.

[Jkpal]

When it comes to our darling babies, we're such mama grizzly bears --and rightly so! Love you guys, my kindred spirits!

[matese]

Mama grizzly bears YES, each and every one of YT members got these babies for one thing only, to love, care for them, give them the best life we can,keep them medically healthy, change our life style if necessary and vowed no matter what they would be with us forever. Problems if any would be worked out, never give up, and NEVER be thrown away for any reason what so ever. Then a post like this comes up, BF says get rid of the dog, like it's a worn out shoe to be tossed in the garbage. Then the grizzle bears in us bears it's teeth and the protective claws come out. These babies did not ask to be born, did not ask YOU to take them home. You choose to take them, care for them, they are innocent little critters, depend on us for love, food and their well being. It is now up to us to teach these little ones manners and if that is not done up to someones expectations, they say dump the dog. This could only come from a
cold-hearted person. Mama grizzly bears, you better believe it.

[capt_noonie]

No reply from the OP.

Unfortunately sometimes people don't make the best decisions. OP may think her bf is perfect, but come on, nobody's perfect. If she gives in to his ultimatums we all know what the future holds.

But we can also look at it from the dog's point of view. How would the dog feel with the bf in the house and getting all the negative energy from the bf. The dog would not be happy. If she were to surrender to rescue, a foster home and eventually a perfect forever home would be in his future. That is exactly how I came to have Toto. He was an owner surrender. She was pregnant and newly married. The husband TOLD her to get rid of the dogs. The other one is Safari (which I know some of you are familiar with Safari's story). Now Toto is in a good forever home and he's the funniest, most animated and loving yorkie out of all the fosters we've had.

He was not properly trained either. He peed a lot in our brand new house. I mean brand new as in just finished building brand new. We worked with him for several months and now he's better but still not 100%. It takes work, a lot of work! But I'm so lucky to have him.

[Lizchloe]

I have read most of the replys and I agree with them, You need some training, and hopefully both of you can be involved. A few chewed shoes or glasses or messes on the floor can be fixed. I would not get rid of the dog maybe the BF.

[Jkpal]

CaptainNoonie, your are sooo right about looking at it from the dog's point-of-view, thus allowing many us to find and bring home our forever pups. Excellent point and actually, a God send--most assuredly for me. As imperfect as Piper may be, she is absolutely perfect to and for me! Thanks for bringing up a different perspective (and an excellent one, at that !).

[dinkster]

I agree with the FB post. I do disagree with most of the posters who say lose the boyfriend.
I think OP that you can see the problem , but you have let your dog misbehave and failed to train the dog. That is not good for the dog, for you or your BF. Your BF has given you a long time to step up. The dog is all over his property, and it is not considerate for you to let the problem go on and on.
I think it is good that you ask for help on training. I hope that you get some good training on how to set boundaries for your dog and you let your BF know that you respect his boundaries too. Good luck with BF and your pup!

[maxdog]

I sent the OP a PM a couple days ago asking her to come back and let us know what she thinks of our responses. I hope this is not another case of starting a thread that touches a lot of people only to never post again.

[Yorkiemom1]

Originally Posted by dinkster

I agree with the FB post. I do disagree with most of the posters who say lose the boyfriend.
I think OP that you can see the problem , but you have let your dog misbehave and failed to train the dog. That is not good for the dog, for you or your BF. Your BF has given you a long time to step up. The dog is all over his property, and it is not considerate for you to let the problem go on and on.
I think it is good that you ask for help on training. I hope that you get some good training on how to set boundaries for your dog and you let your BF know that you respect his boundaries too. Good luck with BF and your pup!

Correct.....solve the problem and send the BF back to his OWN living space, as HE is the intruder into this pups living space, NOT the other way around. If YOU had moved with your dog, into the boyfriends home/living space, then fine, BF can complain and issue ultimatums. However, BF has moved into the pups home.....BF needs to help solve any issue HE has with the set up, including but not limited to, paying for additional training methods for the pup, or returning to his OWN living space and leaving the pup to his.....

(I will remind others that in my initial post, I did encourage training the pup...you can not let the pup use your living space as his toilet, unchecked...nasty and ugly and stinky.....but I have NEVER let a man move his sorry but into MY home, with MY dog and ME, then start issuing rules and recommendations for change....I would never tolerate that.)

I am from a generation where a RESPECTABLE MAN would not move into a woman's living space, then demand changes be made to accommodate his cheap a$$. Those "men" were known as Gigolos in my generation and were rated lower on the "Scale Respectability" than whale turds. Sorry, "new generationers"....that is the way it was old school.....and I certainly would never get rid of a tried and true and loyal and loving friend, to accommodate a man....but that is from years and years of first hand experience dealing with and watching men and relationships rise and fall by the wayside. Trust me, that pup will be devoted to you long after that man hits the highway at a trot!

[matese]

Originally Posted by Yorkiemom1

Correct.....solve the problem and send the BF back to his OWN living space, as HE is the intruder into this pups living space, NOT the other way around. If YOU had moved with your dog, into the boyfriends home/living space, then fine, BF can complain and issue ultimatums. However, BF has moved into the pups home.....BF needs to help solve any issue HE has with the set up, including but not limited to, paying for additional training methods for the pup, or returning to his OWN living space and leaving the pup to his.....

(I will remind others that in my initial post, I did encourage training the pup...you can not let the pup use your living space as his toilet, unchecked...nasty and ugly and stinky.....but I have NEVER let a man move his sorry but into MY home, with MY dog and ME, then start issuing rules and recommendations for change....I would never tolerate that.)

I am from a generation where a RESPECTABLE MAN would not move into a woman's living space, then demand changes be made to accommodate his cheap a$$. Those "men" were known as Gigolos in my generation and were rated lower on the "Scale Respectability" than whale turds. Sorry, "new generationers"....that is the way it was old school.....and I certainly would never get rid of a tried and true and loyal and loving friend, to accommodate a man....but that is from years and years of first hand experience dealing with and watching men and relationships rise and fall by the wayside. Trust me, that pup will be devoted to you long after that man hits the highway at a trot!