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capt_noonie · 09-17-2015, 02:03 PM

She did say though she has had the yorkie for 1 year and been with the bf for 2 years. So the bf was in the picture first, but the yorkie doesn't realize that, with him coming into her house.

I wonder though, did she not discuss her getting a dog with the bf? Why not?

Jkpal · 09-17-2015, 03:03 PM

.....and I certainly would never get rid of a tried and true and loyal and [COLOR=green !important]loving[/COLOR] friend, to accommodate a man....but that is from years and years of first hand experience dealing with and watching men and relationships rise and fall by the wayside. Trust me, that pup will be devoted to you long after that man hits the highway at a trot!

Absolutely, one hundred percent agree, Yorkiemom1...I, too, am "old school" and glad for it...

Shicks · 09-17-2015, 03:12 PM

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Originally Posted by matese

A BIG Amen for that!

Yorkiemom1 · 09-17-2015, 03:19 PM

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Originally Posted by capt_noonie

She did say though she has had the yorkie for 1 year and been with the bf for 2 years. So the bf was in the picture first, but the yorkie doesn't realize that, with him coming into her house.

I wonder though, did she not discuss her getting a dog with the bf? Why not?

She is in her and Emma's own living space....man is moving into WOMAN AND PUP'S living space......he can adjust to the situation as it is, help her either train the pup or PAY for a professional to help train the pup, or go back to his OWN cave..........
She has had BF for 2 years, but he JUST crashed into HER and HER PUP'S HOME 5 months ago....

"I have been with my boyfriend for two years and he moved in with me five months ago. I have had my yorkie Emma for one year and she is not very well trained.".........

Emma WINS!!! Hit the road BF!!!

Angram1983 · 09-17-2015, 03:39 PM

Hello, I have a 2 year old baby girl that I got from a coworker in March. Lexi is super smart and will potty outside and lets us know when she needs to go as long as we are home. But when we leave for work or she is alone she pees in the same spot EVERY single time. I don't know what to do. Please help!

matese · 09-17-2015, 03:48 PM

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Originally Posted by Angram1983

Hello, I have a 2 year old baby girl that I got from a coworker in March. Lexi is super smart and will potty outside and lets us know when she needs to go as long as we are home. But when we leave for work or she is alone she pees in the same spot EVERY single time. I don't know what to do. Please help!

Welcome to YT
You should really start your own thread on this, you will much more answers then hi-jacking this thread.

capt_noonie · 09-17-2015, 04:59 PM

I said discuss w her Bf, not ask permission. There is a difference!

ladyjane · 09-17-2015, 07:02 PM

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Originally Posted by matese

1-In the one year she had the pup, the BF had to have gone to home, saw, smelled, KNEW the dog was not potty trained, KNEW the pup used the entire home as it's toilet, but still moves in then says get rid of the dog.
2-This is JUST a BF, why would she have to "discuss" her getting a dog, it's her home, she is I assume self supporting,he is not paying her rent, he is NOT a husband where you would discuss getting anything.
Bottom line.....He KNEW how the dog was,he KNEW she didn't train this dog, he KNEW what he was moving into, he did this on his own free will, then has the b!!ls to tell her to get rid of the dog. BS, he is a control freak, today get rid of the dog, tomorrow I want you to quit your job I don't like the ppl you work with. If this man really cared for her he would offer to work with her in training this dog that he knows she loves, not tell her to get rid of it.....I'd be dammed if I HAD to ask or even discuss with a BF me getting a dog, I didn't HAVE to do that with my husband (when I was married) I wanted a dog, I got a dog, but I ALONE cared for that dog. In all honesty, the OP put up this thread and has not been seen since, to me it's a troll just trying to stir up YT members. There have been many members giving advise, suggestions, solutions and no OP.....TROLL

We don't know that.

ladyjane · 09-17-2015, 07:03 PM

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Originally Posted by Yorkiemom1

She is in her and Emma's own living space....man is moving into WOMAN AND PUP'S living space......he can adjust to the situation as it is, help her either train the pup or PAY for a professional to help train the pup, or go back to his OWN cave..........
She has had BF for 2 years, but he JUST crashed into HER and HER PUP'S HOME 5 months ago....

"I have been with my boyfriend for two years and he moved in with me five months ago. I have had my yorkie Emma for one year and she is not very well trained.".........

Emma WINS!!! Hit the road BF!!!

LOL I agree.

Mayzoo · 09-17-2015, 07:08 PM

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Originally Posted by Angram1983

Hello, I have a 2 year old baby girl that I got from a coworker in March. Lexi is super smart and will potty outside and lets us know when she needs to go as long as we are home. But when we leave for work or she is alone she pees in the same spot EVERY single time. I don't know what to do. Please help!

Welcome to YT.

You have to clean that spot where there is no smell that the pup can smell. There are enzyme cleaners and also vinegar works pretty well. If it is a carpeted area, steam clean it VERY well first, then use the enzyme cleaner as directed or add vinegar to spot and let it dry.

Then consider pee pad training her if you are gone too long for her hold it.

dinkster · 09-18-2015, 02:05 AM

In the end, the answer is to lose the BF and keep the Yorkie.
IF she were my daughter, I would tell her that. If he were my son, I would tell him to just get out of the relationship instead of blaming it on the dog.

gemy · 09-18-2015, 05:08 AM

I think it is reasonable to ask and also to be Part of the solution of training this puppy. That is reasonable for the man to ask this to be done. Not reasonable if the first goto was actually to get rid of the dog!

The OP made the decision to purchase this puppy and is ultimately and predominately responsible for correcting the problems her lack of training of this dog created.

I would not rush to presume or assume that the facts are as stated - what has been omitted? this is only one persons side of the storyline. But for sure she is doing this dog no favours in the way she has raised it. Behavioural issues are one of the prime reasons dogs are surrendered and quite frankly new homes can be hard to find for these dogs.

SirTeddykins · 09-18-2015, 05:15 AM

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Originally Posted by gemy

I think it is reasonable to ask and also to be Part of the solution of training this puppy. That is reasonable for the man to ask this to be done. Not reasonable if the first goto was actually to get rid of the dog!

The OP made the decision to purchase this puppy and is ultimately and predominately responsible for correcting the problems her lack of training of this dog created.

I would not rush to presume or assume that the facts are as stated - what has been omitted? this is only one persons side of the storyline. But for sure she is doing this dog no favours in the way she has raised it. Behavioural issues are one of the prime reasons dogs are surrendered and quite frankly new homes can be hard to find for these dogs.

ladyjane · 09-18-2015, 06:19 AM

I beg to differ on the main reason for surrender being training. It is because people believe pups are second class beings and disposable.

If I had a nickel for every woman who gave up her yorkie for a man or a child, I would have a nice little stash of money. They love, love, love their yorkies until something else comes along to love. NOT saying this is the case with the OP. I have no idea what this person or her boyfriend are about..I can only go by what she said and her boyfriend is sadly not unique. I STILL say that I would dump any person who asked me to get rid of my pups. Again, they are living beings and anyone who makes a suggestion like that probably should never own a pup. There are MANY people who should not own pups. Her boyfriend would not have moved into my home ... I would have known how he felt about my pup and my guess is she knew. Poor pup....I hate these stories so very much. I don't have any feelings for the OP or her boyfriend....it is the pup who ends up with the short end of the stick and it is disgusting that this happens. I will never sadly live to see animals have rights, but I believe one day it may be a reality.

The other main issue for surrenders is medical issues that people cannot afford. I have spoken with many, many rescuers and the bottom line is that yorkies honestly are one of if not THE most high maintenance pups out there. And, I am not referring to general maintenance and grooming. It's funny, I was just talking with an all breed rescuer yesterday and she said exactly that. The list of problems with yorkies these days is so long....it gets worse and worse. Why? Popularity...people like Paris Hilton (gag) ... and everyone wants a pocket pup. And, crap breeders are more than willing to fill that demand and sell to anyone with a few bucks in hand. :{ All that indisciminate breeding is ruining the breed ....and putting poor innocent living beings in horrible places. I wish a celebrity would step out with a stuffed animal from Build A Bear and start a new fad.

gemy · 09-18-2015, 06:31 AM

Linda I did not say main I said prime meaning (at least in my mind) one of the top 4 or 5 reasons dogs are surrendered. Health issues of course are in the top 5 for sure.

I don't find my yorkie to be anymore higher maintenance than my Blackies. In fact he is much lower maintenance.

So why is a Yorkie high maintenance? What do you mean by that?

09-17-2015, 02:03 PM	#61
capt_noonie www.yorkierescue.com Donating Member Join Date: May 2009 Location: Las Vegas & Orange County Posts: 17,408	She did say though she has had the yorkie for 1 year and been with the bf for 2 years. So the bf was in the picture first, but the yorkie doesn't realize that, with him coming into her house. I wonder though, did she not discuss her getting a dog with the bf? Why not? __________________ The T.U.B. Pack! Toto, Uni, & Bindi RIP Lord Scrappington Montgomery McLimpybottom aka El Lenguo the Handicapped Ninja 10-12-12

09-17-2015, 03:39 PM	#65
Angram1983 YorkieTalk Newbie! Join Date: Sep 2015 Location: Texas city Posts: 1	Smart Pup Hello, I have a 2 year old baby girl that I got from a coworker in March. Lexi is super smart and will potty outside and lets us know when she needs to go as long as we are home. But when we leave for work or she is alone she pees in the same spot EVERY single time. I don't know what to do. Please help!

09-18-2015, 05:08 AM	#72
gemy YT 2000 Club Donating Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Huntsville,Ont,Canaada Posts: 12,340 Blog Entries: 2	I think it is reasonable to ask and also to be Part of the solution of training this puppy. That is reasonable for the man to ask this to be done. Not reasonable if the first goto was actually to get rid of the dog! The OP made the decision to purchase this puppy and is ultimately and predominately responsible for correcting the problems her lack of training of this dog created. I would not rush to presume or assume that the facts are as stated - what has been omitted? this is only one persons side of the storyline. But for sure she is doing this dog no favours in the way she has raised it. Behavioural issues are one of the prime reasons dogs are surrendered and quite frankly new homes can be hard to find for these dogs. __________________ Razzle and Dara. Our clan. RIP Karma Dec 24th 2004-July 14 2013 RIP Zoey Jun9 th 2008-May 12 2012. RIP Magic,Mar 26 2006July 1st 2018

09-18-2015, 06:19 AM	#74
ladyjane Resident Yorkie Nut Donating YT 20K Club Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Texas Posts: 27,490	I beg to differ on the main reason for surrender being training. It is because people believe pups are second class beings and disposable. If I had a nickel for every woman who gave up her yorkie for a man or a child, I would have a nice little stash of money. They love, love, love their yorkies until something else comes along to love. NOT saying this is the case with the OP. I have no idea what this person or her boyfriend are about..I can only go by what she said and her boyfriend is sadly not unique. I STILL say that I would dump any person who asked me to get rid of my pups. Again, they are living beings and anyone who makes a suggestion like that probably should never own a pup. There are MANY people who should not own pups. Her boyfriend would not have moved into my home ... I would have known how he felt about my pup and my guess is she knew. Poor pup....I hate these stories so very much. I don't have any feelings for the OP or her boyfriend....it is the pup who ends up with the short end of the stick and it is disgusting that this happens. I will never sadly live to see animals have rights, but I believe one day it may be a reality. The other main issue for surrenders is medical issues that people cannot afford. I have spoken with many, many rescuers and the bottom line is that yorkies honestly are one of if not THE most high maintenance pups out there. And, I am not referring to general maintenance and grooming. It's funny, I was just talking with an all breed rescuer yesterday and she said exactly that. The list of problems with yorkies these days is so long....it gets worse and worse. Why? Popularity...people like Paris Hilton (gag) ... and everyone wants a pocket pup. And, crap breeders are more than willing to fill that demand and sell to anyone with a few bucks in hand. :{ All that indisciminate breeding is ruining the breed ....and putting poor innocent living beings in horrible places. I wish a celebrity would step out with a stuffed animal from Build A Bear and start a new fad. __________________ CLOUD NINE BEDS--YORKIE HAVEN RESCUE MY ETSY SHOP Last edited by ladyjane; 09-18-2015 at 06:21 AM.

09-18-2015, 06:31 AM	#75
gemy YT 2000 Club Donating Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Huntsville,Ont,Canaada Posts: 12,340 Blog Entries: 2	Linda I did not say main I said prime meaning (at least in my mind) one of the top 4 or 5 reasons dogs are surrendered. Health issues of course are in the top 5 for sure. I don't find my yorkie to be anymore higher maintenance than my Blackies. In fact he is much lower maintenance. So why is a Yorkie high maintenance? What do you mean by that? __________________ Razzle and Dara. Our clan. RIP Karma Dec 24th 2004-July 14 2013 RIP Zoey Jun9 th 2008-May 12 2012. RIP Magic,Mar 26 2006July 1st 2018

09-17-2015, 03:03 PM	#62
Jkpal YT 2000 Club Member Join Date: Sep 2014 Location: Lake Geneva, WI Posts: 2,777	.....and I certainly would never get rid of a tried and true and loyal and [COLOR=green !important]loving[/COLOR] friend, to accommodate a man....but that is from years and years of first hand experience dealing with and watching men and relationships rise and fall by the wayside. Trust me, that pup will be devoted to you long after that man hits the highway at a trot! Absolutely, one hundred percent agree, Yorkiemom1...I, too, am "old school" and glad for it...

09-17-2015, 04:59 PM	#67
capt_noonie www.yorkierescue.com Donating Member Join Date: May 2009 Location: Las Vegas & Orange County Posts: 17,408	I said discuss w her Bf, not ask permission. There is a difference!

09-18-2015, 02:05 AM	#71
dinkster YT Addict Join Date: Sep 2014 Location: Michigan Posts: 344	In the end, the answer is to lose the BF and keep the Yorkie. IF she were my daughter, I would tell her that. If he were my son, I would tell him to just get out of the relationship instead of blaming it on the dog.