O.K. so I drugged my dog

[yorkietalkjilly]

I do prefer the sweeter guides! Satisfying my sweet tooth usually helps me listen more closely and better than does a spoon of lemon juice! And puts me in a better mood to learn.

[nanahas3]

When I was growing up I had a mom who yelled to get her point across. I learned real fast to act like I was listening but to tune her out. My Dad on the other hand sat us down and talked in a calm but firm respectable voice. He could have me in tears and never raise his voice or a hand to me. Personally even as an adult I would walk away from someone being rude, or aggressively trying to get their view about an issue across to me. I would not get my feelings hurt but I would not respect the person doing this enough to even want to listen to any advice they were giving me. I love learning and I love a good teacher who knows how to teach wisely. I am probably many of your senior but I am never going to get to the point that I am to old to learn.

[ColesMommy01]

Originally Posted by nanahas3

When I was growing up I had a mom who yelled to get her point across. I learned real fast to act like I was listening but to tune her out. My Dad on the other hand sat us down and talked in a calm but firm respectable voice. He could have me in tears and never raise his voice or a hand to me. Personally even as an adultI would walk away from someone being rude, or aggressively trying to get their view about an issue across to me. I would not get my feelings hurt but I would not respect the person doing this enough to even want to listen to any advice they were giving me. I love learning and I love a good teacher who knows how to teach wisely. I am probably many of your senior but I am never going to get to the point that I am to old to learn.

[Sunnydayz]

Originally Posted by Sunnydayz

My dog is not really good all the time, but I am teaching him that I am the boss, and I make the rules. He's only 4 months old, so we are just into all the training stuff, and will be training for quite some time to come. Right now I'm working on training him to a schedule that works for him as well as myself.

When I first rescued Gizmo 8 maybe 9 weeks ago, he was extremely sick, but he's well now. But the first thing I did was contact a friend I have that's near me and also has a yorkie, she's actually had many of them, and I asked her if in the future, if I needed a break if she would take him for a day, here and there. That was very important to me to make sure I had someone ready, if needed.

Over the last 4 1/2 years, I've had about 7 or 8 surgeries for things caused from my spinal cord damage, and have been in the hospital approx 15 or more times from going septic from infections also due to my paralysis. I too live in a large city, one of the biggest since I'm right outside of downtown Los Angeles. Sometimes being in a big city can be helpful as there are more resources available.

I do hope your back feels better soon, but if I were you, I would just let your dog know that sometimes you are not able to play as much as you would like. The one thing about dogs, is they do adjust to what you ask of them. Like I said, with Gizmo, we are just in the training phase as he is young, but he is learning that I am the boss, and he has to listen to my commands for him. He has no choice :-) just be really consistent with putting him down for naps in an xpen or crate, and he will eventually get it. I have put Gizmo in his xpen for naps between playtime every day since I started training, and he now knows if I put him in there during the day, it's nap time and he goes to his bed now, without me having to tell him, and takes a nap. Think about people in wheelchairs that have service dogs, they obviously are not playing all day, and do what needs to be done to meet the disabled persons needs, because they are trained that way. I eventually am going to get gizmo certified as my service dog, along with the training he requires, since I am permanently disabled and my paralysis will progress as time goes on, it already has in the last four and a half years since I became this way. You shouldn't feel bad about not playing when you can't, because is you don't take care of yourself, who will take care of your dog is something happens to you, like if you end up in the hospital. It's really important to have someone that can be there in an emergency, that was why I asked my friend to begin with, so I knew I had a backup plan if needed for a break, or if I have to go the hospital or anything. Do you have a friend you can trust? I would definitely think about the what ifs, ad make sure you have a person who can help you out occasionally.

I hope I am not one of those being referred to as being rude or anything. Sometimes when you type words, the emotion behind them does not show. I was sincerely trying to be helpful with how I have dealt with my own situation of being partially paralyzed. I have learned so much here, and was just trying to pay it forward, with some ideas :-)

[nanahas3]

I don't think you were rude at all.

[yakkwak]

Originally Posted by Sunnydayz

I hope I am not one of those being referred to as being rude or anything. Sometimes when you type words, the emotion behind them does not show. I was sincerely trying to be helpful with how I have dealt with my own situation of being partially paralyzed. I have learned so much here, and was just trying to pay it forward, with some ideas :-)

No, not at all IMHO. You took time to share and offer feedback in a very helpful way. I am sorry, I wasn't at all referring to your suggestions. Actually felt a lot of empathy and suddenly grateful for my health. Blessings

[buffy512]

If ANYONE in this thread is being labeled rude. Its the person who had the nerve to call ME out of my name. Not the other way around. If I had a care to give. I could never be bothered by being called rude when my intent is aimed towards the safety and health of an animal. About the story of difference. Ive never came out of guidelines or respect at ANY moment. Harsh. Possibly. Im live in a world of I DONT LIKE TO SUGARCOAT TRUTH. That doesnt do to well in my occupation nor have I ever prefered it. I like to hear whats real. No matter how harsh it seems. I have a very thick skin. Would I ever hurt anyones feelings for no reason. Never. I think we all need to realize people have a different approach. If its not for you its not for you. Although I am quite confused how someone can come off rude through a typed conversation. When nothing rude was said. Pardon my tone ladies n gents. LoL

Moral of the story. DONT DRUG YOUR PETS!

Or for those who need a different approach......

Please do not give your ooor baby a tenth of a drop of benadryl as it may cause more harm than benefit. Be sure to check with your vet before making any medical decision. There is an alternative. Such as simply crating your pet while taking a break. Or finding an alternative to the game of fetch. As opinions follows......

If I walked my life tip toe against the possible feelings Id hurt. I dont think I would make it to the mailbox in time to pay my RUDE bills. Hehe

[Wylie's Mom]

Originally Posted by nanahas3

When I was growing up I had a mom who yelled to get her point across. I learned real fast to act like I was listening but to tune her out. My Dad on the other hand sat us down and talked in a calm but firm respectable voice. He could have me in tears and never raise his voice or a hand to me. Personally even as an adult I would walk away from someone being rude, or aggressively trying to get their view about an issue across to me. I would not get my feelings hurt but I would not respect the person doing this enough to even want to listen to any advice they were giving me. I love learning and I love a good teacher who knows how to teach wisely. I am probably many of your senior but I am never going to get to the point that I am to old to learn.

WOW. The whole paragraph, but esp the bolded part.

This is seriously one of the BEST POSTS I've ever read on YT. Simple, True, Utterly Poignant.

[Maximo]

Originally Posted by nanahas3

When I was growing up I had a mom who yelled to get her point across. I learned real fast to act like I was listening but to tune her out. My Dad on the other hand sat us down and talked in a calm but firm respectable voice. He could have me in tears and never raise his voice or a hand to me. Personally even as an adult I would walk away from someone being rude, or aggressively trying to get their view about an issue across to me. I would not get my feelings hurt but I would not respect the person doing this enough to even want to listen to any advice they were giving me. I love learning and I love a good teacher who knows how to teach wisely. I am probably many of your senior but I am never going to get to the point that I am to old to learn.

I agree, great post.

Also can relate to being far more moved by my father's calm approach than my mother's raised voice.

[yorkietalkjilly]

Be soft. Do not let the world make you hard. Do not let pain make you hate. Do not let the bitterness steal your sweetness. Take pride that even though the rest of the world may disagree, you still believe it to be a beautiful place.
Author: Kurt Vonnegut

[ColesMommy01]

Originally Posted by yorkietalkjilly

Be soft. Do not let the world make you hard. Do not let pain make you hate. Do not let the bitterness steal your sweetness. Take pride that even though the rest of the world may disagree, you still believe it to be a beautiful place.
Author: Kurt Vonnegut

I like that! Although I admit I hated my hubby during labor with my son and I was very very bitter with the contractions

[buffy512]

I agree, as a parent. I know too well the reaction I get when I raise my voice firmly even. Its something I grew up with as well. I fight for those who dont have a voice. Or who no longer feel they have no voice. But who is yelling its an internet forum to post opinions. I have yet to disrespect anyone and its a beautiful gift to be a woman of opinion. I could never understand the gift to know how to control your destiny. Its a blessing to share my life with others as I please. The gift of knowing your giving your best each and everyday. Im sure we all have great intentions. Sadly some dont.

[lexi43]

Hey Sportschick: I can really understand how you feel I had hip surgery a few years ago and I also fractured my knee quite a few years back. Now I was diagnosed with Osteo. I know the pain. We have 5 small dogs and they are all young and love to play. The only good thing is that they have each other to play with and don't demand too much attention from me. My friend lives with me and she is home most of the time to help me but on the days when she has to work in the city it's murder. I actually have to throw their food down because I can't bend. Also Zach is a real lap dog and loves to be held. When my friend is home she holds him but I can't even bend down to pick him up. I never had to drug my dogs because most of time they play with each other but I can really understand you. You're doing what you can and don't let anybody tell you different.

[maggiefromnj]

I didn't read the whole thread as I knew it would spiral into admonitions etc.

It's not a good reason to drug your dog. Sorry. Just don't do it again.

When I am beat I just lie on the sofa and Maggie eventually brings me her toy and I can throw it. I don't really have to move. Or, I will sit on the floor (use lots of pillows to get yourself comfy.)

Try to find someone who can come over and visit and play for those times when you are really down or sick. You never know when you will really need the help.

I think these babies help keep some of us young. There have been many a walk I've taken for her when I really wouldn't have without her. At least one walk a day whether I like it or not. (except for really rainy or snowy nasty days--Maggie won't go out in the rain anyway!)

[Sunnydayz]

The reason I had even responded in this thread was to offer some suggestions to try and help. For the first 2 years after the spinal cord surgery, that destroyed who I used to be, I just wanted to die every day I woke up. It took that long o start coming out of the anger of what was done to me. I still talk to a therapist along with my other drs, every month so I can live as much of my life as I can. I even wrote an annonymous blog for a long time after my spinal cord damage to help me cope.

If you would like to know more about what my condition is and how I ended up here like this today, here is a link to my blog. LIVING LIFE WITH CES AFTER FAILED TARLOV SURGERY: May 2010 , I have never shared this before with anyone but my husband and my daughter, and the reason I am sharing it now, is so you sportschick, can see why I am trying to help you with suggestions, and how much worse life can truly be. I live this life and know, that Gizmo has given me so much happiness that I would only ever want to the same for him. Believe me, with my life the way it is, you appreciate happiness much much more.

My blog is a very long read if you start from the beginning dates on the left column, but maybe you will get an idea of why I feel it so important to have emergency plans in place, even if its just for a break, or something worse. I live an unexpected life where I never will know what will happen next. I feel Gizmo was sent to me by fate and I treasure him every day.