Post Puppy Depression:(

[yorkietalkjilly]

Originally Posted by lynzy420

I'm glad OP made a decision the was best for her and her pup. I sincerely hope that she works on her self confidence and seeks a counselor or life coach to deal with the issues that make her so afraid to commit. Surely this mindset won't do her well in "life." She really needs to become independent and confident in who she is....my dad always said, no one will know how special you are until you believe how special you are...it is so true.

As for Marley, he will be fine and I'm sure he will go to a loving home and end up right where he belongs. My only concern is that I heard mention that this may have been a byb? If so, I would have hoped that you would have made the sacrifice and instead of getting a "puppy promise" for the future that you would have given Marley a better chance by going to a rescue or rehomed to a good family that you chose. If you knowingly gave him back to someone that is questionable than I'm sorry but thats just another time that YOU are perpetuating your own inability to put the needs of others before yours.

I wish OP much luck and sincerely hope that she does work on "herself."

Excellent point & with a Yorkie puppy, they aren't going to languish in rescue for years due to lack of public inteterest. So many people want Yorkies. And reputable rescues do interrogate & check out the owner'- to-be thoroughly. My son is responsible at one or two of his rescue groups for this & the time & thought & psychology plus hard fact checking plus 2 home visits is astounding. Other "rescues" just sell to the person paying the price so those kind wouldn't be any better so it would depend on what rescue she placed little Marley with.

[Yeska]

Omg my babys name is MARLEY TOO!! i got him when he was 2 months and he wasnt pee pad trained i thoug ok it wont be hard i can handle this but after the 3rd day i got a lil frustated because he started peein all over my carpet my husband told me no to give up on him, and i understood the he was just a baby that didnt know better.. It took a wile for me to train him but NOW HE EVEN KNOW TRICKS I THOUG HIM hes almost 8 months old and i love him to death!! hes so smart and i know he loves me hes my only companion because my husband works shifts of 16hrs a day comes home eat and goes to sleep but MARLEY is always there for me i feel like the only thing hes missing is TALKING! If i didnt had him i would have to sleep alone but im so glad i have him, even tho hes so
Lil hes so brave, he protects me to death when we go to the beach we take em, even tho we have to hide them in "non pet friendly hotels" haha dont give up on ur marley, i can tell ur a loving person and u guys will make a Cute match, theres so many dogs out there that need a loving home!! He has one dont take it away from him!!

I brough a female yorkie from a lady, is so sad to see that she was bein abused how can some one do that to this lil babys, shes about 6lbs and was so scare of everything that she pees on her self it feels good now to see that
She
Is better she feels better i can see
The happy dog started to come out again she a awesome dog i dont know why they can treat her like that so sad

[huffox]

I am just seeing this post now. I am shocked. I was supposed to meet the OP and Marley for a play date as we live in the same state... which may sound weird but it's DE, so it's small. I wish I would have seen this and maybe met in person to help. My yorkie, Brisket is only 8 months, my husband works out of state, so I basically live alone 75% of the time, I'm 30, I'm an only child and boy have a had a few breakdowns at being overwhelmed (potty training has been a challenge), but that being said, I LOVE my Brisket. He's my buddy, he goes with me whenever I can take him, even been to two bars for when I was meeting friends out. I hope the puppy went to a good home, shoot I probably would have offered my home. Was looking forward to a playmate for Brisket.

[lexi43]

I have no words to discribe my feeling. I don't know why people go out and get dogs when they're not ready to have them. I'm also an only child and I used to travel all over on my vacations and go away for long weekends. Now that we have our fur babies we are a bit tied down but I wouldn't give them up for anything in the world. Sure I miss going away every year and having long weekends but I love my babies so much that it's worth it.
I'm glad she gave Marley back and I hope she doen't get another dog to break it's heart because she doen't like making sacrifices.
She should go out and get a goldfish.

[concretegurl]

Impulse buy.
This is why responsible breeders and not greeders, pup mills are the only option other than rescue.

[gracielove]

Thankfully, the puppy was young enough to go back without too much of an attachment for the puppy to have to deal with. I'm glad she didn't wait until the pup was 5 or 6 months old and then re home it. I really think she had a lot of issues and it was best for the puppy to go back although who knows what kind of home it went to next. This type of person probably would seem like a responsible person to take care of a dog to any breeder. She was a mature adult with a good job, no kids, etc. I don't know that anyone has worked up a psychological profile for selling puppies or a 5 page test to give them to make sure they are of sound mind. (It might be something to consider though)

[concretegurl]

Nothing is fool proof wish I could think of a better term.
Many people with psychological issues are great pet owners.
I would never violate trust but one of the ladies here is known for her equisit care of her dogs and ahe got her dirst yorkie while transitioning through a rough patch with being bipolar, both her and her dogs have grately bennefitted from eachother.
Mant people without a slight psychological characteristic to anything in the dmp are the reasons we have pounds and rescues, pup mills oh it goes on...a breeder can screen not guarentee its best intentions on both ends and hope between in most adoptions.

[gracielove]

Originally Posted by concretegurl

Nothing is fool proof wish I could think of a better term.
Many people with psychological issues are great pet owners.
I would never violate trust but one of the ladies here is known for her equisit care of her dogs and ahe got her dirst yorkie while transitioning through a rough patch with being bipolar, both her and her dogs have grately bennefitted from eachother.
Mant people without a slight psychological characteristic to anything in the dmp are the reasons we have pounds and rescues, pup mills oh it goes on...a breeder can screen not guarentee its best intentions on both ends and hope between in most adoptions.

Oh, I have no doubt that people with all types of problems are great with animals. It depends. This woman just was not able to deal with the responsibility for whatever reasons. As I said I'm glad she faced up to it before the puppy was any older. I have worked in the medical profession for many years and have known many "professionals" that I would not leave my pet with overnight.

[concretegurl]

Originally Posted by gracielove

Oh, I have no doubt that people with all types of problems are great with animals. It depends. This woman just was not able to deal with the responsibility for whatever reasons. As I said I'm glad she faced up to it before the puppy was any older. I have worked in the medical profession for many years and have known many "professionals" that I would not leave my pet with overnight.

Me too, even some vets and the their staff.

[maryj]

I think this is a very interesting post as I am thinking of getting a puppy real soon. I know how much time and attention they take.

I lost my best friend last week and I still cry every day. He was 14 yrs old. That 4 lbs of "trouble" brought the greatest joy to me. This past weekend a friend invited me to his cottage on the beach to take my mind off the loss. He keeps telling me I should enjoy my freedom. I should take a trip. I should find out who I am without my 4# companion. It makes me so sad that he doesnt understand the unconditional love we gave each other and all the life events we have shared. I dont want to be free. Coming home to the house today - empty -is just a dead feeling.

I think you havent had time to bond with him...and I dont think it willl take long. I would give it a few days. What I wouldnt give for one more silly lick. And you only have to please yourself dont worry about what other people think.

Good luck!

[msyorktown]

Originally Posted by maryj

I think this is a very interesting post as I am thinking of getting a puppy real soon. I know how much time and attention they take.

I lost my best friend last week and I still cry every day. He was 14 yrs old. That 4 lbs of "trouble" brought the greatest joy to me. This past weekend a friend invited me to his cottage on the beach to take my mind off the loss. He keeps telling me I should enjoy my freedom. I should take a trip. I should find out who I am without my 4# companion. It makes me so sad that he doesnt understand the unconditional love we gave each other and all the life events we have shared. I dont want to be free. Coming home to the house today - empty -is just a dead feeling.

I think you havent had time to bond with him...and I dont think it willl take long. I would give it a few days. What I wouldnt give for one more silly lick. And you only have to please yourself dont worry about what other people think.

Good luck!

This thread is a little older...the op already gave the pup back.... and welcome to YT!

[gracielove]

Originally Posted by maryj

I think this is a very interesting post as I am thinking of getting a puppy real soon. I know how much time and attention they take.

I lost my best friend last week and I still cry every day. He was 14 yrs old. That 4 lbs of "trouble" brought the greatest joy to me. This past weekend a friend invited me to his cottage on the beach to take my mind off the loss. He keeps telling me I should enjoy my freedom. I should take a trip. I should find out who I am without my 4# companion. It makes me so sad that he doesnt understand the unconditional love we gave each other and all the life events we have shared. I dont want to be free. Coming home to the house today - empty -is just a dead feeling.

I think you havent had time to bond with him...and I dont think it willl take long. I would give it a few days. What I wouldnt give for one more silly lick. And you only have to please yourself dont worry about what other people think.

Good luck!

She took the puppy back. It was the second time she had gotten a puppy and took it back. I know many people will bond with a pup especially after getting them though all the trials of "puppydom." For whatever reasons the responsibility of a puppy was just something she couldn't deal with.

Some people just don't have what it takes to give part of themselves to an animal. They don't understand it and don't really want to. Many of us have been told more than once that "it's only an animal" by people. They just don't get it and it's just as well they don't have an animal because they don't have what it takes to put someone else ahead their own needs and desires. Maybe your friend has never bonded with an animal and has no way to understand the pain of your loss.

[concretegurl]

I should add in all fairness if pkay well ehen we add another I'm thinking dog not puppy. Eveetone wants a new fluffy puppy but really the early part isn't easy its not all rainbows.

When I told my grandpa we got a puppy from a breeder, I explaineshave how theyto were akcso they showed andseveral how reputableto the line their my pup was from-this was years back, he shocked me when he said take it back thay breeder isn't worth their salt.

He told me in "his day" a reptable breeder didnt sell puppies they sold dogs usually arounds 6 months old they came house broken and knowing how to shake...I think he just meant they came trained. He said if I wanted a puppy to go to the pound and pick an accident out...

Funny how it's reversed now.

[gracielove]

Originally Posted by concretegurl

I should add in all fairness if pkay well ehen we add another I'm thinking dog not puppy. Eveetone wants a new fluffy puppy but really the early part isn't easy its not all rainbows.

When I told my grandpa we got a puppy from a breeder, I explaineshave how theyto were akcso they showed andseveral how reputableto the line their my pup was from-this was years back, he shocked me when he said take it back thay breeder isn't worth their salt.

He told me in "his day" a reptable breeder didnt sell puppies they sold dogs usually arounds 6 months old they came house broken and knowing how to shake...I think he just meant they came trained. He said if I wanted a puppy to go to the pound and pick an accident out...

Funny how it's reversed now.

I think breeding is done on a much larger scale now then back when your grampa is talking about. People who bred dogs back then were usually show people or people that had their special hunting/herding dog line. They knew that the true "pick of the litter" could not be determined until the puppies were much older. Now everybody thinks they can put any pure bred dogs together and get some puppies to sell. When I was a kid there was a wealthy couple who bred/showed Boxers. One of their litters produced a puppy with an over slung jaw. It wasn't too bad but of course it could not be bred. They gave her to my dad. My mom was pretty shocked when he brought her home. She was a great dog. I loved her. She was my first pure bred and I have loved them ever since. But there is a huge difference in breeding methods between now and back then.

[LanaHamilton]

Don't be too hard on yourself! I had to put down my wonderful dog (a mutt) 2 1/2 yrs. ago...said I'd never get another dog! Until 4 mos. ago I found Freddie....he stole my heart in a minute flat..there were other girls in the office that were interested in him (he came from the shelter) but Freddie picked me, followed me everywhere. Of course I took him home...At first I wondered what the heck I was doing.....that was for about an hour. I love my little guy with all my heart. I absolutely enjoy training him because he is so eager to please. This is my first yorkie, we do everything together. I like to have a drink after work and luckily the bar I like to stop at loves for Freddie to come in and he loves the attention! Give it some time, work with her, love her and remember you'll be getting the bestest friend in the world. I wish you luck girl!