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05-08-2012, 06:17 PM | #16 |
Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Mar 2011 Location: Pooler, GA USA
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| I 100% understand and know what you are saying... I am not really an animal person myself. Corky belongs to my daughter. But he really is not a baby as a matter of fact He is very independent when it comes to me. If he and I are in the house, he will be downstairs and I upstairs in my office, and I will not see him all day. But he is very dependent on my daughter BUT<<< I take good care of him, I am lucky that I can work from home. If I go out to work outside, he will come along and run around the back yard. Then he will sit down and take a nap, because I think he understands when I have that headset on he has to be quiet. I will go to the store or go to lunch with a friend, He will look at me; blink twice, and lay back down. I say bye cork! and I am out the door. I hope you find a balance, It will have to be what works for you. |
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05-08-2012, 06:25 PM | #17 |
YT Addict Join Date: Jun 2010 Location: Nebo, NC
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| I love Dink to pieces, but still it does not compare to the love for my children and husband. Some people need and/or want a pet to be even more than a pet. that's wonderful. no judgment just joy all around. |
05-08-2012, 06:27 PM | #18 |
Action Jackson ♥ Donating Member Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: Maryland
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| I do hear what you're saying! Not everyone who owns a dog can possibly devote all, or even most, of their time to that dog(s). And every one is different! There are LOTS of well-loved dogs who probably don't get the attention they may want, but you know what... there's lots of dogs content to just be a "family dog" and just BE there, if you know what I mean and live a very happy life. I think I've lightened up over the past few years too. While Jackson still is very much the center of my life in a lot of ways - I also know he will be absolutely fine if I do HAVE to leave him for 8 hours one day, or that I CAN go on vacation and enjoy myself and know he's being taken care of and will be fine upon my arrival. And he doesn't need to be doing something every second of every day and that he does need to learn to settle and entertain himself sometimes. With that said, he is my best buddy! He's truly FAMILY and my whole human family feels the same about him. If he's allowed, he's going to come with me, because *I* enjoy it, and he enjoys it as well, so why not? I love having him with me! I would say I am more of a "dog enthusiast" than most whereas I belong to this forum, and others, and I enjoy researching about veterinary medicine, food, vaccines, etc, and I love training. And Jackson lives a REALLY good life - he's a very active dog who really does need lots of exercise and stimulation so I do provide him with that. I don't ever regret for a minute getting him tho. He is my BOY and I can't even remember life without him. But him and I just click and mesh really well, right from the get-go, we had a strong communication between us. I think that can make a difference too. Certain ppl just don't click with certain dogs.... I know I don't really like when a dog constantly has to be on your lap, or be picked up, and is SUPER needy. Jackson is needy, but in a different way. Anyways I'm kind of rambling. For what it's worth, too, I've ALWAYS been a dog person. Since... I was born, LOL. I begged for a dog for years, and my dad got a Golden Retriever for "me" when I turned 4. I also had MY first dog (minus the costs) when I was 10 - a German Shepherd named Sadie. I was the kid who had toy plastic dogs, and studied the Dog Breed books, LoL!! So I definitely have always been INTO dogs as long as I can remember. I grew up with the dogs in my parents bed and my own, and went to school w/ dog hair all over me every day, lol. And for the past 4 years, I've been in the pet sitting "business" (my own thing)... sooo... Anyways that could be a big reason why I am the way I am!
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05-08-2012, 06:50 PM | #19 |
Donating YT 3000 Club Member Join Date: Dec 2011 Location: USA
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| I totally understand how you feel. I had two kids, 5 dogs, and various other animals. I am also very clean, not ocd, but clean. I had to take them back and forth to school, work their lunch program at school, basketball, baseball, gymnastics, dancing, sea cadets, boy scouts, soccer, track, swim, choir, cheerleading, clean, shop and be prepared. To me the dogs, who I loved, I could do without. They were alot of work, extra work! Many Many times I would wish I didn't have pets. Our life was full and it was a 7 day a week life, so the dogs and all the other pets were really over the top for me. After the children left, and the dogs passed on, the turtle released, the iguana rehomed, the birds passed, the snakes rehomed, tree frogs passed etc, I enjoyed the peace, for a little while. It was a full five years before I got another pet. It wasn't me that wanted one. But the relationship I have now with my little Yorkies is much greater than any other cat or dog (yes I forgot to list 2 cats above) I've ever had, and I think its because I can focus on them. I love them and theres nothing I wouldn't do for them, honestly. Sometimes, I still wish we hadn't gotten them, the financial cost has been staggering, the sacrifices have been many, but if I think of them gone....I just can't, I love them more each day! I know exactly how you feel and its ok. Like me you have them for your family, I never said no to my kids, because I knew what it was like not to have a pet! You are validated. With that said, you will never see me rolling along with my Yorkies in a stroller, I don't take them with me everywhere I go, I'm not big on froo froo, no bows or topknots, no doggie talk, but they are my best friends and my furbabies, and I adore them...I do think of them as part of my family but it could never be equal to my children...its just different. I have no idea why I have just babbled on, but I just want you to know I really do understand! Its ok and it doesn't make you bad. Finally, you really do love your Yorkie more than you know, your here at YT and that says alot about how much you care, you have quality time, I bet you really couldn't get rid of her if you had the chance...you would miss her way too much!
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05-08-2012, 06:56 PM | #20 |
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| Terrific post, just gotta love ya!
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05-08-2012, 07:09 PM | #21 |
Donating YT 2000 Club Member Join Date: Jan 2011 Location: Michigan USA & Sheffield UK
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| I read your post and it made my bawl....I still have guilt from my last yorkie! Like you, I had two young kids when I got Chelsea. Both kids were involved in activities and we were on the go alot. My life revolved around my kids, not my dog. Chelsea had a great life and was well cared for and loved...but not like ZoE is. And maybe it's not that the care itself is so much different, but the thought and focus on the care is definately greater now. My kids are both grown and both are away at college, and it's just me & ZoE, so she's the main focus of my daily life. Maybe ZoE has it better as my world pretty much centers on her and her care, but then again, Chelsea had my kids around everyday and she clearly loved being with them & being the "family dog". And I'll probably have more guilt when I'm retired and have another yorkie, as I'll be able to spend so much more time with that than I am with ZoE. I think guilt and feeling a bit insecure as to whether your doing all you can as best as you can is just part of parenting skin kids AND fur kids.
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05-08-2012, 07:23 PM | #22 |
YT Addict Join Date: Jul 2010 Location: Southern California
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| Also, about myself, I like to add that I don't think Tatiana is the center of my life. My husband and I INCLUDE her in our life. There's a difference. We never re-structured our life for her. We have the same lifestyle. We just made accommodations and efforts to INCLUDE her (going out, errands, meals, vacations, social events, etc). She is part of the pack. Family. |
05-08-2012, 07:25 PM | #23 | |
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To the OP I don't think someone that didn't love their furbaby and care about their well being would be a member of YT. I think plenty of us can relate to how you feel and I appreciate that you shared it with us
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05-08-2012, 07:27 PM | #24 |
YT Addict Join Date: Jan 2012 Location: Northern California
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| Thank you all for the replies and caring words. It is reassuring. I have no intention of rehoming her. My husband and I take having children and pets very serious. We did the first training course at Pet Smart and plan on going further because we wanted to get off on the right foot with her. My kids do love her too and would be very sad if she was gone. I guess I just wanted to say "aloud" what I was thinking and get some reassurance that I wasn't the only one and that it is okay. If I knew a few months ago what I know now, I probably would have waited on getting a Yorkie for a few years, but what is done is done. She is ours now and I overall am glad.
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05-08-2012, 07:34 PM | #25 | |
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05-08-2012, 07:45 PM | #26 |
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| When I was a young mother with four active children, I felt exactly like you do. Running a busy household kept me going 24/7, and there was never a day off! I loved our family dog to pieces, but he was just that, the family dog. Now the kids are grown, and the house is quiet. Did you know the refrigerator makes a humming sound when it kicks on? I never did until my kids were gone. Adopting Lola from the rescue made me aware of the plight of puppy mill dogs. Soon, I was taking in fosters. I needed something to nurture, and well, those little guys needed someone who would love and be patient with them while their bodies and spirits healed. It was a match made in heaven. My husband of 33 years is my soul mate. I love that man more each day! And my grand babies, well, they are the most handsome, perfect angels on God's green earth. I belong to the ladies guild, I scuba dive, garden, and decorate model homes for builders. My life has purpose and meaning. While everyone else is busy with their live's priorities, mine are my fur girls. This is where I'm at during this new season of my life. I don't expect everyone to understand or agree, and I don't stand in judgement of those who feel differently. Sami_girl, kiss your little boys often, and take lots of "heart moment" snapshots to hide in your heart, because they'll be grown and off to college in the blink of an eye! Oh, and Happy Mother's Day to you!
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05-08-2012, 07:56 PM | #27 |
YT Addict Join Date: Jan 2012 Location: Northern California
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| Made me tear up. Thank you.
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05-08-2012, 08:42 PM | #28 | ||
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05-08-2012, 09:29 PM | #29 |
I Love My Yorkies Donating Member Join Date: Feb 2005 Location: Indianapolis, Indiana
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| Im like you I love my yorkies but they arent my world. We go on vacations and do things without them which is unlike some people on here. I love them alot but we also like to do family stuff which doesnt always include them. I am okay with them on my lap for a short bit then I need to be able to go on and do whatever I need to do, I like your honesty
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05-09-2012, 04:19 AM | #30 |
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| Off Topic: I can't help but interject here with an endorsement that is near and dear to my heart. As much as I advocate for animals especially against unethical breeders, puppy mills etc (look at my signature), I happen to also work with children all day, good, bad and the worst possible. One thing I know for sure is there are many in foster care that are just waiting to have a name and family of their own. There is a misconception that all the kids in fostercare have a "defect" of some kind. I can tell you that is sooooo not the case....for those of you who could even consider for a moment the possibility of adding a foster child to your home...please look in to it, your local County Social Services department can help you. I'm sure your Yorkies would love a little friend! I'm sorry for the Off Topic, please resume your regular conversation!!!
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