Well I didnt see the post about the person who said they thought they should get different treatment but I dont agree with it either . There is no way they could run a site this size and diverse that way. I know people can and do leave for many reasons but when many say they are leaving because of the drama or are tired ofc the drama I take notice and thats all was saying. Nor do I think one group should dictate what everyone else does. I was just saying I take notice when long time members leave. Alot of them dont even say why they are leaving they just go

Right you are, I have learned from every debate on here, and from some people I have learned what I DON'T want to be, but they educated me none the less.

Can you come back once you leave??

I always picture people threatening to leave making a pouty face like a baby, I no wike it here anymore, you no play nice im telling! moooooooom! Im leaving, hmmm.

If you can interpret that with a baby voice its sounds so cute :)

Ha ha ha...yeah, I always kind of picture that too. :p

If you have Admin disable your account, you can always ask them to reactivate it later and pick up where you left off. (If they choose to allow it and as long as it's been at least 30 days since you left.)

But other than that, per site guidelines:
12. If you post a thread or post stating you will leave YorkieTalk, your post or thread will be deleted and your account will be permanently disabled.

I love rule #12!

I belong to another forum with no such rule and a few members regularly post that they are leaving after giving us a tongue lashing, saying how fed up they are with the forum, etc. We even had one member threaten to leave because not enough people were commenting on her pictures! She counted the number of views versus the number of posts and was very offended that so many people looked, but didn't take the time to comment. Of course, they never really leave or if they do, they always return.

People threaten to leave for attention and love to be begged not to leave. I am so glad YT doesn't permit this type of drama.

Oh...my bad...poorly worded. I meant someone as in the admin or mod. I know people beg others to stay.

I did ask someone to stay when I saw that they were attacked unnecessarily. They really did not post and sit around waiting for us to beg. They posted they were leaving...and bang, they were gone. I did talk about it later...it honestly still galls me. Not a lot bothers me on the internet, but once in a while I see something that totally gets to me. Guess we all have that happen at one time or another.

I need to freshen up on my YT rules, because I didn't know about this rule or forgot... :cool:

I must say I have seen quite a bit of this on here too......There's a time for support and then there is a time to zip it.....

What do you mean by "just go". Are the accounts still active? I have gotten fed up or really disliked somebody that everybody else seemed to just love and have left for a while but eventually come back.
Are these people just taking a kind of break or gone for good with closed accounts?

And I know exactly what ladyjane is talking about. There were a few that were "my way or the highway"...ended up being the highway.

They just leave but remain active on their account. Some leave and eventually come back some dont. I have recently learned someone who left here that I had alot of respect on here had the My way or the highway attitude and Im shocked. I just wouldnt have expected it from this person. Anyway so I know what LJ is saying also. I dont think Admin or the Mods should put up with that kind of attitude and honestly you couldnt or everyone would be doing it and it would be a mess

Wonderful thread :)

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I almost missed this post. Thank you, I'm glad you see my point!:)

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i so agree with wiley'smom..the people that bash or know it all should consider what they're dishing out and how would they feel if it was dished to them...i came on here to meet friends yes i met a very nice person and 3 ppl after they saw how bashed i got..i bred my yorkie to keep an offspring so even though i read books on the breed and wanted to be a vet so i read alot on different kinds of animals..i want to know first hand from ppl that experience the good with the bad..i was crucified for breeding my yorkie said i was putting a death notice on her...that was from a non breeder but breeders said i was doing it wrong to keep an offspring,a girl..sadly chloe had 3 pups would of been 4 but 1 was dead inside her,the vet gave her a needle to produce milk and to push him out..she had 2 boys and a girl but the girl died sadly 3 days later...the 2 boys are striving..i came on here to learn and too calm my nerves and know what they just made my nerves go out the door..1 of the breeder who lives 45min from me i called her when chloe was having them and she talked me threw it and calm me down and suggested i take her to the vet for the needle to produce the milk since she wasn't..glad i did x-ray showed only 3 pups..so i see what everyone is getting at if you don't like someone or going only say mean things to them my pt is to stuff it and shutup for once lol ty

Interesting how some people turn things into what they were never meant to be. I am going to stop at that because this is a nice thread and to give any further details would most likely turn it into a debate about compassion for people vs compassion for animals.
I personally go with the animals first since they do not have voices they can use to speak for themselves.

Sashazx,
I am sorry that your feelings were hurt on YT. I am sure it can be over-whelming receiving advice and criticism from people you do not know as I am sure it was no pleasant feeling for them to receive the comments and remarks that you made. I made no attempts to comment on your original post as it was none of my business and I learned loads of useful information for future use. However, I do feel like now you are beating a dead horse. You have gone outside your own thread to comment in one that was created to help people UNDERSTAND compassion, not to come on here and rehash something that took place weeks ago and RECEIVE compassion for it. You have made several comments referring to your nervous state and how you came to YT to calm your nerves. I am afraid that is impossible, when you will not let the air out of the balloon. It is my hopes that you will let by-gones be by-gones and forget what is well in the past. Please let's just move forward from here on out and learn from each other's joys, sorrows, mistakes, misfortunes, and happiness. We should all take a lesson from our Yorkies and take life one day and one tail wag at a time!
Thank you,
:aimeeyorkYorkieProud:aimeeyork

:pISN'T IT FUNNY HOW THE SMALLEST CREATURE CAN HAVE THE BIGGEST HEART?:p

Well said. :thumbup:

Also good to point out that just because one person may refuse to see logic and reason, the advice being given is not all for nothing. You never know who else, aside from the initial asker, is reading and learning from what is being shared and suggested.

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I haven't been on here for awhile. Didn't fall out with anyone, just everything has been going so well that i haven't needed any advice. Oh dear famous last words. Anyway this is a great thread and has reminded us all that we are here because we all love our dogs, yorkies and otherwise.

not pointing fingers are saying anything else except for fact that i think somepeople still are not getting the point of this thread.........evidently there are those that just dont know what the word compassion means.........i think this thread needs to be a sticky!!!

I think that most people do understand exactly what it means.

Being compassionate does not mean that people should sit idly by and ignore when a pup might be harmed. If you are referring to another thread, no one was being mean...they were trying to help. Perhaps you don't care for the offers that were made, but that does not make them wrong or mean.

how do i join the chat

never mind, just think i figured it out

I thought this was a good read and maybe help to bring it back.

Just because you don't like a person, agree with their ways doesn't mean you can't have a little compassion for another human. I know Christmas time stress levels run high and sometimes we talk before thinking. We are all very passionate about the breed. If we just could agree to disagree but so some compassion doing it.

Its Christmas week. Could we all just try to step up a notch and make it a wonderful week. You are ALL a great group of people and bring something great to the site. I wish you a very Merry Christmas.

This was a great thread to wake up to this morning. Kind words are healing and uplifting. Bless you all.

Amen to that

Happy Holidays :)!

:thumbup: Exactly.

After a few new threads that turned very heated, I think this reminder is way overdue.

Just be thoughtful, and remember your passion for the dogs does not excuse your LACK of COMpassion for your fellow human beings.

If you cannot change a persons mind, then walk away. That person might think about what you said and change their mind later, but they will never change it if you try to bully them into it.

--Reinhold Niebuhr

The last line in this prayer is the most important. It is what makes the other two lines work.