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The upside is sometimes they are informative IF you can get past the personalities bantering and I too have seen people stepping up to help no matter what was said on the public site I imagine there are far more private messages helping others also no internet site will be drama free - I remember a doll site someone spoke about ages ago - now we're talking about a DOLL site - I remember being told it was one of the most vicious places to post :confused:- I still never understood that one - dolls don't get sick, don't get neglected or abused and you don't breed them ....yet people found stuff to argue about ? |
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Could one of the reasons of all this drama be that most of us members are women?:rolleyes: Most of my co-workers are women, there is always drama going on. "She said this and she said that, and do you know what she did now..?" I rather work with 20 men instead of 5 women...lol. I'm only human, I love a good gossip but if it comes to attacking and back stabbing I'm out of there. Another reason is, as said above, we are on an internet forum, most of us don't know the others by face and it's so much easier to talk like this incognito. Hopefully I haven't offended anyone. |
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There is a true line between a little gossip and real, INTENTIONAL viciousness. The difference is very easy to see. Whether or not people want to see it, *shrugs*, well that's a whole other topic :). |
It is shocking to see just how vicious people can be Ann, I agree totally, especially when you are totally blindsided by it coming from a trusted friend. But it just makes me cherish the good people in my life all the more and cements the fact that my dogs are waaaayyy cooler than the weirdos out there! To believe in your choice you don't need to prove that other people's choices are wrong. Paulo Coelho (LOVE HIM):D |
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It is definitely because this forum is all women. Im with you a little idle gossip I dont mind and have participated in. I dont like vindictiveness or back stabbing. I do get concerned though when it reaches a level that long time members leave. I tend to think maybe they are seeing something I am just not seeing. I dont know maybe its because Ive been on here for several years I just get attached to the long time members even the ones I dont agree with. There are alot of personalites and opinions and we need to speak our mind and be gvood stewards of animals but we also have to find a happy medium for everyone I didnt mean to get so sappy but this is really how Ive been feeling lately |
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I'm sorry, but what difference does it make how long someone has been a member? There is nothing that says that someone being here for x amount of time can hold that over other's heads. I saw someone recently who said she left because she could not tell the admin how to do things ... and she could not believe after all these years they let her leave. What makes anyone special? I mean...heck I have been here for four years and I have been suspended...been warned just like others. I have had people say nasty things to and about me. It is just the way life is...not everyone is going to like us...and we are not going to like them. I will only leave when I want to...and will not allow a post or two that I dont like (and trust me there are MANY that I personally find highly offensive as they relate to yorkies), run me off. If someone chooses to leave over a few posts, and SAY that...well my personal opinion is that they think they are better....and they want people to beg them to stay. That is just not realistic. Everyone is replaceable....the site will always go on. |
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Just a note on women vs. men... I have always worked in male-dominated environments since college, and TRUST ME, men love drama as much as we do. It does tend to get expressed differently, with a lot more aggression, and about different topics, but the most hysterical, unstable boss I've ever had was a man. He would regularly lose his temper and yell at you over nothing, just like a very hairy woman with PMS. Just my opinion. Of course, I've always shown lots of compassion towards him. ;) |
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I guess the people who can read between the lines is often on line can see this. Like myself do not make a thread any longer... I post once in awhile but much it is taking the focus away from the reason we all come to yorkietalk to begin with. Further more I can remember a day that threads with this behaviour and taunting was not allowed.. I feel like this has been somehow lost.. I am pretty much a loner on the forum and reading can always let us know of intent.. I am hoping yt will again get on track with threads that are either information.. fun and helping people cope with emergencies and or the loss of a beloved furbutt.. Thank you again for trying to turn up the compasion again on this forum that so many have loved for years. |
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Have you ever read Sidartha, by Herman Hesse? I think you would like that as well. |
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Very hairy women!! Love it! |
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I understand your points and I am not saying anything negative to or about you. I keep seeing people talk about long term members leaving...and I just have my own thoughts about that. And....honestly, you never know if anyone will be here the next day! Longevity is not a guarantee that they will be here. That is in real life as well..things happen and people move on to different things....different places. |
I managed over 1,000 men across the country....and boy it took great effort to keep them from whining, calm and focused on their jobs..... While I thoroughly enjoy YT, I think some of us get a bit touchy when a remark is made, some think it's directed and them, and off it goes. I try to remember that a good healthy debate is the best way to learn. As far as someone being here longer than another, well that is not the best way to judge someone on their knowledge. I know if my mentor joined this forum today (when hell freezes over, cause she hates computers), and I didn't know her, just be the way she would post would, I would know that this woman was a woman of great knowledge. |
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I took a class last semester in school and we talked abut relational aggression it is a "psychological (social/emotional) aggression between people in relationships. Relational aggression is a form of aggression where the group is used as a weapon to assault others and others' relationships. It uses lies, secrets, betrayals and other dishonest tactics to destroy or damage the relationships and social standing of others in the group. Also known as covert bullying, social aggression , "female bullying", family bullying or serial bullying, it is a covert form of aggression, used by both men and women in relationships. It is less well-known than physical forms of aggression and therefore much more difficult to detect. Often, the victim may not know the abuser is lying or gossiping about the victim, and the abuser may even pretend to befriend the victim." We learned that this type of aggression is more likely to use by girls than boys. |
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