GREAT advice, and I am past being upset. Not worth it. I am going to enjoy the season and love my friends (and that includes those on here) and family!

I have taken the advice posted on here to add some members to my Ignore List. WONDERFUL advice and things are already much more pleasant.

Thanks to you all and have a FABULOUS DAY!!!

LOL. I look at everything in perspective. Bottom line - it's an online Yorkie forum. What am i really going to be offended by?? :)

:yorkietal I love YorkieTalk too. I have made some wonderful life long friends on this forum. YT is more than about yorkies, it is also about sharing our goals, our inspirations, our joy, our sadness, our grief and so much more.
It is also very educational and entertaining at times. :)

:thumbs up Thanks to Admin and all the moderators for a job well done. I know it is a difficult job.

:bravo: Bravo to those that share their wisdom and convictions. Bravo to those that stick around to learn.

:santa: Merry Christmas to everyone, I pray everyone has a wonder holiday, whatever it may be and a prosperous and blessed New Year.

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Merry Christmas All! I wish warm and peaceful thoughts and a Happy and Joyous New Year! :)

Merry Christmas and a Joyous New Year to all

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My wish is sincere, with out sarcasm and goes out to all, even those I've disagreed with in the past....hope you all have a blessed Christmas and the very best New Year!

Merry Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays to everyone! Hope the new year brings peace and wonderful things to your lives!

And a tiny piece of wisdom that sure has made my life easier:

“Resentment is like taking poison and waiting for the other person to die.”

[QUOTE=jp4m2;3364586]I just wanted to say.....There's always going to people out there that will test our patience and understanding. How we respond to another's views and opinions has a lot to to with each of our own unique make up of sensitivities, life experiences, differing personalities, expectations, fears, and our attitudes.

These qualities will determine our ability and capacity to show others respect, understanding, compassion, humility, patience and strength when confronted with these situations. .....Sometimes we will never have a complete understanding of every situation. When you notice someone is wrong or may not share the same views as you, let it go if it’s not a life & death situation. The uneasiness left lingering in the air over a small matter of opinion is not always worth the discomfort of continued confrontations. Every opinion, reaction, perception, and preference is not important, necessary, or kind to reveal.

I hope everyone has a wonderful holiday and in the coming year we all gain some peace, hope and many blessings!!.....
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Beautifully said.......

I just want to say that some of my best friendships here have been forged through an initial disagreement. I try not to set my feelings in stone, especially with the little things. It just isn't worth it and who knows.....you may change your mind about something and find a good friend along the way.

Have a wonderful holiday, everyone....and try to love your fellow man as much as you love your Yorkies :).

That may have been your intent, but some didn't take it that way. That's nearly always my intent, and as you know, people don't always take it that way. Are they wrong or perhaps I haven't written it good enough, or a little of both? We're not perfect, we all get our feelings hurt; we don't always have the time to write each post just right, but I think if someone looks hard enough at the post they can see the "intent." I think if we want to become encouraging instead of just preachy, we have to be so careful how we phase things, yet some will still think nagging them and calling them names. I think what some of us see as nasty is really "frustration".

I think I have to give her a promotion and call her Mother Ann -- she does have to keep us kids in line from time to time. ;)

Words of wisdom...thank you, Jim. Like you one of my best relationships here didn't begin so friendly...we disagreed, then agreed to disagree, ended up I agreed with her more than I thought:) Btw....she still owes me a steak, but then, I still owe her a salad:p

Great point and wonderful sentiments.

Wishing you a Merry Christmas and Happy New Year too -- along with all my YT friends and future friends!

Disagreement, yes...absolutely!

Nastiness? NO. Absolutely NOT. Nobody deserves that.

I can agree to disagree in a calm, kind, civil manner. What I have seen posted to those here is NOT that.

Hey you taught me something on another thread, and I'm no longer bugged when I hear the term "Holiday tree", in fact, it has enriched my spirit, not taken away from my beliefs, which I think was where my irritation was coming from. So thank you very much!

My pastor said once that is easier to pull someone off a chair, than it is for someone on that chair to pull someone up......

If one is looking for the negative.....they'll find it easier than weeding through and finding the positive.

You are making fun of my Chanukah bush.:o

Calling others "nasty" is nasty, don't people understand that? It's not calm, it's not kind, and it's not civil.

I'm not making fun of it at all. I did a search on Chanukah bush after you wrote about it, and I saw things from a different perspective. I must admit that Sarah Silverman - "Give The Jew Girl Toys" video brought tears to my eyes, and I guess that helped open them.

I'm just playing. I'll have to find that video!

Turn up the compassion is the name of this thread, I see it has gone off course. Happy Heart!!!!!

Wow -- reading all of your posts in just this one thread. Usually people are a member here for more than 10 days before they get quite so judgemental about the forum and all its members. Maybe such judgemental tones are really not the "kind and civil" manners you are requesting from others? Maybe taking just a snapshot in time from the forum is not giving the membership a fair evaluation? Remember the posts about ignoring things that really bother you? Maybe you will put me on ignore for saying this but I am trying to think of how you could look at this differently and not seem so personally offended and upset. Try to look past the small stuff and see the bigger picture. For every negative there are a hundred positives!! That is often true of the individual as well as the site in total. Concentrate on those positives and you may come to love this place and its members as much as most of us do. :)

BTW -- I think I had confused new members and you are not looking for a puppy now -- sorry about the confusion. I have often mistaken one member for another or thought a member reminded me of someone else. Sometimes I have even found they are another person! But I am usually late to pick up on those kinds of things. I even call my sons by each other's names -- so confusion is not always limited to the forum. :confused:

If you google pics of Chanukah bushes, there is one that is really pretty -- a white painted branch thingy with ornaments. How could you not want one? :p When my father was too lazy to put up a Christmas tree, he would throw lights on the huge ficus tree and call it his Chanukah bush. :rolleyes:

It's definitely easier for someone to pull one down to their level than for you to lift them up to yours.

Which is why nastiness begets more nastiness easier than kindness begets more kindness.

This thread is a perfect example. The angry people have sucked others in to thier mood, but the Cheerfull people are struggling just to remain cheerful.

As for me I keep falling off the fence and climbing back up on it.

Tis the season to be jolly. :D

Many of them only last an hour or two before they can't take it.

Now that brought a smile to my face.:)

found it! :rofl28ib:

I'm glad you can smile at my irreverent father. I'm stuck with him. :D He is a good guy and it is his way of embracing all that is good in the world.

From reading your post I think your one of the angry people your complaining about. Why keep it going.