Help Please

[mommaofmia]

First of all, I would like to say that I'm sorry that I've caused so much turmoil over this post. I never for one sec wanted this to happen. There's really only been one person that I really thought was rude and she doesn't post anymore. I do think she is sitting back watching and smiling over all of this but that's beside the point. Like I wrote last night, I don't regret anything I've done and if I had to do it all over again considering my situation, I would do everything the same. Nancy, I know you mean well, and I really don't think that you meant any harm in what you have said. I've known you since I joined YT in 2007. You helped me with my avatar and you have always been nice to me. I will differ with you on the learning experience this has showed me. I feel like once you own a Yorkie, your learning experience begins on the first day and that is the very REASON i joined YT. I was eager to learn about this breed since Mia was my first, but with this situation, it wasn't about what I had to learn but what was in my heart for this breed. I knew she didn't need to be kept outside. I knew she needed fed. I knew she needed a bath. I knew she needed warm shelter. I knew she needed TLC. I knew she needed a temporary home. I knew we needed to try and find her owner if she had one. I knew that she could possibly have been abandoned or possible mistreated. I knew she needed a stable home until we possibly found her owner. I knew she needed a vet, and the way I knew all these things was because of YT. I have been a member here for over two years now. I don't post much, but I come here everyday and read things. On this day, I came here to get support from YT. She was nearly and I mean a few days from starving to death. LadyJane is the one that started accusing me of not trying to find the owner, saying she wasn't sick and that I didn't need help from any of you and that I was wasting valuable time from other sick babies. I truely was floored by all of her statements and I believe that's where all this started. I think I have got some valuable information here from most people but as I said before, I wouldn't do anything different. I did the right thing and have no regrets. Nobody knows until they have walked in someone else's shoes. Every situation is different and towns and states are different. Considering all of this combined, I did everything the way my heart told me to to. Again I am sorry I've caused all of this....

[megansmomma]

Originally Posted by mommaofmia

First of all, I would like to say that I'm sorry that I've caused so much turmoil over this post. I never for one sec wanted this to happen. There's really only been one person that I really thought was rude and she doesn't post anymore. I do think she is sitting back watching and smiling over all of this but that's beside the point. Like I wrote last night, I don't regret anything I've done and if I had to do it all over again considering my situation, I would do everything the same. Nancy, I know you mean well, and I really don't think that you meant any harm in what you have said. I've known you since I joined YT in 2007. You helped me with my avatar and you have always been nice to me. I will differ with you on the learning experience this has showed me. I feel like once you own a Yorkie, your learning experience begins on the first day and that is the very REASON i joined YT. I was eager to learn about this breed since Mia was my first, but with this situation, it wasn't about what I had to learn but what was in my heart for this breed. I knew she didn't need to be kept outside. I knew she needed fed. I knew she needed a bath. I knew she needed warm shelter. I knew she needed TLC. I knew she needed a temporary home. I knew we needed to try and find her owner if she had one. I knew that she could possibly have been abandoned or possible mistreated. I knew she needed a stable home until we possibly found her owner. I knew she needed a vet, and the way I knew all these things was because of YT. I have been a member here for over two years now. I don't post much, but I come here everyday and read things. On this day, I came here to get support from YT. She was nearly and I mean a few days from starving to death. LadyJane is the one that started accusing me of not trying to find the owner, saying she wasn't sick and that I didn't need help from any of you and that I was wasting valuable time from other sick babies. I truely was floored by all of her statements and I believe that's where all this started. I think I have got some valuable information here from most people but as I said before, I wouldn't do anything different. I did the right thing and have no regrets. Nobody knows until they have walked in someone else's shoes. Every situation is different and towns and states are different. Considering all of this combined, I did everything the way my heart told me to to. Again I am sorry I've caused all of this....

Let me show you were LadyJane had been.............and it isn't sitting back laughing
http://www.yorkietalk.com/forums/yor...ml#post3118276

She has more compassion in her little finger then most have in their entire body! I cannot BELIEVE you! Now I am disgusted!

[Patti]

Wow! I have been on vacation for 5 days and I cannot believe people are still commenting on what the OP should and shouldn't have done. I am just glad this baby is being taken care of and getting love which is what we all want for this baby. I do not think you have to be in rescue to have the instinct to know if someone will be a good home for an animal even if is temporary, and that is what this OP did. I volunteer at a shelter and they are extremely picky on where their dogs and cats go and yet many are returned because they didn't potty train perfectly, they have a minor health issue or they just don't want the pet anymore. I see their faces week in and week out when they are sitting in a cage scared and wondering what they did do end up here. So I would rather have one of my babies in the arms of a loving person than sitting in a cage scared to death. JMO.

[TaylorWoods]

OH MY WORD! I have spent a good hour of my time reading through this thread AGAIN. up until now I have been too afraid to offer any words of advice or my opinions in case I too was shot down in a blaze of glory.

I fully understand that people on this site are passionate about the breed, so am I, that's why we are members in the first place. But I would love to know this:

Mammaofmia put the dog into a different home for reasons that make sense to me. It was someone who was willing to spend her own money on the dog to get it checked out and fed and back to health. Mammofmia had to work on monday like most of us do...And she has checked up on her all the time, almost like a bit of a team effort between the 2 of them. She didnt just leave the dog there and leave it at that and never check up on it again. If she is out all day and could not care for the dog then it's best to put it in a different home until the owners can be found. What difference is there between her putting it in this loving home or it being "rescued" by others on this site who offered that in the very beginning? In fact, if anything it would mean that the dog might possibly be even further from home after that and never find it's real owners.

She did a good thing helping this dog. I once stopped my car to help a German Shepherd that was on death's door. In his desperation to eat he accidently bit my finger (a tiny scratch only) and I ended up in hospital being treated for rabies and it cost me over R5000 to have done. The dog was put down immediately (the same day) by the SPCA and was not given a chance at all. This world is inundated with an excess of animals, both strays and lost pets and shelters often resort to euthansia. I was told I did the wrong thing and I must turn a blind eye to animals in the street to avoid it happening again but that would mean i wasnt being true to myself. And when i took it to the SPCA I was given 100 million accusations that I had abused my OWN dog and was now dumping him with them. Yet still I continue to help an animal in need to matter what people say. I know how rotten I felt after that, as if I HAD done something wrong...so imagine how these posts are making the poster feel...Ive seen it in another post...people want every little detail in order of occurence and Lord help you if you miss out somethng or contridict yourself in some little way.

I just feel (and I have said this before) that YT is supposed to be a COMMUNITY whether you live in America, South Africa, Asia or some remote island in the middle of the Atlantic. the BITCHINESS that goes on here, back and forth, is just too much. Yes, we all have opinions and concerns, but perhaps people should just give some thought to what they say and how they say it. Just because you are sitting on the other end of an internet line and not talking face to face does not give anyone the right to be rude. Would you speak like that to people you meet in day to day life? If so, maybe some soul searching is in need.

I will also say that when this thread started I was a little startled that she had put the dog in a new home before seeing the vet, but as I read on I could see the benefits. Yes, it sounded like the new older lady had found a "new dog" to keep forever but she has done everything in her power to find the owner and she is still trying. Reality is that there are people out there who dump animals or abondon them and then there are others who never stop searching for them.

The only thing threads like this do for most members is inspire them to shut it down. They then come back to look for help and get treatment like this.

If you have noticed that this thread has gone from being concern over the dog to a battle of opinions. Very few people are asking how the dog is and Mammaofmia is trying desperately to defend her actions. the rest of it is others fighting each other over comments they made and why etc etc etc. "I'm right, You're wrong" kind of comments. have you all forgotten to even ask how the little dog even is???

So Mammaofmia, how is the little girl doing? If she is someone's lost pet I hope they find her. like it was pointed out, so many different circumstances could be in play and they might be unaware she is missing altogether. If she was dumped or abused in any way, then I really hope she settles in to her new TEMPORARY home and her life is healthy and filled with lots of love and joy

Nancy, You do a great job and some of your words were misconstrued. I have only ever known you to say things out of genuine concern so thank you for that.

I am a firm believe in constructive critisism...perhaps if you feel the writer is doing something wrong in future, stop for a moment, gather your thoughts and then write.

[mommadog1]

Originally Posted by megansmomma

Let me show you were LadyJane had been.............and it isn't sitting back laughing


She has more compassion in her little finger then most have in their entire body! I cannot BELIEVE you! Now I am disgusted!

Then MOST people? Give me a break.. I don't think so!!! Maybe SOME people but not most..

And honestly, some of us just don't care what LJ has been doing

She isn't the ONLY person helping dogs, AND I would say that I would love to see this kind of passion about helping poor helpless starving and beaten children in this country.

I love my dogs, But I put people before animals.

[mommaofmia]

Originally Posted by megansmomma

Let me show you were LadyJane had been.............and it isn't sitting back laughing
http://www.yorkietalk.com/forums/yor...ml#post3118276

She has more compassion in her little finger then most have in their entire body! I cannot BELIEVE you! Now I am disgusted!

Sorry you feel this way. I didn't know a thing about LadyJane until Nancy emailed and told me what was going on with her. I shouldn't have said that about her and I'm sorry, but she shouldn't have said all the things about me either. We neither one know each other but through this thread and that hasn't been good. I will be the bigger person here and apologize for what I said. I wish her and the baby all the luck in it's recovery and will say a special prayer her him tonight.

[Nancy1999]

Originally Posted by mommaofmia

Sorry you feel this way. I didn't know a thing about LadyJane until Nancy emailed and told me what was going on with her. I shouldn't have said that about her and I'm sorry, but she shouldn't have said all the things about me either. We neither one know each other but through this thread and that hasn't been good. I will be the bigger person here and apologize for what I said. I wish her and the baby all the luck in it's recovery and will say a special prayer her him tonight.

I'm glad you can be forgiving, I think so many of us are on the same page, and Megansmama, I really think mommaofmia was feeling attacked, it doesn't mean she was attacked, but if someone is feeling that way, they aren't going to hear what you are saying. There are so many wonderful people here and I think we all want the same thing, we want dogs to be found and taken care of, and good homes found for them if their original owners can't be found. Mommaofmia did find a new home, perhaps a little too soon, but she explains to me, she was afraid that her son would get a little too attached, and probably herself, as well. She and the new caretaker are trying to locate the owner, and this is what I needed to know.

We have a sticky on what to do if your dog is lost, but maybe we need one on what to do if you find a dog? What are all the steps we should take before we can place a dog in a new home?

[fourdez]

Originally Posted by mommaofmia

First of all, I would like to say that I'm sorry that I've caused so much turmoil over this post. I never for one sec wanted this to happen. There's really only been one person that I really thought was rude and she doesn't post anymore. I do think she is sitting back watching and smiling over all of this but that's beside the point. Like I wrote last night, I don't regret anything I've done and if I had to do it all over again considering my situation, I would do everything the same. Nancy, I know you mean well, and I really don't think that you meant any harm in what you have said. I've known you since I joined YT in 2007. You helped me with my avatar and you have always been nice to me. I will differ with you on the learning experience this has showed me. I feel like once you own a Yorkie, your learning experience begins on the first day and that is the very REASON i joined YT. I was eager to learn about this breed since Mia was my first, but with this situation, it wasn't about what I had to learn but what was in my heart for this breed. I knew she didn't need to be kept outside. I knew she needed fed. I knew she needed a bath. I knew she needed warm shelter. I knew she needed TLC. I knew she needed a temporary home. I knew we needed to try and find her owner if she had one. I knew that she could possibly have been abandoned or possible mistreated. I knew she needed a stable home until we possibly found her owner. I knew she needed a vet, and the way I knew all these things was because of YT. I have been a member here for over two years now. I don't post much, but I come here everyday and read things. On this day, I came here to get support from YT. She was nearly and I mean a few days from starving to death. LadyJane is the one that started accusing me of not trying to find the owner, saying she wasn't sick and that I didn't need help from any of you and that I was wasting valuable time from other sick babies. I truely was floored by all of her statements and I believe that's where all this started. I think I have got some valuable information here from most people but as I said before, I wouldn't do anything different. I did the right thing and have no regrets. Nobody knows until they have walked in someone else's shoes. Every situation is different and towns and states are different. Considering all of this combined, I did everything the way my heart told me to to. Again I am sorry I've caused all of this....

Mommaofmia: You did a wonderful thing under the circumstances and don't let others make you feel otherwise. You did the best you could with what you had and that little baby is better for it. The only mistake you made was posting it. One thing this tread has taught me is that to never, EVER, EVER post something like this on here. You would think that you chopped and made filets out of that little dog the way you were criticise.. If I were you I would put a period on this thread and don't look at it again. And that, my dear, is my opinion !!