Argument Over Couver...

[Britster]

Originally Posted by viviansnickers

Hey Girly....

I am also a newlywed (will be a year in August) and Snickers came into my life 2nd after my sweetheart husband. I am going to be upfront and count my blessings by saying that I think my husband loves Snickers more than me sometimes haha. He wouldn't mind taking Snickers everywhere, but you have to think about the NORM. So many people own dogs, small and large and the NORMAL thing to do is leave your dog at home when you run errands and when you go out to eat. It is not a question in our home, when we run errands and go out, Snick stays home. It's our time together and it's what society does and how things just are. Your husband might feel uncomfortable or weird that you're carrying your pup everywhere when generally people do not do that. He also has a good point that he wants time with you. We both also work and Snick is home alone from 9am-3:30pm and we don't like leaving him home when we have stuff to do, but we also have to have a life as well to meet up friends, socialize, and to run errands. Don't forget how important these 1st few years of marriage are for us...

Hugs!!

Ps..I have a carrier for Snick and want to take him everywhere but I fear of getting kicked out of places!!

Good post!

Think if you had a Lab or something... it's not that easy to just take him everywhere with you. I've grown up with always leaving the dog at home when you go somewhere.

The only time I bring him places with me is if we're going to a park, a kids baseball little league game or something of that sort. It's just the normal thing to do.

[FlDebra]

Originally Posted by jmdt

Believe me I know how much you love your baby. But you have to leave him home and go to the store with hubby. You aren't going to be there for long. Spend the time with your husband. If you work and go to school there must not be much time for your dh. That baby will be there when you get home. One thing you will learn husband comes first.

Very good advice!

[naturalallure]

Originally Posted by jmdt

Believe me I know how much you love your baby. But you have to leave him home and go to the store with hubby. You aren't going to be there for long. Spend the time with your husband. If you work and go to school there must not be much time for your dh. That baby will be there when you get home. One thing you will learn husband comes first.

I agree... maybe try and split the time evenly. Hubby time, Couver time, all together time. That's what I do... because I love having just me and hubby time just as much and I've noticed hubby's can be a bit like kids at time and want all of your attention. Don't allow it to become an obstacle, just figure out a way to make everyone happy.

[naturalallure]

Originally Posted by bchgirl

Or simply leave hubby at home. Personally I'd rather shop without mine.

lolol

[dogbert]

I agree with a couple people here, first find out why hubby doesn't want the pup to go. Then see what you can work out from there, maybe they need to take turns. Maybe they are competing for your attention? Some men get jealous of babies taking attention from them so why not a dog? I also wonder if it's because you are both young. We will have been married 25 years next month and my hubby loves our Yorkie, he tells her she can go with us sometimes after I tell her she can't.

[yorkie mad]

It seems like alot of us are in the same boat here going by the posts. I asked my DH why cant she come with us and she does most of the time and he said he would like us to go places where she can't go sometimes e.g restaurant. He has a point because EVERY weekend we do something that involves her also.But like you I cant stop thinking about her when shes not with me. I guess I hoped it would wear off a little now she is 10 mths old , but its got stronger. So sorry not much help here lol.

[Sweetlips6]

Originally Posted by jmdt

Believe me I know how much you love your baby. But you have to leave him home and go to the store with hubby. You aren't going to be there for long. Spend the time with your husband. If you work and go to school there must not be much time for your dh. That baby will be there when you get home. One thing you will learn husband comes first.

WOW, this is a tough one, but this is the right answer IMO.
I am gone all day too, and I spend as much time with Bonnie as I can in the evenings and weekends. But our DH's need our attention and love too. Maybe DH is a little jealous. Show him some extra affection and maybe he won't mind if Couver goes next time.

[lovespandp]

Originally Posted by CouversMom

My husband is tired of me taking Couver with us places. We were going to go to the mall and Bed Bath and Beyond tonight, and I put Couver in his carrier, and now he is refusing to go if I take Couver.

I work and go to school, and this is when I get to be with Couver, and I feel that my husband is taking that away from me. I don't know what to do. I want to take him places, and I don't expect my hubby to do anything when we do, but he refuses. What should I do?

Aww that really stinks! I am sorry to hear that. I would break it down for your hubby and tell him how you feel about it. Maybe if he sees and hear how you feel he will comfort you.

[LilMissy]

Originally Posted by bchgirl

Or simply leave hubby at home. Personally I'd rather shop without mine.

ITA!