Argument Over Couver... My husband is tired of me taking Couver with us places. We were going to go to the mall and Bed Bath and Beyond tonight, and I put Couver in his carrier, and now he is refusing to go if I take Couver. I work and go to school, and this is when I get to be with Couver, and I feel that my husband is taking that away from me. I don't know what to do. I want to take him places, and I don't expect my hubby to do anything when we do, but he refuses. What should I do? |
Aw, I'm sorry. That's a really tough situation. :( I don't really have much advice for you but maybe you could compromise? Like, maybe only take Couver with you every other shopping trip? I wish you luck - what a tough spot to be put in! |
Believe me I know how much you love your baby. But you have to leave him home and go to the store with hubby. You aren't going to be there for long. Spend the time with your husband. If you work and go to school there must not be much time for your dh. That baby will be there when you get home. One thing you will learn husband comes first. |
my DH is EXACTLY like this. And I feel just like you do. I work all day and this is the time I get to see Maddy. Hang in there, I am trying to as well! |
My question is - why does he care?? It would bother me that something that makes me so happy, angers him. I think you both need to talk it out. You need to find a happy medium. |
I agree with Elaine. I've been married 35 years, and I would be upset if my husband objected to taking our girls along. I think you should sit down, calmly and ask him what about taking Couver along is bothering him. Does he love Couver as much as you love him? Sheila |
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Or simply leave hubby at home. :) Personally I'd rather shop without mine. |
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I second that!! :thumbup: |
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So, whenever we go somewhere the girls are allowed, he packs the stroller in the car and we buckle them into their car seats and off we go! |
Sorry guys I still disagree. I've been married for 20 years. She seems to be young. ie. going to school and working full time. I think if this is a young marriage the husband has to come first. Maybe he should get the attention after all it's only an hour or two shopping trip. If she is working and going to school there certainly doesn't seem to be enough time together. The baby will still be there when she gets home to love. This is not a big thing to be arguing about. Pick your battles. I am an animal lover too don't get me wrong but my husband comes first. JMO |
I agree with jmdt, maybe your husband just wants some alone time with you. He of course won't be alone with you at home because of the yorkie being there, I think it is fair for him to ask for some undistracted time with you. See it as a good thing, that he wants to spend some nice quality time with you -- even if it is just to the store. I don't see a problem with the yorkie going sometimes, but I wouldn't make a big deal about it if he asks every once in a while for it to just be you that comes with him. But then again, we leave the dogs home unless we are going somewhere like the dog park or petco. So I look at it differently. |
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i guess im lucky mine loves bailee and gets mad when i want to leave her at home..i think bristers idea of every other trip is an excellent compromise! |
Been there, done that I am so sorry you are going thru this. When I first got Marley my dh was pissed. I spent many nights crying after an argument with him and holding Marley saying everything was gonna be ok. And now he loves her. We dont take her anywhere with us. I always ask if its ok if i let Marley do something that might upset him, like " Is it ok if she lays in bed with us?".. I find that asking permission when it comes to her is better than fighting with him. its not as bad as it used to be. he is way more liberal with what she does now. but like i said she does not go anywhere with us. I only work full time as does my dh so the only time i have with her is when i am home after work and on the weekends. believe me , i still feel guilty about leaving her when we go out to eat as opposed to staying in when shes been home all day by herself but my dh comes first as much as i would like to say i would do anything for my furbaby. my husband and i are newly weds ( a year the 12th of april ) and we still are working out the kinks in our relationship :p |
I see everyone's points... I do believe that my hubby should come first, but I feel like he doesn't want Couver to ever come. (I am young- 22) so we are still working the kinks out, but I don't think it is that big of a deal to have Couver come along. We will have to have a discussion... Oh, and I chose to take Couver and leave the hubby home tonight... :rolleyes: I guess I will have to start making priorities. I just hate leaving him at home because I see how much he enjoys coming with! :confused: |
Have you asked him why he doesn't want Couver to come with you? |
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