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04-22-2009, 02:38 AM | #1 |
YT Addict Join Date: Jul 2008 Location: N Ireland
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| What do I do with Millies stuff? We put all Millies things in the attic when she died. She had so much stuff, and we spent loads on her. Now I am wondering should we use some of it again for the new pup. Lots of her beds were barely used, as were some of the toys. There is one bed that was "Millies bed", which she died in, and some toys that she played with that I couldnt bear to see another dog play with, that I definitely wont take out, but I'm not sure about the rest of it. I am not totally comfortable with it, but its such a waste of money to buy all new stuff for the new pup when we already have so much.
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04-22-2009, 03:17 AM | #2 |
YT 3000 Club Member Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: Satellite Beach, FL
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| You should use MIllies stuff. I don't believe in sweeping away every memory. My Mum passed away almost 8 years ago & I still get comfort knowing that my guests are sleeping under the quilt that she had on her bed. It's like she is keeping them warm. Call me sappy but that's just who I am. |
04-22-2009, 03:29 AM | #3 |
Donating Yorkie Yakker Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: Upstate, NY
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| Use the things that you are comfortable with, and donate the rest to a shelter, so other dogs can feel the love that Millie was given!
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04-22-2009, 03:38 AM | #4 |
YT Addict Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: Kansas
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| First let me say I'm so sorry for your loss of Millie. You will be in my thoughts and prayers. I would use anything your comfortable using with the new pup. Take baby steps and bring out an item or two and see how you feel. If it's too much put them away and try again later. You will know in your heart if/when it's the right thing to do. Allowing the new pup to use some of Millies things does not mean that you are trying to replace her by any means. There is nothing to feel guilty about by handing some of her things down to the new pup. Losing someone you love dearly is never an easy road to travel and only you can say when the time is right. Laugh when you need to laugh and cry when you need to cry, but always remember the love you shared.
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04-22-2009, 03:44 AM | #5 |
Donating YT 10K Club Member | Initially all of Trace's things were packed away....and it wasn't until several puppies later that I chose to bring any of it out. Take your time...
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04-22-2009, 04:07 AM | #6 |
YT Addict Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: somewhere,in, us
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| Almost all of my stuff is handmedowns from my sister. It's been used by 3 different babies now. You can only do what you feel comfortable doing. |
04-22-2009, 04:49 AM | #7 |
Donating YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: NJ
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| Oh I just think Millie wouldn't want it any other way. To pass on her clothes to your baby would make Millie happy. I really believe that. A new baby with a little bit of Millie still in spirit. What a awesome idea!! |
04-22-2009, 04:56 AM | #8 |
Donating Member Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: wiith my furbabys
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| I just went thru the very same thing, when i loss my sweet jasper , I put all his things away in the basement, I didnt think i would ever be able to use them or look at them My friend just got her very first puppy and he is very small, After much thought and prayer, I was able to share some of his things with her so her pup would be warm , Though it was very hard, It did make me feel better to know i had given to someone else in need |
04-22-2009, 05:04 AM | #9 |
Donating YT 500 Club Member | Perhaps you would feel more comfortable giving away the items or selling them than using them. However, if you can use them with your new one, I would at least try. They are just things...especially those that are barely used. Generally we pick out pet's items that are to our taste, don't we? My guess is that your taste and style is still the same even without your sweet Millie. You have created a beautiful memorial tribute to her and honored her memory. I wouldn't let the "things" detract from the memorial you have chosen to make for her. If there are items that are too painful to use, I'd try to give them away or sell them whenever you are strong enough. These are just my opinions and you have to work it out as to what is best for you and your mourning, I think. Try to remember though that those are just "things" ... they are not her spirit or her essence but just things she used while she was here. It is her that you mourn not the things. I don't think I am conveying at all what I'm trying to say. I wish you the joy of remembering Millie and the hope that that joyful remembrance will lessen the pain. God bless. |
04-22-2009, 05:19 AM | #10 |
Izzy's Momma Too! Donating Member Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: Stuart, Florida
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| Well, you could use some of the stuff, and donate the rest to a rescue or shelter. When our Starr died, my husband took the first toy we got her (a blue teddy) and put it in his truck. Some of her outfits I put on one of those memory boards (it's fabric with ribbons crisscrossed on it to hold stuff) and some of her toys are being enjoyed by Luna and Izzy. Her bed I threw away, as I couldn't stand to look at it and remember her suffering in it before we rushed her to the ER vet, she died on the way there My heart truly goes out to you, as I know all too well how you're feeling It's good that you are getting a new furface to love, it really will help your heart to heal.
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04-22-2009, 07:46 AM | #11 |
YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: Washington
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| I am so sorry for the loss of your sweet girl. I know when my Rocky died I did the same thing that you did, put everything away. Then there was a puppymill raid in my home town, and I saw the oppertunity to help. I gathered up everything, with the exceptions of a couple beds and blankets and one shirt that were for some reason or another special to me, and I took them in, allong with the money I had set aside for his neuter and I donated it in his name. This was so healing for me. Then when I brought Maddie home she decided that she really liked one of the beds that I had kept, so I gave it to her. Copper gained a little weight since then, and now he wears Rocky's sweater when it is cold. I still have his favorite blankets, one that he would move to wherever he was laying, and I held every night in place of him, for months. I want to do something special with that one, and I was thinking of having one of these made from itTeddy Bears by Creative Treasures from your special fabric or fur coat I am not sure if I am going to use this site or another but I would love a sweet little bear made from the remainder of his stuff to set next to his picture. These are just a few ideas that have helped me, but follow your heart and what makes you feel better. I do agree that her things are doing no good in a box. Warmest wishes to you through this process. I know that it can be so very hard.
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