oh GeZZ, WHY ME?

[mscat]

I am with you on this one. She chose to buy a puppy from a pet store knowing that she was going to have a puppy from you, however did it anyway. Now you can choose not to give her the puppy . She was the one who went out and bought a puppy after telling you she wanted one from you. This is not your doing. It was hers. So it is not your fault. By getting a puppy from the puppy store, this allowed you to go back on your word, and say no to her. A two bedroom apartment with no yard is too small for two little puppies, especially if this is a first time owner. It is hard enough to handle one puppy, let alone two. Especially when they both work. The teething stage that puppies go through is very difficult where they chew , and chew and chew some more! You are doing the right thing!
She will get over it! Your doing what is bet for your puppy and that is the most important thing you can do . She is not seing it this way, however you are. And that is what matters. I am sorry your easter is ruined over a family squable over puppies, but these are little living lives . They need the best care possible. People just don't take that into consideration , and i am glad that you do.

[HChellette]

I have a question about another issue on this situation........were you GIVING this puppy to this person? And did I read that she PURCHASED another puppy? What about the fact that she paid someone for one puppy and expects you to just give her another one?!

I say stick to your guns, you are doing the right thing. That would outrage me! In the end, I know you care what you're family thinks, but it is YOUR puppy and YOUR decision. Good luck!

[Britster]

Originally Posted by FlDebra

What if she had her mall puppy cleared by a vet as being in good health after a 2 week waiting period. I know we are not supposed to support the puppymills by buying at pet stores. But there are lots of folks here with pet store puppies, that take excellent care of them, and have made them like family members. I personally think if they are all gone all day, the puppies would be better off with company. I always feel so sorry for a puppy that has to stay alone for 8-10 hours a day.

What I am saying, is can you get past the big mistake she made, and maybe still see your way to letting her have the puppy? I don't think just because she got this other one she is going to be a bad pet parent. Besides there is the "peace in the family" issue too. I would not want to create such hard feeling with family if it could be avoided.

I guess I am alone in this, but I just think there is still a way to make it all work. I know you want to keep your puppy safe, but if you keep them apart for a couple of weeks and the mall puppy gets the clean bill of health, what is it going to hurt? I mean, is it really that different from your son bringing a rescue of uncertain background into the home with your male yorkie and a surprise litter of puppies happening? Things don't always work out the way we would choose --but if you can make it all work out, keep the puppies safe, and keep the family on good terms, I say try!

I agree with this.

However, I see where you're coming from and don't blame you one bit for being mad!

Do you have any pics of the pups? I'd love to see!

[carmen in nj]

To answer your question yes, I was giving them the puppy FREE of charge, since I am NOT a breeder and this was an OOOPS litter of mixed babies, I thought I want them to keep them close and I told all of them that IF anything happend and they could no longer keep the dog I want them back, under NO circumstances I wanted the puppies going to a shelter of anyone else. and I DO think the fact that they went to the store last week and spent $950. on a PURE YORKIE like she told me this morning, well mine is a lot LESS important now since he is a little MUTT.., now that is just me thinking.... I am a lot calmer now, but the pup STILL here and NOT going to go anywhere soon.
Hubby is on his way home and he told me that we will talk when he comes home. My mom is still a bit upset with me but I know eventually she will come around.
in the meantime I have to COOK easter dinner this year, the funny part is I COOKED for the whole family last year and I was supposed to relax this year, but I will cook for me and my kids.. and I will spend it with my pups..
hugs,
Carmen in nj

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[mscat]

Your puppy is adorable gosh she certainly screwed up ! Go and have a wonderful Easter with your kids and husband. I am sure you will find a wonderful home for your little sweet puppy.

[camile]

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[camile]

Oops! Sorry about the goof. I don't know what I did.

Now. Since I don't know any of the ppl involved, I'll just throw out some general thoughts.
Frequently, first-time dog owners have a change of heart shortly after the "look at those eyes" thoughts go away and want to dump their newly acquired pet. Two puppies make a lot of pee and poo. Just because they are taken to potty at the same time doesn't mean their bowels and bladders will automatically be synchronized, thus the need to do potty time often. Ppl who think it's easy having two puppies are the same ppl who think two can live as cheaply as one. Most twelve year olds can barely take care of themselves and get bored fast caring for wiggling balls of fur.
Family unity requires all members to strive for love and harmony not just one. No family is in accordance on all issues all the time.
Good luck and happy Easter.

[carmen in nj]

thank you, those are exactly my feelings.. so far nothing has change I do wish them the best with their new puppy and if they need any advise I will always be here to give it.but my puppy stays put until i find him a GOOD home or he will just stay here..

hugs,
CArmen in nj

[Nikitta34]

Originally Posted by carmen in nj

Thank you, ladies, well she is making this VERY difficult, she is best friends with my SIL and got her involved too. but SIL just called me and told me is MY decision to make and she will support what I decide.. which I am greatful, but my mom still thinks I should give her the puppy for the sake of the little girl.. OH well I guess that is her opinion and that is that.. I am NOT giving her the puppy and that is MINE..I called her husband my cousin and talked to him, and I guess he is NOT happy but he said he understood my decission.
I called my kids and told them is up to them if they want to go over Aunties for easter but I will be coming home after I close the store on sunday.. I just feel is the best thing to do, she is going to be there WITH her store bought puppy and I really don't want to get into an argument on the day of the LORD..so I will be here with you guys after dinner that I will make when I come home from work..
I would had considered talking to them after dinner on sunday about the puppies and how is not fair to have 2 puppies one 9 weeks old and a 12 week old in a 2 bedroom apt, specially when my 12 week old lives in a house with a yard now, but after all she has done to me today.. NO WAY she is getting him.. maybe I been unfair but I can see a litter of puppies as soon as that girl is in heat coming now too, if I let her have my boy..
hugs,
Carmen in nj

This is such a shame. Carmen, I don't blame you ONE BIT for not giving your pup to this family after what they did. You are right to stick to your guns in the face of adversity. It sounds as though the new pet owners do not know what they are in for. On the positive side, thank God that this happened BEFORE they took your puppy home... They would have likely still gone out to buy the second dog, but then you'd be stuck trying to take your dog back. Imagine how ugly that would be.

That being said, it's such a shame that your extended family is being torn apart over this. I don't know your kids' ages or your family history and I don't want to overstep, but it breaks my heart to think that you are now boycotting what seems to be a traditional gathering for your family and that your kids now have to choose which gathering to attend. I hope that you will all be able to get through this and reunite as a family once again. It would be such a shame if this drove you apart forever... chock it up to what it is (a woman who probably won't be a very responsible pet owner, but hopefully is still a good person overall). I'm just thinking about this from teh point of view that if she is bringing her dog to Easter, then she will probably want to bring the dog to family BBQs, birthday parties, other holidays, etc. Will you be able to go to those gatherings once you've cooled down? Will you be filled with anger every time you see her or the pet store pup? Will you ever let your dogs play with the other pup (obviously once she's been vaccinated and is free of any potential diseases)?

I'm so sorry you have had to deal with this situation... But again, at least this all happened before they had already taken your pup home. And don't feel badly about sticking to your guns: you have to do what you feel is best for the pup, and hopefully your family will come to respect that.

[YorkieShadow]

Originally Posted by FlDebra

What if she had her mall puppy cleared by a vet as being in good health after a 2 week waiting period. I know we are not supposed to support the puppymills by buying at pet stores. But there are lots of folks here with pet store puppies, that take excellent care of them, and have made them like family members. I personally think if they are all gone all day, the puppies would be better off with company. I always feel so sorry for a puppy that has to stay alone for 8-10 hours a day.

What I am saying, is can you get past the big mistake she made, and maybe still see your way to letting her have the puppy? I don't think just because she got this other one she is going to be a bad pet parent. Besides there is the "peace in the family" issue too. I would not want to create such hard feeling with family if it could be avoided.

I guess I am alone in this, but I just think there is still a way to make it all work. I know you want to keep your puppy safe, but if you keep them apart for a couple of weeks and the mall puppy gets the clean bill of health, what is it going to hurt? I mean, is it really that different from your son bringing a rescue of uncertain background into the home with your male yorkie and a surprise litter of puppies happening? Things don't always work out the way we would choose --but if you can make it all work out, keep the puppies safe, and keep the family on good terms, I say try!

very well said, I agree.

[carmen in nj]

thank you for the wonderful advise, I don't have any ill feelings against the store puppy, is not her fault and once she is cleared of any health issues she can even come and play with mine, the Real issue here is having 2 very young puppies in a very small apt. for a FIRST time owner.
I told them while the babies were here how hard is to take care of a puppy, and how hard was going to be for them to train this puppy since they live on a apt. I just heard from my Sister in law that the poor girl is confined to the kitchen all the time because she pees and poops a lot.. well DUH is a puppy..and the rest of the apt has ivory carpets, now can you inmagine 2? I have hard wood thruout my home and a big yard and still my puppies had accidents inside when the snow is too deep or is raining. I have the feeling that this puppies for her are a novelty that is NOT going to last..HONESTLY i hope I am wrong , very wrong but I can see me rescuing that girl VERY soon..
hugs,
Carmen in nj

[roxies_mom]

Sounds like they may decide it was best they didn't get the second puppy after a few days of peeing and pooping from the one they have. My bet is they'll come around and may end up thanking you for keeping the 2nd one. Time will tell. In the mean time your smart to keep the puppy and try to smooth things over with the rest of the family. Hopefully they will understand your feelings and try not to take sides in this.

[Gennies]

Carmen, I just read through this thread and first wanted to say Yeah, You!!!! I'm so glad you looked out for that little baby boy!! You are awesome!

I am sorry that your cousin's wife is so selfish and causing a huge family issue over this. Boy, talk about a drama queen. She needs to be happy with the puppy she chose to purchase and work on training it. How selfish of her to say that your boy was for her daughter, but She has always wanted two puppies at once. But the daughter is going to be responsible for both. Is the daughter raising the mom here?

I'm so glad you were able to stand up for your beliefs! As for Easter dinner, don't be so upset over it. Look at it your doing the right thing and since they don't understand maybe you not being there will get them to think about your side of this. I will advise you that if your children do go that you ask them to wash their hands after petting that puppy as if it does have parvo they can spread it to you puppy, or like someone else who's puppy had it on here before learned the children can catch it too.

Keep your chin up, the family will understand someday and regret interfering.

[carmen in nj]

thank you, my children are Adults.. my oldest son is 27, he lives next town over with his girl and their managerie..LOL my daughter is 22 lives at school close to my mom's town, about 2 hours from me, and my youngest son is 20 and he is a home body with his dog..LOL, they all agree with me and they will be coming home for easter, I really feel for my mom and my aunt but I can't risk the health of my pack for one bad decission.
I am a lot calmer and i understand about impulse shoping but a puppy is a comitment and a life, unlike buying a car or a purse.. she has a LONG road ahead to learn how demanding an 8 week old yorkie is..she don't need my yorkie jack as an experiment too..
hugs,
CArmen in nj

[Gennies]

I feel for you about your mom and aunt, but I'm glad your children are old enough to have their own beliefs and are backing you. See, you are a good Mommy! Keep your chin up, doing the right thing is hard, but it's necessary. I think you are wonderful for taking his well being into consideration! You Rock!!! Yeah, You!!!!!