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Originally Posted by carmen in nj  Thank you, ladies, well she is making this VERY difficult, she is best friends with my SIL and got her involved too. but SIL just called me and told me is MY decision to make and she will support what I decide.. which I am greatful, but my mom still thinks I should give her the puppy for the sake of the little girl.. OH well I guess that is her opinion and that is that.. I am NOT giving her the puppy and that is MINE..I called her husband my cousin and talked to him, and I guess he is NOT happy but he said he understood my decission.
I called my kids and told them is up to them if they want to go over Aunties for easter but I will be coming home after I close the store on sunday.. I just feel is the best thing to do, she is going to be there WITH her store bought puppy and I really don't want to get into an argument on the day of the LORD..so I will be here with you guys after dinner that I will make when I come home from work..
I would had considered talking to them after dinner on sunday about the puppies and how is not fair to have 2 puppies one 9 weeks old and a 12 week old in a 2 bedroom apt, specially when my 12 week old lives in a house with a yard now, but after all she has done to me today.. NO WAY she is getting him..  maybe I been unfair but I can see a litter of puppies as soon as that girl is in heat coming now too, if I let her have my boy.. 
hugs,
Carmen in nj |
This is such a shame. Carmen, I don't blame you ONE BIT for not giving your pup to this family after what they did. You are right to stick to your guns in the face of adversity. It sounds as though the new pet owners do not know what they are in for. On the positive side, thank God that this happened BEFORE they took your puppy home... They would have likely still gone out to buy the second dog, but then you'd be stuck trying to take your dog back. Imagine how ugly that would be.
That being said, it's such a shame that your extended family is being torn apart over this. I don't know your kids' ages or your family history and I don't want to overstep, but it breaks my heart to think that you are now boycotting what seems to be a traditional gathering for your family and that your kids now have to choose which gathering to attend. I hope that you will all be able to get through this and reunite as a family once again. It would be such a shame if this drove you apart forever... chock it up to what it is (a woman who probably won't be a very responsible pet owner, but hopefully is still a good person overall). I'm just thinking about this from teh point of view that if she is bringing her dog to Easter, then she will probably want to bring the dog to family BBQs, birthday parties, other holidays, etc. Will you be able to go to those gatherings once you've cooled down? Will you be filled with anger every time you see her or the pet store pup? Will you ever let your dogs play with the other pup (obviously once she's been vaccinated and is free of any potential diseases)?
I'm so sorry you have had to deal with this situation... But again, at least this all happened before they had already taken your pup home. And don't feel badly about sticking to your guns: you have to do what you feel is best for the pup, and hopefully your family will come to respect that.