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Sway Says · 03-03-2009, 11:19 AM

Okay I'm going to give you advice as if you were my friend and I knew you personally. I'm a straight shooter so this is what I'd say...
I'm thinking about the pug here...
Your girl needs all the help she can get. I mean, I didn't know anything about dogs and don't say now that I do, but I do a lot of research and reading to find out what I need to know. Your friend doesn't and she's in the dark. Because your friend hasn't done any research she is going to need a lot of help. Your help.
Reach out to her and go visit her puppy. (You were right not to let the puppy over). Give her some kind advice if she needs it. Don't judge her. She made a mistake and I'm sure that on some level she realizes that. (That's why she's so defensive). But right now she really needs your support. (Even if she's being a jerk). I know I needed help when I first started.

So what I'm saying is you should be glad she didn't take one of your puppies since she has no idea how to care for a dog. But since she has a dog you can work as her resource for making sure that the little girl is raised properly.
Don't apologize, you weren't wrong. Just try to help.
If you go with her non-judgmentally then she would hopefully accept help. If she doesn't, it's not your problem. Continue your friendship the way it had been, but don't mention the dog.

It's only a problem if you let it be.

shannonroselive · 03-03-2009, 11:41 AM

I'm sorry that happened but you did the right thing. She doesn't sound like much of a friend to be honest. She certainly isn't the kind you'll be able to count on down the road. I got $100 says she'll come begging you to help when she can't handle the pup anymore. Just watch...

YorkieLoverMI · 03-03-2009, 02:24 PM

Good for you Gail, you only were protecting your pups and hers for that matter. If she is a real friend she will let all this go and understand it wasn't personal. Maybe you can offer to visit her home to see her pup, since she wants your input on him/her so bad.

Hopefully it all works out for the best! As someone who will be bringing one of your pups into my family and home, I appreciate your decision a lot.

gkathleenw · 03-03-2009, 02:31 PM

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Originally Posted by YorkieLoverMI

Good for you Gail, you only were protecting your pups and hers for that matter. If she is a real friend she will let all this go and understand it wasn't personal. Maybe you can offer to visit her home to see her pup, since she wants your input on him/her so bad.

Hopefully it all works out for the best! As someone who will be bringing one of your pups into my family and home, I appreciate your decision a lot.

Thanks Jamie! I really appreciate it!

Patti · 03-03-2009, 02:52 PM

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Originally Posted by Sway Says

Okay I'm going to give you advice as if you were my friend and I knew you personally. I'm a straight shooter so this is what I'd say...
I'm thinking about the pug here...
Your girl needs all the help she can get. I mean, I didn't know anything about dogs and don't say now that I do, but I do a lot of research and reading to find out what I need to know. Your friend doesn't and she's in the dark. Because your friend hasn't done any research she is going to need a lot of help. Your help.
Reach out to her and go visit her puppy. (You were right not to let the puppy over). Give her some kind advice if she needs it. Don't judge her. She made a mistake and I'm sure that on some level she realizes that. (That's why she's so defensive). But right now she really needs your support. (Even if she's being a jerk). I know I needed help when I first started.

So what I'm saying is you should be glad she didn't take one of your puppies since she has no idea how to care for a dog. But since she has a dog you can work as her resource for making sure that the little girl is raised properly.
Don't apologize, you weren't wrong. Just try to help.
If you go with her non-judgmentally then she would hopefully accept help. If she doesn't, it's not your problem. Continue your friendship the way it had been, but don't mention the dog.

It's only a problem if you let it be.

Good idea!!! I think you did the right thing, but she is new to dog ownership and was probably excited to show you her puppy. She will learn the hard way unfortunately but at least you can help her learn her way and hopefully make her into a great pet owner.

JJinjersey · 03-03-2009, 03:09 PM

You did the right thing... my Bryan he had a vet before I picked him up from the airport and went to the vet within the first 72 hrs..if she doesn't understand the importance of vet visits then. You definately don't want her around the babies

Judy in Waco · 03-03-2009, 04:56 PM

I support your decision to not have her come to your house with the puppy, and I would be concerned about going to see the puppy as well since some diseases can be transfered on your clothing or shoes.

She does sound immature, but honestly, I was too at one time. People who educated me about puppies and Yorkies had to put up with a lot from me too. Just keep the door open. If not for her sake, then for the pup's. Obviously, the breeder won't be there for her.

Good luck, and I'm sorry that this situation is so stressful for you.

03-03-2009, 11:19 AM	#31
Sway Says Yorkie Yakker Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Durham Posts: 45	Super: GKath---Saving the Pug from her Owner Okay I'm going to give you advice as if you were my friend and I knew you personally. I'm a straight shooter so this is what I'd say... I'm thinking about the pug here... Your girl needs all the help she can get. I mean, I didn't know anything about dogs and don't say now that I do, but I do a lot of research and reading to find out what I need to know. Your friend doesn't and she's in the dark. Because your friend hasn't done any research she is going to need a lot of help. Your help. Reach out to her and go visit her puppy. (You were right not to let the puppy over). Give her some kind advice if she needs it. Don't judge her. She made a mistake and I'm sure that on some level she realizes that. (That's why she's so defensive). But right now she really needs your support. (Even if she's being a jerk). I know I needed help when I first started. So what I'm saying is you should be glad she didn't take one of your puppies since she has no idea how to care for a dog. But since she has a dog you can work as her resource for making sure that the little girl is raised properly. Don't apologize, you weren't wrong. Just try to help. If you go with her non-judgmentally then she would hopefully accept help. If she doesn't, it's not your problem. Continue your friendship the way it had been, but don't mention the dog. It's only a problem if you let it be.

03-03-2009, 02:24 PM	#33
YorkieLoverMI Yorkie Yakker Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Garden City, MI Posts: 25	Good for you Gail, you only were protecting your pups and hers for that matter. If she is a real friend she will let all this go and understand it wasn't personal. Maybe you can offer to visit her home to see her pup, since she wants your input on him/her so bad. Hopefully it all works out for the best! As someone who will be bringing one of your pups into my family and home, I appreciate your decision a lot. __________________ Fur Kid comes home May 1st : ) Jamie & ??? (Brady or Diesel) not sure yet!

03-03-2009, 03:09 PM	#36
JJinjersey YT Addict Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: Bronx, NY Posts: 299 Blog Entries: 3	You did the right thing... my Bryan he had a vet before I picked him up from the airport and went to the vet within the first 72 hrs..if she doesn't understand the importance of vet visits then. You definately don't want her around the babies __________________ Bryan's Mommy

03-03-2009, 04:56 PM	#37
Judy in Waco Gizzy & Kandi spoil me Donating Member Join Date: May 2007 Location: Waco, Texas Posts: 8,477	I support your decision to not have her come to your house with the puppy, and I would be concerned about going to see the puppy as well since some diseases can be transfered on your clothing or shoes. She does sound immature, but honestly, I was too at one time. People who educated me about puppies and Yorkies had to put up with a lot from me too. Just keep the door open. If not for her sake, then for the pup's. Obviously, the breeder won't be there for her. Good luck, and I'm sorry that this situation is so stressful for you. __________________ The fullness of our heart is expressed in our eyes, in our touch, in what we write, in what we say, in the way we walk, the way we receive, the way we need. -Mother Teresa ( RIP Gizmo 3/9/07-8/18/12)

03-03-2009, 11:41 AM	#32
shannonroselive Donating YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Where ever the wind blows! Posts: 612	I'm sorry that happened but you did the right thing. She doesn't sound like much of a friend to be honest. She certainly isn't the kind you'll be able to count on down the road. I got $100 says she'll come begging you to help when she can't handle the pup anymore. Just watch...