Ugh...in-laws! (sorry, it's long...)

[JRo]

Originally Posted by DukesMommy

It's so annoying when people can't listen to us about our dogs, they wouldn't act like that if it was a person and you told them they were allergic to peanuts or something.

That is soooo true! I never thought about it like that!

[JRo]

Originally Posted by CupofDog

OH I FEEL YOUR PAIN.

My ex-husband and I lived with his parents and they were horrible with my dogs and worse horrible TOO my dogs.

They always talked about their Shih Tzu who had passed and were always saying how he NEVER had accidents and how perfect he was and my ex-MIL actually said to me that she didn't like the way I was raising my dogs...UGH

Now you know why they are all EXES!!!!!!

That is totally frustrating! Yeah, she will make snide comments like, "Oh, are they ignoring you? Come here, I'll give some attention," as if we are bad doggy parents. She makes me crazy. Hopefully my house will be done soon!

[JRo]

Originally Posted by PrincessDiana

said whatever... then we left the room and I saw my step dad give her more and he completely lied and said he didn't which ticked me off SO MUCH.

I totally hear you! My father-in-law tried to sneak him some chocolate chip cookie one day behind my back and then tried to deny it until I kind of flipped and was like, "Chocolate will kill him!" That shut him up pretty quick!

Oh, and good luck tonight if you end up staying over!

[CupofDog]

Originally Posted by JRo

That is totally frustrating! Yeah, she will make snide comments like, "Oh, are they ignoring you? Come here, I'll give some attention," as if we are bad doggy parents. She makes me crazy. Hopefully my house will be done soon!

I completely understand. And its like, WHY would people use our dogs to create drama? Its family? Whats the point?

I don't get why families do this to one another, the best advice I have would be to take her aside at some point and say you are so grateful to have your in-laws to stay with while you and your hubby's house is built and that you know it must be hard for them to share their space with you two and the pup...(something nice!) and then say I want us to continue to get close and I feel I need to say something about the situation with my dog. Just lay it out calmly and clearly. maybe even say your dog is on a vet reccomended diet and its really important that everyone help adhere to the vet's protocall...and you know she wouldn't want to do anything to hurt your puppy...and see what she says and you can try and get the behavioral stuff out there too! If she isn't a total psycho (like my ex MIL) then she should realize that your dog is a part of your family, you take her seriously and you expect her to respect the way you raise your dog!!!!!!

[yorkieaddict]

I am so sorry about the situation. Most people not understand about this small breed and unfortunately the furbabies pay the price. Years ago I had my first yorkie, Pebbles, she got pancreatitis from table scraps. It was a very emotional experience and about a $1,000 later she survived the ordeal. The intent was not malicious but just uneducated. People do not realize that we can eat many things that are not good for us and it could take years to see the results, (heart disease etc. ). Yorkies eat the same thing and the result is seen almost instantly, it is toxic to their small bodies.

Unfortunately, some people just do not understand the seriousness of the situation and will never get it. I know many people like this. Hopefully when they know better they will do better. Good luck in protecting your furbaby.

[JRo]

Originally Posted by CupofDog

I completely understand. And its like, WHY would people use our dogs to create drama? Its family? Whats the point?

I don't get why families do this to one another, the best advice I have would be to take her aside at some point and say you are so grateful to have your in-laws to stay with while you and your hubby's house is built and that you know it must be hard for them to share their space with you two and the pup...(something nice!) and then say I want us to continue to get close and I feel I need to say something about the situation with my dog. Just lay it out calmly and clearly. maybe even say your dog is on a vet reccomended diet and its really important that everyone help adhere to the vet's protocall...and you know she wouldn't want to do anything to hurt your puppy...and see what she says and you can try and get the behavioral stuff out there too! If she isn't a total psycho (like my ex MIL) then she should realize that your dog is a part of your family, you take her seriously and you expect her to respect the way you raise your dog!!!!!!

Thank you, that is wonderful and thoughtful advice. I should say that we have made progress and she knows never to feed Tucker anything again without my approval. But you're right, we should probably discuss the behavioral stuff and her making disparaging comments about the way we raise Tucker (she is so passive aggressive I'm sure she'll deny it!) Thank you again for insight!

[JRo]

Originally Posted by yorkieaddict

I am so sorry about the situation. Most people not understand about this small breed and unfortunately the furbabies pay the price. Years ago I had my first yorkie, Pebbles, she got pancreatitis from table scraps. It was a very emotional experience and about a $1,000 later she survived the ordeal. The intent was not malicious but just uneducated. People do not realize that we can eat many things that are not good for us and it could take years to see the results, (heart disease etc. ). Yorkies eat the same thing and the result is seen almost instantly, it is toxic to their small bodies.

Unfortunately, some people just do not understand the seriousness of the situation and will never get it. I know many people like this. Hopefully when they know better they will do better. Good luck in protecting your furbaby.

I agree. I know they weren't being malicious and they only wanted to spoil him but we had discussed it NUMEROUS times. I don't think they believed me or respected my knowledge about Yorkies/dogs in general to actually listen to me. That is until, just as you said, they saw the results--a seriously ill pup, a $300 vet bill and me in hysterics that my baby wouldn't make it. You are so right--thank you!