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celstu1 · 07-31-2008, 07:34 AM

aaahhh I totally understand where you are coming from. I live alone and its just me and my boys. I love them to pieces and WOULD NEVER rehome them, but sometimes yes its hard. They are there 24/7 and on my mind when Im not home that I need to get home. I can't just 'take off' for the weekend and leave them with a hubby or bf or someone. And because its just me and I work full time, all the after work invites I get I have to either turn down OR go home first to let them out and then see those sad faces when I have to leave again.

It WOULD be easier to not have them, but my life would not be complete without them. They brighten my days in more ways than take away from them. They also ARE my children. I don't lean towards having skin kids of my own and having these guys makes me realize even more how much work kids are!

Now if I could just HOUSEBREAK THEM!!!! ggrrrrrr

erino77 · 07-31-2008, 07:58 AM

aww keep your chin up girl, things will get better!

They say "that doesn not kill us will only make us stronger"!! I know it sucks when everything seems to be on the uphill but that means that one day you will be at the top and have a nice easy ride down, without all the struggles.
Please share what has been going on medically with with Odie, I'm sure we can help to make things a bit easier. Here on YT there is almost always someone who has been there, done that, and can probably/hopefully give you some pointers.
(((((hugs)))))

odies_mama · 07-31-2008, 08:04 AM

thanks for all of yalls hugs and good thoughts.

now lets see if i can answer some of those questions..lol

as far as vet visits go, he could be worse i guess...like back in June i had to take him because he ate a flea and that gave him those worms in his stools, and then in July i took him because the inside/middle section in between his pads got infected and now he has this hot spot where he has just dug at it soo much that its not bloody and pussy....these last couple of months have just been crazy.

and im sure you're all right with saying its stress. as much as i try to claim that im not, i finally hit rock bottom with it all i think lol

employment in my town is so ridiculous right now!!! either companies and businesses are on a hiring freeze, or they're laying people off, or they're hiring internally for people that have been layed off. i have been actively looking for a job since last December....i still cant believe it! i have never been this long without a job. BUT tomorrow i have a meeting with a long time friend of my family about working for him doing what i already do, photography, and he's talking about putting me in charge of all the photographers and being in charge of his website...so im gonna keep my fingers and toes crossed on this one haha

i do feel better for having vented and of course yall are always great about sending hugs and prayers and *good* doggy dust my way or to anyone else who needs it.

erino77 · 07-31-2008, 08:16 AM

We'll keep our fingers, toes and paws crossed that tomorrow goes well for you!!

chachi · 07-31-2008, 08:20 AM

Hang in there! There are times we all get overwhelmed by life

4doggiemama · 07-31-2008, 08:28 AM

To start out with I want to give you a ((hug)) and let you know that even I, an old grandma, sometimes feels overwhelmed with my doggies. This morning while they were waiting for me to get their food ready, my Pommie, Snowboy, totally tore up a large plastic bag full of clothes waiting to go to the 2nd hand store. Plastic everywhere, even hanging out of his mouth. He goes crazy waiting to eat. Sooooooo, we spent some time sitting and staying instead of eating. UGH!!! So you see we all have our moments.

Have you ever tried the anti-itch with a bitter taste to it that is for hot spots? Chipper gets spots that he will just chew on and I use that all the time. He responds to it quite well. Now Snowboy, that is a whole different story. Has to be hot sauce before he will leave anything alone----not on his skin----on furniture, etc.

dogbert · 07-31-2008, 08:29 AM

I understand, there is an emotional and financial toll when our pets are ill. I told my hubby the other day when our new dog was so sick (we just put our last dog to sleep) to never let me get another dog. We don't have the financial worries, but the vet bills aren't cheap. It's just so gut wrenching for me to have a sick pet. I agree with what everyone else said, it's ok to vent. Anyone who has ever had a child or pet knows how you feel. We've all been there at some point. Hang in there and I hope you find employment soon!

Sandysbabies · 07-31-2008, 08:40 AM

It just helps to talk about things and there are so many nice people here that understand. Sometimes better than so called friends or even family. Just last night my husband said, You can't stay mad at Kayla when you look in that little face. We are still having tee tee problems. I think she will be an old lady by the time she knows not just to go out the doggie door and look around and come back in and tee tee on mommy's carpet. Then I was really overwhelmed at time with the time scheldule, shots, and trying to get Max to eat to only have him throw up and then he couldn't take his insulin. Stress galore!!! But now that he has passed away, you know what, I would do it ten times over just to have that little face to look up at me again. Hang in there and just remember you will feel better tomorrow. Sometimes only a day makes a difference.

nancyfancypants · 07-31-2008, 08:59 AM

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Originally Posted by odies_mama

BUT tomorrow i have a meeting with a long time friend of my family about working for him doing what i already do, photography, and he's talking about putting me in charge of all the photographers and being in charge of his website...so im gonna keep my fingers and toes crossed on this one haha

Yay! Crossing my fingers and toes as well - I hope you get it!

spanky's mom · 07-31-2008, 09:01 AM

Were in the same boat I went bk to work part time to pay for violett, 2500 then she had the trip to ER vet 435. Hubby hasn't been working much he's self employed ,we just had to dip into our retirement to pay our taxes and so on. it does get depressing when you need the money and you dont no know how youre going to pay the next house payment.Let alone if your baby needs to go to the VET. I always feel like my family will say you never should have gotten another yorkie let alone a 2500 dollar one. I pray things will get better for you, and please no that you ae not alone. you wanna know how much my edison bill was this month? lol $494.94.
Keeping you in my Prayers.
God Bless.
Michelle,Spanky and baby Violett.

mizzwanned · 07-31-2008, 09:15 AM

I know just what you mean! Don't worry, i think most people on here know what you are going thru. For one I'm 21 and it's me and my bf and the 3 dogs(well babies lol). I love them soooo much, they are my children and have made me rethink ever having kids, i love them like nothing else but sometimes im like...WOW 3!! I went crazy and basically got all 3 w/o even thinking it thru, i dont regret it one bit but financially it is hard. If one gets sick and they get better, then the other gets sick, its so unpredictable. And then i feel like i can't go out for too long, i barely do even and when i do i feel bad, and feel like i should go home right away. I want to go on vacation and feel too bad to and im young and should be able to do what i want, but their my responsibility. But the good outweigh the bad, well actually there is no bad with them, its all good, its just struggling financially and not wanting to leave them. But they bring happiness and so much love, i just dont know if i ever want children anymore.

DukesMommy · 07-31-2008, 08:06 PM

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Originally Posted by odies_mama

thanks for all of yalls hugs and good thoughts.

now lets see if i can answer some of those questions..lol

as far as vet visits go, he could be worse i guess...like back in June i had to take him because he ate a flea and that gave him those worms in his stools, and then in July i took him because the inside/middle section in between his pads got infected and now he has this hot spot where he has just dug at it soo much that its not bloody and pussy....these last couple of months have just been crazy.

and im sure you're all right with saying its stress. as much as i try to claim that im not, i finally hit rock bottom with it all i think lol

employment in my town is so ridiculous right now!!! either companies and businesses are on a hiring freeze, or they're laying people off, or they're hiring internally for people that have been layed off. i have been actively looking for a job since last December....i still cant believe it! i have never been this long without a job. BUT tomorrow i have a meeting with a long time friend of my family about working for him doing what i already do, photography, and he's talking about putting me in charge of all the photographers and being in charge of his website...so im gonna keep my fingers and toes crossed on this one haha

i do feel better for having vented and of course yall are always great about sending hugs and prayers and *good* doggy dust my way or to anyone else who needs it.

Good luck with your meeting!! I understand your pain with the job situation, in my area of CA, well probably the whole state by now, we are going through the same issue here with work... I don't work either, just going to school right now, and my husband has been looking for a better job for awhile now..There are high points and low points but it's bound to get better!

sometimes stress just gets the best of you.

chestermama · 08-01-2008, 07:08 PM

right after I got chester I was so overwhelmed I wanted to give him back, now I cannot imagine a day without him , he is the best thing in my life right now and always will be, when we all get stressed and overwhelmed everything is to much, it will get better, hang in there

07-31-2008, 07:34 AM	#16
celstu1 Donating YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: New Hampshire Posts: 10,534	aaahhh I totally understand where you are coming from. I live alone and its just me and my boys. I love them to pieces and WOULD NEVER rehome them, but sometimes yes its hard. They are there 24/7 and on my mind when Im not home that I need to get home. I can't just 'take off' for the weekend and leave them with a hubby or bf or someone. And because its just me and I work full time, all the after work invites I get I have to either turn down OR go home first to let them out and then see those sad faces when I have to leave again. It WOULD be easier to not have them, but my life would not be complete without them. They brighten my days in more ways than take away from them. They also ARE my children. I don't lean towards having skin kids of my own and having these guys makes me realize even more how much work kids are! Now if I could just HOUSEBREAK THEM!!!! ggrrrrrr __________________ “Petting, scratching, and cuddling a dog could be as soothing to the mind and heart as deep meditation and almost as good for the soul as prayer.” ― Dean Koontz

07-31-2008, 08:20 AM	#20
chachi I Love My Yorkies Donating Member Join Date: Feb 2005 Location: Indianapolis, Indiana Posts: 37,147	Hang in there! There are times we all get overwhelmed by life __________________ Chachi's & Jewels Mom Jewels http://www.dogster.com/?132431 Chachi http://www.dogster.com/?132427

07-31-2008, 08:28 AM	#21
4doggiemama Donating YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Nov 2007 Location: KS Posts: 3,290	To start out with I want to give you a ((hug)) and let you know that even I, an old grandma, sometimes feels overwhelmed with my doggies. This morning while they were waiting for me to get their food ready, my Pommie, Snowboy, totally tore up a large plastic bag full of clothes waiting to go to the 2nd hand store. Plastic everywhere, even hanging out of his mouth. He goes crazy waiting to eat. Sooooooo, we spent some time sitting and staying instead of eating. UGH!!! So you see we all have our moments. Have you ever tried the anti-itch with a bitter taste to it that is for hot spots? Chipper gets spots that he will just chew on and I use that all the time. He responds to it quite well. Now Snowboy, that is a whole different story. Has to be hot sauce before he will leave anything alone----not on his skin----on furniture, etc. __________________ Joanne Eli ChipperEva Snowboy Rosie(R.I.P. 1996-July 29, 2013) Cocoa(R.I.P 1998-April 26, 2012):

07-31-2008, 09:01 AM	#25
spanky's mom Donating Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Feb 2007 Location: California Posts: 219	I hear you Were in the same boat I went bk to work part time to pay for violett, 2500 then she had the trip to ER vet 435. Hubby hasn't been working much he's self employed ,we just had to dip into our retirement to pay our taxes and so on. it does get depressing when you need the money and you dont no know how youre going to pay the next house payment.Let alone if your baby needs to go to the VET. I always feel like my family will say you never should have gotten another yorkie let alone a 2500 dollar one. I pray things will get better for you, and please no that you ae not alone. you wanna know how much my edison bill was this month? lol $494.94. Keeping you in my Prayers. God Bless. Michelle,Spanky and baby Violett. __________________ Spanky & Violetts MOM

07-31-2008, 09:15 AM	#26
mizzwanned Donating YT 11K Club Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: new york Posts: 14,007 Blog Entries: 2	I know just what you mean! Don't worry, i think most people on here know what you are going thru. For one I'm 21 and it's me and my bf and the 3 dogs(well babies lol). I love them soooo much, they are my children and have made me rethink ever having kids, i love them like nothing else but sometimes im like...WOW 3!! I went crazy and basically got all 3 w/o even thinking it thru, i dont regret it one bit but financially it is hard. If one gets sick and they get better, then the other gets sick, its so unpredictable. And then i feel like i can't go out for too long, i barely do even and when i do i feel bad, and feel like i should go home right away. I want to go on vacation and feel too bad to and im young and should be able to do what i want, but their my responsibility. But the good outweigh the bad, well actually there is no bad with them, its all good, its just struggling financially and not wanting to leave them. But they bring happiness and so much love, i just dont know if i ever want children anymore. __________________ Primrose, Teddy..RIP, Livie..RIP, And can never forget my duo Sophie and London, Run in Peace <3

07-31-2008, 07:58 AM	#17
erino77 Currently Suspended! Join Date: May 2007 Location: Ohio Posts: 2,503	aww keep your chin up girl, things will get better! They say "that doesn not kill us will only make us stronger"!! I know it sucks when everything seems to be on the uphill but that means that one day you will be at the top and have a nice easy ride down, without all the struggles. Please share what has been going on medically with with Odie, I'm sure we can help to make things a bit easier. Here on YT there is almost always someone who has been there, done that, and can probably/hopefully give you some pointers. (((((hugs)))))

07-31-2008, 08:04 AM	#18
odies_mama YT Addict Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: Milton, Florida Posts: 291 Blog Entries: 1	thanks for all of yalls hugs and good thoughts. now lets see if i can answer some of those questions..lol as far as vet visits go, he could be worse i guess...like back in June i had to take him because he ate a flea and that gave him those worms in his stools, and then in July i took him because the inside/middle section in between his pads got infected and now he has this hot spot where he has just dug at it soo much that its not bloody and pussy....these last couple of months have just been crazy. and im sure you're all right with saying its stress. as much as i try to claim that im not, i finally hit rock bottom with it all i think lol employment in my town is so ridiculous right now!!! either companies and businesses are on a hiring freeze, or they're laying people off, or they're hiring internally for people that have been layed off. i have been actively looking for a job since last December....i still cant believe it! i have never been this long without a job. BUT tomorrow i have a meeting with a long time friend of my family about working for him doing what i already do, photography, and he's talking about putting me in charge of all the photographers and being in charge of his website...so im gonna keep my fingers and toes crossed on this one haha i do feel better for having vented and of course yall are always great about sending hugs and prayers and good doggy dust my way or to anyone else who needs it.

07-31-2008, 08:16 AM	#19
erino77 Currently Suspended! Join Date: May 2007 Location: Ohio Posts: 2,503	We'll keep our fingers, toes and paws crossed that tomorrow goes well for you!!

07-31-2008, 08:29 AM	#22
dogbert Donating YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Jul 2008 Location: Southern, MN,USA Posts: 3,271 Blog Entries: 1	I understand, there is an emotional and financial toll when our pets are ill. I told my hubby the other day when our new dog was so sick (we just put our last dog to sleep) to never let me get another dog. We don't have the financial worries, but the vet bills aren't cheap. It's just so gut wrenching for me to have a sick pet. I agree with what everyone else said, it's ok to vent. Anyone who has ever had a child or pet knows how you feel. We've all been there at some point. Hang in there and I hope you find employment soon!

07-31-2008, 08:40 AM	#23
Sandysbabies YT 2000 Club Member Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: Dallas, Texas Posts: 2,234	It just helps to talk about things and there are so many nice people here that understand. Sometimes better than so called friends or even family. Just last night my husband said, You can't stay mad at Kayla when you look in that little face. We are still having tee tee problems. I think she will be an old lady by the time she knows not just to go out the doggie door and look around and come back in and tee tee on mommy's carpet. Then I was really overwhelmed at time with the time scheldule, shots, and trying to get Max to eat to only have him throw up and then he couldn't take his insulin. Stress galore!!! But now that he has passed away, you know what, I would do it ten times over just to have that little face to look up at me again. Hang in there and just remember you will feel better tomorrow. Sometimes only a day makes a difference.

08-01-2008, 07:08 PM	#28
chestermama YT 3000 Club Member Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: washington Posts: 3,383 Blog Entries: 1	right after I got chester I was so overwhelmed I wanted to give him back, now I cannot imagine a day without him , he is the best thing in my life right now and always will be, when we all get stressed and overwhelmed everything is to much, it will get better, hang in there