at my wits end
 

well the subject says it all!

i dont know why but i just feel so overwhelmed with odie lately. i cant help but think of how much easier things would be if i didnt have him anymore.

really though, i cant ever see myself giving him away its just so hard to take care of him sometimes. and its not even him its just that i keep having to take him to the vet and i dont have money...at the time i got him, i was working two jobs and it wasnt a problem. but now that i am unemployed, whenever i have to ask my parents or fiance for the money, i know that they're getting tired of it and that whole "he's your dog, you need to take care of him" things just hangs in the air and very heavily over my head

i'm not looking for sympathy or anything, i guess im just venting....and please, if you do leave a comment please dont say things like "well if u cant take care of him, then you should find a good home that can provide for him" because hes being taken care of just fine but i just feel helpless...

and this next statement may be a little much...but...having odie has really made me question wether or not i want children. because when he gets sick i dont know whats wrong with him and i dont what he wants or needs...and like i said..i just feel so overwhelmed....

and all of this makes me very sad.

I don't want to laugh but I had 4 kids, 4 grandkids, and now 2 great grandkids and nine dogs. Believe me when I say sometimes I didn't want the responsibility of any of them! I can tell you there are times all parents become overwhelmed and wonder why they had kids.

The thing is everything gets better with time.

I'm sure there are times you think Odie is just to much trouble then there are times you are so sad and he will lick your face and look at you like " can I help?"

I do think sometimes it is important to vent and have someone to talk to. I hope you find a job soon and things get back to normal. Hang in there!

I too, have felt overwhelmed with my pups but it does get easier with time and they do grow up quickly and they become much easier to care for. When I used to start feeling and thinking that I did the wrong thing by getting a pup or a 2nd pup.....I would stop and think, what would my life be like without my little sidekick(s) and I realized I would be so lonely and so incomplete. They have brought so much joy and love to my life along with the frustration of the time constraints and responsibility that it so outweighs the tough stuff.

I will be sending you positive thoughts and good energy that everything for you will soon be on an upswing and these days of frustration will be something of the past. You are a good mom to that lil pup and he sure does need you.:):aimeeyork

:thumbup::thumbup: GREAT post! I completely understand being overwhelmed. It's hard to talk about things like this because some people are just so passionate about their Yorkies and can get a little upset and abrasive. It's so easy to get frustrated! Some days I so regret having dogs but then they just look up at me with their sweet little eyes and lick my face and I remember again why it's all worth it. They get better with time, also. Franklin is almost over his puppy stage and I can't wait until he's a perfect little dog like Maggie. Have some patience and he'll calm down. Good luck. :)

Hang in there! You can lean on us...we all have hard times...there is brighter times around the corner!

I totally agree with this post. Just keep telling yourself that "This too shall pass.." Things will get better, keep your chin up!

Peace and Love,

It is ok to vent. Everyone needs to.. at times. And this is a good place to do it. Your feelings are normal. Under stress.. we all question ourselves. The joys that Yorkies bring far outweigh the stress that we may be under. There is so much love in those little hearts.. and it just keeps on growing.

My thoughts and prayers are with you. Hang in there.. it will get better.

I felt that way after I got Lucie. Duke was such a breeze as a pup and even now, other than not being able to vacation and stuff he's so easy. Lucie is a terror! She's beyond hyper, chews on everything, sometimes she makes me nuts haha. But I love her!
Things will get better, it's probably just all the stress from not working right now and things just piling up on you. And you are young, I saw on your profile that you are 20! I'll be 24 next month, and believe me, I have no desire for children anytime soon! You don't need to worry about that right now.

Awww, i'm sorry you are feeling this way. You are not alone in that and things definately do get better.

why is he sick so much?

When I first got Bailey, I had recently lost Tiffy - another Yorkie. I had nursed Tiffy through her last 6 months of life til it was more humane to have her put down.

I got Bailey when she was 9 weeks old, and during the first week while leash training her, my I tripped over a loose piece of pavement. I broke a bone in my arm, gashed the bridge of my nose with my glasses (requiring stitches), scraped my knee and had a few more bumps and bruises. I did all this in order not to fall on her.

During my recuperation, I had to take care of a new pup (ya know, constant trips outdoors to housebreak, stopping chewing, crying and all the hassles of a little one. There were times when I thought, "I have to give her back" "I can't handle this". But, I stuck with it, slowly my wounds healed and very slowly Bailey got through all the pitfalls of puppyhood. I felt overwhelmed, to be sure, but I am so glad I didn't give up. She is such a joy.

Hopefully, you'll get through your hard times and you will be able to look back on this and be happy you persevered.

By the way, you didn't specify the illnesses. Maybe folks on this forum can be helpful to you.

;)

I do understand what you say about the choice of having children. I, too, was terrified. They are a BIG emotional responsibility. Yes, there will be times when the worry for them is such a burden, that you feel overwhelmed. It happens, but its worth it though for the good stuff they can bring into your life. My son wasnt planned, but if I had to do it again, I wouldnt change anything.

Things in our life can get rough sometimes, and that can reflect on others in our life, including our pets. But were doing the best we can do. I just try to accept that the best I can do is good enough, even if it doesn't seem that way sometimes. :)

Are you actively looking for another job? If so, you may feel differently once you find one and feel a little more financially independent.

I think everyone feels overwhelmed at one or more times in her life. As someone above said, this too shall pass. Try to evaluate whether your feelings are coming simply from stress (which they probably are) or if you're truly in a situation that can only change if you give up your furbaby. That might put things a little more in perspective for you. In the meantime, ((((hugs)))).

Bless your heart!!!! I'm a mom of 2 and then I have my Mufasa. There are plenty of days I want to throw up my hands and be done with ALL of it but as the others have said it DOES calm down and then you realize you couldn't live life without all that you have. It IS overwhelming but you just hang in there because that little guy is depending on you. Tomorrow is another day and things WILL get better sweetie!

{{{{{Hugs}}}}} are what you need right now. Believe me! There are times when everyone wants to just get up and run away from it all. You are not alone.

I totally understand where you are coming from, I would not give Lily and Kingston up for all the money in the world but sometimes I wonder if I can do it, one of them are always at the vet my husband is trying to get his MBA and I am losing my job In Sept. So I completely understand. Just like many have said it will all pass and one day you will sit with him and wonder how you will ever live without him. As far as not wanting kids anymore we were supposed to start trying 8 months ago but having the dog and being up with them all night and spending all our spare cash on them and my job changing I also have second thoughts about having children. Good luck with everything and remember to enjoy the good time, we have all been there.