Question Of The Year!!!!!! Help!

[melmel84]

Originally Posted by erino77

Puppy!!!
You could always send your boyfriend over to my house and have my dh explain to him about the love of Yorkies lol!
If this is being to nosey then just ignore me lol! Have you guys been together long? Is it your house or his? I personally would take these factors into consideration if I were you. If it is your house, not the both of your's together and since your not married yet, I would probably make the decision that I wanted to. But if you guys are very serious and have future plans i.e. marraige and it is both of your's home, then I would seriously take his thoughts into consideration. Even though he should always vote for another puppy, lol!
HTH!
Please don't take me as being rude, just some food for thought

Actually very helpful. We have been together for 3 1/2 years. The house is both of ours (but in my name). We share bills with the exception of vet bills (i pay for those). We will most likely get married one day, it has been discussed. He is absolutely in love with Tino, our little furbaby, and is always laying on the floor playing with him. He did NOT want tino at all, may I add, and when he saw him he fell instantly head over heals in love with him. So I don't know how to read this situation. I know he will love Tino's offspring. He jokes about the name I always said I'd give a neww puppy if I got one. Which would be "Onit" <---Tino backwords becuase it would be his son. (I am corny I know) Hmmmmm.....This is a tough one!

[bfollowell]

Melissa,

I can't tell if I'm the first guy to respond or not but from the usernames I see, I think I am. So let me give you a guy's take on it. OK, he says he doesn't think you need another animal in the house right now. Fine, find out why he feels this way. Does he feel like it will be more work on him? Does he feel that it will take more time and attention away from him? Does he just feel you don't have enough lovin' to go around with a new puppy in the house? Just try to better understand why he feels this way. I'm not saying to give in to him; only to try and understand his motivation a little better and take it into account. Just don't dismiss it.

In the end, let him know that going along with you on this one even if he doesn't agree, maybe especially if he doesn't agree, is a great way to build up points in the old emotional bank account and that you'll remember the next time he does something stupid or thoughtless. You know we guys are an inherently stupid lot that are constantly doing and saying things that get us into hot water with the ladies in our lives and are in constant need of bailing out and forgiveness. Jokingly remind him of this and let him know, within reason, you'll be a little more forgiving when he has his next bout of male pattern stupidity and I'll bet him comes right around. If not, well, there's absolutely no hope for him at all and there's nothing whatsoever I can do for him or you.

Hopefully this voice of male wisdom and experience will help you get through to him.

- Byron

[Lynn WDW]

My husband finally gave in and said OK do whatever you want. I did and now I have a puppy that my husband of 20 years is not crazt about. He tolerates him and occasionally plays with him but not much. I wish I hadn't done it because it has caused much stress. Good luck whatever you decide.

[khyorkies]

Originally Posted by melmel84

I always said I'd give a neww puppy if I got one. Which would be "Onit" <---Tino backwords becuase it would be his son.

All I can say is good luck, and the name is really neat!!!

[charmed239]

go for the puppy...you will make the money with your other clients right? and besides yorkies are sooo small whats one more..thats what i told my hubby when i wanted Riley.(he makes number 5 for us) he said "thats to many animals" we have a golden retreiver names sadie...I said awww come on..this one is not gonna take up no more room than sadies TAIL..there so little they dont count as a whole pet..lol

[Sookie]

PUPPY!! My DH wasn't totally thrilled about getting our 2nd Yorkie - but now she is his favorite, his precious little baby girl. Go for it.

[melmel84]

Originally Posted by bfollowell

Melissa,

I can't tell if I'm the first guy to respond or not but from the usernames I see, I think I am. So let me give you a guy's take on it. OK, he says he doesn't think you need another animal in the house right now. Fine, find out why he feels this way. Does he feel like it will be more work on him? Does he feel that it will take more time and attention away from him? Does he just feel you don't have enough lovin' to go around with a new puppy in the house? Just try to better understand why he feels this way. I'm not saying to give in to him; only to try and understand his motivation a little better and take it into account. Just don't dismiss it.

In the end, let him know that going along with you on this one even if he doesn't agree, maybe especially if he doesn't agree, is a great way to build up points in the old emotional bank account and that you'll remember the next time he does something stupid or thoughtless. You know we guys are an inherently stupid lot that are constantly doing and saying things that get us into hot water with the ladies in our lives and are in constant need of bailing out and forgiveness. Jokingly remind him of this and let him know, within reason, you'll be a little more forgiving when he has his next bout of male pattern stupidity and I'll bet him comes right around. If not, well, there's absolutely no hope for him at all and there's nothing whatsoever I can do for him or you.

Hopefully this voice of male wisdom and experience will help you get through to him.

- Byron

Awesome ADVICE!!!!! Ok I just called him and brought up those valid points and asked him why he felt the way he did. Here was the convo minus some side things that aren't relevant:

Melissa: "Why do you feel this way"

Nic: "Becuase"

Melissa: "Becuase why?"

Nic: "I don't know why"

Melissa: "There must be a reason"

Nic: Silent*

Melissa: "I respect your opinion and I want you to be on board with me if I decide to go this way, so I would like to know why you have reservations"

Nic: "It's alot of responsibility and investment to have another animal"

Melissa: "Understandable. I have already thought about this and am willing to continue taking on full reponsibility of the animals if I decide to go through with this"

Nic: "Well babe, if that is what you truley want than I will not have a problem with it. I just want to make sure that you understand what your doing. I am on board if this is what you decide, thank you for asking me though."


AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!! !!!!!! I think I am getting a PUPPY!!!!

[erino77]

Originally Posted by melmel84

Actually very helpful. We have been together for 3 1/2 years. The house is both of ours (but in my name). We share bills with the exception of vet bills (i pay for those). We will most likely get married one day, it has been discussed. He is absolutely in love with Tino, our little furbaby, and is always laying on the floor playing with him. He did NOT want tino at all, may I add, and when he saw him he fell instantly head over heals in love with him. So I don't know how to read this situation. I know he will love Tino's offspring. He jokes about the name I always said I'd give a neww puppy if I got one. Which would be "Onit" <---Tino backwords becuase it would be his son. (I am corny I know) Hmmmmm.....This is a tough one!

Sometimes it helps when offering advice to see the whole situation, so that's why I ask further into it, kwim? Obviously you guys are very serious and his opinion counts as you have future plans with each other, lol! I just didn't know if it was a new relationship, not serious and who knows if the bf would even be around down the road to have you miss this opportunity that you have so much hope for. I'm glad you saw my questions in a good way and how I was trying to help, not hurt or anything bad like that I was hoping they wouldn't come off the wrong way. Whew, it's so hard to put your intentions and thoughts on the computer sometimes, lol!
I really like Onit, that is very creative.
Tino & Onit
Keep us updated on what you guys decide to do.

[erino77]

Originally Posted by melmel84

Awesome ADVICE!!!!! Ok I just called him and brought up those valid points and asked him why he felt the way he did. Here was the convo minus some side things that aren't relevant:

Melissa: "Why do you feel this way"

Nic: "Becuase"

Melissa: "Becuase why?"

Nic: "I don't know why"

Melissa: "There must be a reason"

Nic: Silent*

Melissa: "I respect your opinion and I want you to be on board with me if I decide to go this way, so I would like to know why you have reservations"

Nic: "It's alot of responsibility and investment to have another animal"

Melissa: "Understandable. I have already thought about this and am willing to continue taking on full reponsibility of the animals if I decide to go through with this"

Nic: "Well babe, if that is what you truley want than I will not have a problem with it. I just want to make sure that you understand what your doing. I am on board if this is what you decide, thank you for asking me though."


AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!! !!!!!! I think I am getting a PUPPY!!!!

Well then, I think a big ole

CONGRATULATIONS

Is in order for you then!!!
I like how you handled the conversation, great job!!

[dbeach]

Melissa,

Don't want to hi-jack your thread but wanted to show you Katie at her one year old birthday party.. (Tino's daughter to anyone who is wondering).

This way everyone can see how cute Tino's offspring are NO WAY I'M PREJUDICED!! LOL


Debbie
Tasha, Tea' and Katie

[melmel84]

Originally Posted by dbeach

Melissa,

Don't want to hi-jack your thread but wanted to show you Katie at her one year old birthday party.. (Tino's daughter to anyone who is wondering).

This way everyone can see how cute Tino's offspring are NO WAY I'M PREJUDICED!! LOL


Debbie
Tasha, Tea' and Katie

OMG!!!!!!!!! She looks just like her daddy!! How adorable is she!!! Debbie she is gorgeous!!!!!!! Is she still licking your face? LOL Definately a daddy trait! Aww see now I have to get one of Tino's babies! Look at her little face!

[amandawash]

OK now we need a picture of Tino!!! Where is he???????????

[melmel84]

Originally Posted by amandawash

OK now we need a picture of Tino!!! Where is he???????????

Tino = 1st Picture
Katie (Tino's Daughter) = 2nd Picture

Family resemblance? AHHHH! I love it!

[oopsmyhalofello]

Gorgeous! I think the decision is made right? Congrats on your upcoming puppy

[s13silviagirl]

Originally Posted by chattiesmom

Coming from an old lady who has been married 27 years.....

I would talk to the BF and come to a mutual decision. Sometimes you have to sacrafice an immediate "I WANT" for the good of a relationship.

I would take the $$.

The voice of reason I agree though, a puppy would be nice...the money in todays economy would be better.