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03-23-2008, 08:25 AM | #1 |
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| i am just livid right now..... Belle has had a couple of accidents in the house, seh is peepad trained but has strayed a little and is having accidents in my parents room... usually she's my shadow at all times, and when i am not home she's in my room, with the door closed... she has managed to sneak off and pee/poo in my parents room... well my parents won't let me dicipline her like i am supposed to and they are getting frustrated, my mom says that this is how she trained our other dogs some years back and this is how she wants to train belle: by showing her what she did, and smacking her behind with newspaper, and saying "Bad girl" i've told them time and time again that this doesn't work, and that they shouldn't do things like that, bc it's just going to frustrate her, and make her scared of them and whatnot... but they are upset that she's having accidents, and whatever training technique i bring up they discard as if i have no clue what i'm talking about... but i do believe in the stuff that cesar millan says, and the energies in my house are conflicting when it comes to correcting belle's behaviors so i'm sure that confuses her as well... plus everyone wants to do whatever different diciplining when it comes to it, so how is she ever supposed to learn something if everyone does something different to correct the same behavior!?!?!?! i.e. when she barks i always say "shh" and it works most of the time, my parents get frantic and start yelling, shut up, be quite, hush... etc... their energy is anything but calm and assertive... they get frustrated, and i think she picks up on that and gets frustrated too... i try to remain calm and assertive, but end up getting frustrated too, not with belle but with my parents... who dismiss everything i say, even though i'm the one that talks to trainers and does any research... sorry it's so long, i just had to vent... i just want to scream right now... (AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAARRRRRRRRRRGGGGGGGGHHHHHHHHHH):mad :
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03-23-2008, 08:36 AM | #2 |
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| Hi, What are you using to keep her in your room, I find that a baby gate works wonders this way they can see out and that takes away some of the curiosity and I can step over it. Maybe you and your parents can compromise on the discipline, (I too am an avid ceaser fan) Say they can tell her bad girl but not to swat her but, as far as the barking goes, explain to them that most dogs and people as well tune out when others yell at them after a while all you hear is blah blah blah blah blah.....what works great is distraction I choose to use a coffee can with a few coins in it the noise distracts them right a way, and after a while they get the point. Hope this helps. Cheryl |
03-23-2008, 08:42 AM | #3 |
YT 500 Club Member Join Date: May 2007 Location: Weston, FL
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| she's in my room with the door closed, she usually even when the door is not closed goes and lays on my bed when im not home, before we moved she used to have full run of the house, and no accidents... this is still a new house, so it's like almost starting from scratch... i might get the baby gate, but my room is in a hall way, so unless my parents go in the hall, then she won't see anything but my brother's door...lol...
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03-23-2008, 02:14 PM | #4 |
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| So, if I understand right, this is a new situation that she is in? Maybe time will take care of it. I have four pressure mounted gates in my house. Love them. Gives me more control even though there is a door to close. My guess is that you are still young since you are living at home. Read all you can on the net about raising your wee one and you will do just fine. It is a common presumption from the "old school" (which I am a part of ) that whopping the dog is acceptable. Through gentle education you can teach your parents the right way to discipline a furbaby. Good luck!
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03-23-2008, 02:25 PM | #5 |
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| I agree with you. Everyone should be on the same page with the discipline. I like Cesar Millan too. Maybe have your parents watch his show. I wish you the best.
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03-24-2008, 05:36 AM | #6 | ||
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| Thank you all so much for your replies, i appreciate it very much... and i'm calmer today as is everyone else at the house... so far... my parents still don't believe my approach is working... but i know it is, bc when she barks and i say "shh" she stops... and when she wants me to check something out i tell her thanks Belle it's ok... and go check out whatever... and then she stops... they get her over excited, especially my dad, and then when he doesnt want to play anymore, is when she barks at him... and at my brother for attention but she's been stopping that... thanks for your replies and wishes... Quote:
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03-24-2008, 07:18 AM | #8 |
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| thank you so much! hugs to you too!!!
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03-24-2008, 07:21 AM | #9 |
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| I know exactly how you are feeling. I also live with my mom (my boyfriend and I both do, I graduated in May and he's still in school, but we both moved up from Tenn.) and I got Lucy when I moved home, my mom already has 2 yorkies. And I find that she yells at Lucy for barking when her dogs are instigating it, it's really frustrating, but I try to explain to my mom what i'm doing and everytime she does something for example yells at Lucy I just remind her that that's not that way we are training her. And it seems to have worked. So maybe your parents just need some time to understand that the methods really do work. Maybe while you are gone, you can put her in a crate. We have Lucy's crate in our finished basement near my bedroom and she goes in there at night and when we are gone. She really enjoys her time in her crate, it's her safe place. Maybe if you got one for your room, your Belle could stay in there when you aren't home and won't be sneaking off and having accidents.
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03-24-2008, 07:24 AM | #10 |
YT 500 Club Member Join Date: May 2007 Location: Weston, FL
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| thanks for the advise, crating didn't work for us, she usually stays in my room with the door closed, and my mom will let her out during the day for a bit... it's only been a day since i posted so not much to update... but hopefully it will get better, as for them smacking her bottom... i dunno what else to tell them bc they don't want to listen and still keep smacking her, not hard mind you, bbut i don't want her to become anxious when i leave
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