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Erin · 02-04-2008, 05:50 PM

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Originally Posted by Proud Mommy

Thank you... Good suggestion. And I am trying with my son, but I understand why he so upset. He just started telling me that I love the dogs more than him. So I need to reassure him that I love him just as much as I love my dogs

I didn't know he was feeling this way

I spend a lot of time with my babies so now I need to find something to do with just him

There was a girl in several of my rally classes who was maybe 11 at the oldest and trained her big goofy lab all by herself (with her parent's supervision of course) Every week she came with the dog and did all of the tricks. Sometimes mom came, sometimes dad, sometimes both... but come the Rally trial she was the one in the ring with her dog. This girl is going to have be a champion handler one day, but it just showed me how kids can learn to respect dogs and dogs can listen to kids. Try letting him give her a special yummy treat for doing commands. My husband thought Loki was boring and then all of the sudden he started teaching him tricks. I'd come home from the grocery store and he will have taught Loki a new trick like crawl or wave. We are working on a local political campaign right now and he even taught Loki to wave his paw when we say "Vote for John!" and growl when we say "What do you think of Bill?" They had to bond in their own special way I guess. Maybe that's what you need to figure out?

Proud Mommy · 02-04-2008, 06:11 PM

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Originally Posted by Erin

There was a girl in several of my rally classes who was maybe 11 at the oldest and trained her big goofy lab all by herself (with her parent's supervision of course) Every week she came with the dog and did all of the tricks. Sometimes mom came, sometimes dad, sometimes both... but come the Rally trial she was the one in the ring with her dog. This girl is going to have be a champion handler one day, but it just showed me how kids can learn to respect dogs and dogs can listen to kids. Try letting him give her a special yummy treat for doing commands. My husband thought Loki was boring and then all of the sudden he started teaching him tricks. I'd come home from the grocery store and he will have taught Loki a new trick like crawl or wave. We are working on a local political campaign right now and he even taught Loki to wave his paw when we say "Vote for John!" and growl when we say "What do you think of Bill?" They had to bond in their own special way I guess. Maybe that's what you need to figure out?

That is too funny about his voting lol

I have taught her sit and down and i'm working on stay. Maybe i'll try to let him teach her to shake or something fun... Maybe that will alow her to trust him and him to like her

It is definitely worth a shot

I Love Bailey · 02-04-2008, 07:00 PM

Why don't you try signing up your dog for a training class and have your son come to help?
He would then find some positive ways to interact with her and maybe learn to teach her a trick ot two?

LBrooks323 · 02-04-2008, 07:19 PM

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Originally Posted by Proud Mommy

She is 1 year 7 months

Well, she is not a puppy anymore. That is what I wanted to be sure of. Of my 2 yorkies, one plays very well with my 4 year old stepson. The other one can only take him in small doses. He is very energetic like your son. But my stepson is loud and somewhat forceful. I have taught both of them to respect each other's space. I would not allow my dog to approach my son with the intention of biting. If he were abusing the dog or threatning, I could understand. But my dogs are not allowed to approach a human in a threatning manner. Period. I am the pack leader. Loud noises are no excuse. If he is jumping off the couch and he's not watching out if she is underfoot, then I would get him for that. But for your dog to take charge and decide she is going to bite or get him because he is getting on her nerves; no mam'. When my male was younger and my stepson came for a visit, I could tell when my dog was getting too anxious and I would put him in his crate for a while. Not for punishment, but because that was his space. In time he learned to get away from my stepson when the noise became too much. Dogs, like people, have to learn the proper way to deal with different situations, pleasant or not, in an acceptable way. If he is picking on your dog or almost harming her, then yes, make him stop by all means. Teach him to cool it if she is too close while he is jumping around, etc. But you will have to teach your dog that if he is just annoying her, she is NOT to take matters into her own hands and "correct" him. You are in charge, not the child or the dog. Hope this helps.

yoyo27 · 02-04-2008, 07:36 PM

This is a 6 yr old kid. The jumping is scaring the dog and she could get hurt. What about a gate to keep her in an area you are studying with a place to lay down and relax and some toys. That way you son can go in another room and jump if need be and no harm is done. But he doesn't need to be loud as yorkies have very keen ears and loud noises really bother them. But I agree that there needs to be limits on both of there parts. You are the one in charge and need to set the limits and make sure they are followed. What does you son do when you are studying? Maybe that is a good time for him to do a movie or something calmer. My grandaugther is 2yrs old. When she comes to my house with the dog and wants to be around the dog. She has to sit and let the dog come to her. There is no running in the house or jumping. And she has went with me to walk the dog and has learned how to do that very well. Now her parents have a hard time dealing with this hyper kid because she is use to ruling them. Its all in the training on both sides and they both have to respect each other. You need to reinforce that.

Pup-e-Love · 02-04-2008, 08:53 PM

Did your yorkie come to your house as a puppy?

Proud Mommy · 02-04-2008, 09:11 PM

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Originally Posted by LBrooks323

Well, she is not a puppy anymore. That is what I wanted to be sure of. Of my 2 yorkies, one plays very well with my 4 year old stepson. The other one can only take him in small doses. He is very energetic like your son. But my stepson is loud and somewhat forceful. I have taught both of them to respect each other's space. I would not allow my dog to approach my son with the intention of biting. If he were abusing the dog or threatning, I could understand. But my dogs are not allowed to approach a human in a threatning manner. Period. I am the pack leader. Loud noises are no excuse. If he is jumping off the couch and he's not watching out if she is underfoot, then I would get him for that. But for your dog to take charge and decide she is going to bite or get him because he is getting on her nerves; no mam'. When my male was younger and my stepson came for a visit, I could tell when my dog was getting too anxious and I would put him in his crate for a while. Not for punishment, but because that was his space. In time he learned to get away from my stepson when the noise became too much. Dogs, like people, have to learn the proper way to deal with different situations, pleasant or not, in an acceptable way. If he is picking on your dog or almost harming her, then yes, make him stop by all means. Teach him to cool it if she is too close while he is jumping around, etc. But you will have to teach your dog that if he is just annoying her, she is NOT to take matters into her own hands and "correct" him. You are in charge, not the child or the dog. Hope this helps.

Thank you it does

For My Coby · 02-04-2008, 09:12 PM

You've gotten good advice already. I agree with much of it. You have to protect your yorkie from an exuberant 6 year old. Both need boundaries. And I think it would be great if you regrouped as pack leader but got your son to buy into it by giving him some training jobs. So lots of support and best of luck to ya!

Proud Mommy · 02-04-2008, 09:22 PM

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Originally Posted by Pup-e-Love

Did your yorkie come to your house as a puppy?

They were already over a year old... They had never been socialized, they had never seen children, they had never even been outdoors

When I got them they were terrified of EVERYTHING!!! The have come along way, it has only been 7 months.

Proud Mommy · 02-04-2008, 09:27 PM

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Originally Posted by For My Coby

You've gotten good advice already. I agree with much of it. You have to protect your yorkie from an exuberant 6 year old. Both need boundaries. And I think it would be great if you regrouped as pack leader but got your son to buy into it by giving him some training jobs. So lots of support and best of luck to ya!

I agree!!!

I have gotten outstanding advise

I told him i was going to let him teach her to shake and his attitude has already changed toward her

For My Coby · 02-04-2008, 09:28 PM

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Originally Posted by Proud Mommy

I agree!!!

I have gotten outstanding advise

I told him i was going to let him teach her to shake and his attitude has already changed toward her

Outstanding!! I see a new relationship in their future!!

Proud Mommy · 02-04-2008, 09:53 PM

Just so everyone knows... My babies are my world!!! I would NEVER, NEVER, let anything happen to them. When my son is jumping around she is either in my lap or next to me. My babies do not leave my side for a second (I even have 1 that gets in the shower with me lol). I would never let anything happen, they are not left alone with ANY children, even mine because accidents can happen.

I do find it odd however that there are a few members on this Forum that are not much older than my son that own their own Yorkie and they are welcomed with open arms, but I ask for help and I get "Your dog is wise to hate your son" and "that is exdactly the reason why many breeders REFUSE to sell to people with small children" I was very hurt by this

Thank you all so much for the great suggestions

I will keep you updated on what works

Proud Mommy · 02-04-2008, 09:54 PM

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Originally Posted by For My Coby

Outstanding!! I see a new relationship in their future!!

lets hope

For My Coby · 02-04-2008, 09:59 PM

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Originally Posted by Proud Mommy

Just so everyone knows... My babies are my world!!! I would NEVER, NEVER, let anything happen to them. When my son is jumping around she is either in my lap or next to me. My babies do not leave my side for a second (I even have 1 that gets in the shower with me lol). I would never let anything happen, they are not left alone with ANY children, even mine because accidents can happen.

I do find it odd however that there are a few members on this Forum that are not much older than my son that own their own Yorkie and they are welcomed with open arms, but I ask for help and I get "Your dog is wise to hate your son" and "that is exdactly the reason why many breeders REFUSE to sell to people with small children" I was very hurt by this

Thank you all so much for the great suggestions

I will keep you updated on what works

Just my opinion - unfortunately, for us to tell every important detail of our stories (i.e., "when my son is jumping around she is either in my lap or next to me"), we would have to write chapters to give the background information. Forums are tricky, and it's tough whether we're the poster or the responder.

Please keep us updated to your progess. Sounds like you've done wonders since you've had her. It's just on to the next step....

Proud Mommy · 02-04-2008, 10:18 PM

Ok so we just tried a treat

He looked at me funny when I told him I wanted him to run into the room

He is so use to me saying no running and quiet.

So as soon as she barked he told her "No" and gave her a treat when she stoped. We did it 5 times, by the 5th one he couldn't get her to bark

So I told him "we are going to do this for a few days to help her understand that you aren't trying to hurt her." I told him as soon as she learns that she doesn't have to be afraid of him we will teach he to shake

He is very excited

02-04-2008, 07:00 PM	#18
I Love Bailey I Love Angel too! Donating Member Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: Northern Nevada Posts: 1,339	Why don't you try signing up your dog for a training class and have your son come to help? He would then find some positive ways to interact with her and maybe learn to teach her a trick ot two? __________________ Michele & Bailey Angel 7/06-9/12

02-04-2008, 07:36 PM	#20
yoyo27 Donating YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: Missouri Posts: 1,741	This is a 6 yr old kid. The jumping is scaring the dog and she could get hurt. What about a gate to keep her in an area you are studying with a place to lay down and relax and some toys. That way you son can go in another room and jump if need be and no harm is done. But he doesn't need to be loud as yorkies have very keen ears and loud noises really bother them. But I agree that there needs to be limits on both of there parts. You are the one in charge and need to set the limits and make sure they are followed. What does you son do when you are studying? Maybe that is a good time for him to do a movie or something calmer. My grandaugther is 2yrs old. When she comes to my house with the dog and wants to be around the dog. She has to sit and let the dog come to her. There is no running in the house or jumping. And she has went with me to walk the dog and has learned how to do that very well. Now her parents have a hard time dealing with this hyper kid because she is use to ruling them. Its all in the training on both sides and they both have to respect each other. You need to reinforce that. __________________ " Santa's on his Way! From: Cali, Cinnamon, and Zoie.

02-04-2008, 09:12 PM	#23
For My Coby Donating YT 3000 Club Member Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: Illinois Posts: 4,139	You've gotten good advice already. I agree with much of it. You have to protect your yorkie from an exuberant 6 year old. Both need boundaries. And I think it would be great if you regrouped as pack leader but got your son to buy into it by giving him some training jobs. So lots of support and best of luck to ya! __________________ Diane, and my boys ..... Coby and Reggie !! Striving to be a YTPP - a YT Positive Poster! In Memory of My Beautiful Mother 7/22/28-8/27/08

02-04-2008, 08:53 PM	#21
Pup-e-Love YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Mar 2007 Location: Ohio Posts: 896	Did your yorkie come to your house as a puppy?

02-04-2008, 09:53 PM	#27
Proud Mommy The Fabulous 4 Donating Member Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: ca Posts: 1,321	Just so everyone knows... My babies are my world!!! I would NEVER, NEVER, let anything happen to them. When my son is jumping around she is either in my lap or next to me. My babies do not leave my side for a second (I even have 1 that gets in the shower with me lol). I would never let anything happen, they are not left alone with ANY children, even mine because accidents can happen. I do find it odd however that there are a few members on this Forum that are not much older than my son that own their own Yorkie and they are welcomed with open arms, but I ask for help and I get "Your dog is wise to hate your son" and "that is exdactly the reason why many breeders REFUSE to sell to people with small children" I was very hurt by this Thank you all so much for the great suggestions I will keep you updated on what works

02-04-2008, 10:18 PM	#30
Proud Mommy The Fabulous 4 Donating Member Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: ca Posts: 1,321	Ok so we just tried a treat He looked at me funny when I told him I wanted him to run into the room He is so use to me saying no running and quiet. So as soon as she barked he told her "No" and gave her a treat when she stoped. We did it 5 times, by the 5th one he couldn't get her to bark So I told him "we are going to do this for a few days to help her understand that you aren't trying to hurt her." I told him as soon as she learns that she doesn't have to be afraid of him we will teach he to shake He is very excited