My mom is driving me crazy! Sorry really long

[mizzwanned]

I don't know what's wrong with her. She woke me up this morning crying and saying she doesn't know what to do with me, and that i'm always sleeping. Last night i went to sleep at 9 and this morning she came in at 7:30 crying, i woke up at 8 and took a shower. I used to have problems before to fall asleep and would be up all night and sleep till the afternoon and she would be mad at that but for the last 3 days i've been going to sleep early and waking up early, and now on Thanksgiving she comes crying??? Now that i've been sleeping normal hours she wants to break down, i just don't get it. It's like she's mad that i don't sleep the hours she does. Last night when i was going to sleep she was like what's wrong with you? Did you not sleep yesterday? Why are you going to sleep? It was already 9 and i was like mom this is a normal time to fall asleep The day before yesterday i went to sleep at like 8 or 9 and woke up at 5 am and was up all day yesterday running errands, making pies and i went to my gma's house with my bf to help with the turkey. I took a nap at her house cause i had a stomach ache and my stomach has been hurting for the past 3 days. It comes and goes and idk what it is. Well she knows my stomach's been hurting and asked me if i felt sick this morning cause i was still sleeping and then started crying! It doesn't hurt right now but i can't help it when it does. She's acting like it's my fault. Another thing i think it is is cause my bf sleeps over sometimes. She doesn't have a problem with it but her bf always says something to her. The fact that he complains i guess stresses her out and turns her against me too. When her bfs not here she never says anything and acts all nice, totally different. He sometimes takes vacations to PR and when he gets back she's back to her stressfull self. I just hate it. I guess he's like my stepdad but i dont call him that cause they're not married, he's just been living here for like 8 yrs and has never been like a dad to me. I have my own dad and i dont know why he always has something to say when he's not the one raising me, my mom is. This morning i heard her telling my gma that he said none of his daughters ever let a guy sleep at their house. I really don't think he's one to talk. He has like 6 daughter and 2 sons. His youngest son is 17 and has a gf pregnant. I don't even think he is in school and he talks to him like sh**. He also used to be a theif, when he used to come over when he was younger he would steal stuff from us. I really don't even think he raised him right imo. And his daughters, none of them ever call him, ever get him cards or anything for father's day, they just forget about him. Also like 2 of his daughters had kids at 16 yo. So really who is he to talk about me? He's also an alcoholic and idk why my mom is with him. He doesn't do anything stupid, he acts sober when he's drunk but that's because he's always been drinking and i guess doesn't even feel it anymore. I am just so frustrated. I want to move out so badly but right now i just paid off my debt and am looking for a job to save money. I'm in school full time too, i dont know what else she expects of me. I am 20 and have never had kids, i don't do drugs or anything crazy like that. I also don't even go to parties much, i used to party more before in hs but lately all i do is hang out with the dogs and my bf. We go to his house sometimes, and go out to the movies, to eat, etc. He only sleeps over sometimes, he lives like 10 blocks away, but i have my room to myself, we stay out of their way. He is also working and going to school with me and wants to be a chef, and is helping a ton this thanksgiving with the food. I don't see the problem. I think she wants me to work right right now but the problem with me is when i work and go to school my grades start to suffer. I feel like my Thansgiving day is ruined And now i have to go to my bf's and make an apple pie and help cook, whic im doing cause i want to do. Gosh it's not like i don't do anything, i just don't get why she cries to me, idk what im supposed to do!

[patty58]

Sweetie, just know you are in my prayers. I hope your day gets better.

[mizzwanned]

Originally Posted by patty58

Sweetie, just know you are in my prayers. I hope your day gets better.

Thank you so much. That means a lot to me.

[yorkiegirl83]

I'm sorry Sometimes parents seem to take out their stress on us and it's hard to know how to handle it. I hope you don't let it get you down and have a wonderful Thanksgiving!

[Buddy-licious]

I am so sorry that you are having problems with your Mom!!! It seems that our Mom's have a way of getting on our nerves at this time of year!!!! My best friend's daughter is in college and she sleeps all the time and it gets on her mom's nerves so bad!!! Then my niece is 18 years old and she sleeps alot too....my sister complains about it all the time!! So you are not alone...I personally know two other mom's that fuss about their daughters sleep habits!!! I hope things get better!!!

[daisy mae06]

I don't have much to add other than I'll keep you in my prayers. I hope things get better for you soon.

[mizzwanned]

Originally Posted by yorkiegirl83

I'm sorry Sometimes parents seem to take out their stress on us and it's hard to know how to handle it. I hope you don't let it get you down and have a wonderful Thanksgiving!

Thank you. That's true. I will try, im going to leave in a few and try to make that apple pie if i can

[mizzwanned]

Originally Posted by Buddy-licious

I am so sorry that you are having problems with your Mom!!! It seems that our Mom's have a way of getting on our nerves at this time of year!!!! My best friend's daughter is in college and she sleeps all the time and it gets on her mom's nerves so bad!!! Then my niece is 18 years old and she sleeps alot too....my sister complains about it all the time!! So you are not alone...I personally know two other mom's that fuss about their daughters sleep habits!!! I hope things get better!!!

Thank u so much! I tell her that it's common, i mean teenagers tend to sleep till the afternoon cause they go out, etc and i used to be like that but then i would still have problems sleeping even if i didn't go out and she would get mad, but now that ive been on a normal sleep schedule shes still mad. Basically she is taking out her frustration of her bf on me!

[peanut]

Sometimes parents are weird and have alot of pressure on them, maybe your mom is upset with something going on in her life, who knows and taking it out on you, or maybe she is really worried about you. You always want better for your kids than you did or do in life, but no one knows why or whats going on but your mom, I just said those things so you will see maybe its not you at all. May you could sit down with her later and just talk to her to see whats going on and be honest with her tell her what you are thinking. I will pray for you both, and try to have a great Thanksgiving don't let this ruin it for you..Sometimes holidays are hard on people and maybe thats what is going on with your mom.

[GinosMommy]

sometimes parents are like that.

My Mom will treat me awesome, then one day freak out on me for nothing, and I am 33! I think its just stress.

I know you are stressed out. I would be too. Just do what you have to do. Finish school, then you can move out and go from there. Its hard to live in a situation where you feel unwanted there or you feel uncomfortable being there. I have been there before.

Hang in there, it WILL get better. Trust me.

BIG HUGS!
Stacy

[Gizmo's Mom]

I AM one of those moms and I call it menopause, not handling very well. Thank you for letting me see myself thru you. I do hope evrything gets better for you. I agree, sit your mom down and have a heart to to when things are good. If this is part of her problem it's no more fun for her than it is you. Best of luck sweetie..now go make them pies. Happy Thanksgiving.

[tjdmom]

Sorry she is driving you crazy but I guess I would just say that I wish my mom was here to drive me crazy. I'm sure it's out of love and concern for you and I wish I had my mom here with me today to do that. I guess though, she is always in my heart and I do take comfort in that. Appreciate what you have even if it sometimes drives you crazy because before you know it, it will be gone and after all, Thankgiving is about appreciating those things we are thankful for.

[Yorkieluv]

Gosh, I'm so sorry that your Thanksgiving morning started out like that. I'm glad you let it all out though...Sometimes it's good not to keep it all bottled up inside. I know how frustrating it may seem now, but it will get better. Try to enjoy your day, and don't let anything ruin that!! Try to just smile all day long, and you will feel better. I tried that apple pie, and it turned out great!!! Good luck with it. It was pretty easy

[CocosMom]

I'm sorry she ruined your day already!! I hope it gets better.

I am 39 and my mom has been that way my whole life. She is in a mood now and mad at me and my sister. We are grown adults with children, but she has never treated us that way.

If she is miserable, everyone must be.

I am dreading today, also. If she starts to ruin day, I'm gonna pack my family up and leave. I can't take the stress of it anymore!!!

I feel for you sweetie. Just know that it is not you and she is responsible for her actions!!!

I hope you have a good day!!

Post later and let us know.

Happy Thanksgiving...especially to those who don't have crazy mothers!!!


Lori

[Yorkiekids]

Sounds like your mom is unhappy in her relationship, and feels torn between you and the bf. Maybe you want to sit down with her when he's not around, and have a heart to heart with her about what's she's feeling, and how it's affecting you.