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07-26-2007, 01:57 PM | #1 |
I love Jackson too! Donating Member Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: Ohio
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| How do you explain death to a 4-year-old? When Lily passed, my daughter told my granddaughter (Larissa) and she was upset and didn't want to believe it. She said to her mommy: "no mommy, that's not true, don't talk about that". So, my daughter let it go. The following weekend, my daughter and her hubby brought the kids over. Larissa came running to me as usual and when I hugged her, she whispered in my ear "grandma I'm so sorry about Lily", and she gave me a kiss. Of course, I started to cry a little and so did she. It was just the sweetest moment. A little later, I showed them where we buried Lily, and Larissa said "oh no, grandma, why did you bury her in the ground? How is she supposed to go to heaven that way?" I explained that Lily is already in heaven because it's her soul that goes to heaven. I told her Lily isn't sick anymore and that she's having fun running and playing with all the other angels. That explanation seemed to make her happy. Larissa only saw Lily one time and already loved her. Lily sure did leave a big impression on everyone's heart. RIP sweet baby girl.
__________________ Selina, mommy to Jake and Jackson. RIP baby Lily Coming soon: Gracie |
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07-26-2007, 02:01 PM | #2 |
I Love My Lil' Punkin's Donating Member | Awww Selina. Little Larissa sounds so incredibly sweet. What a little angel and how lucky you are to have such a WONDERFUL little granddaughter You must be SO proud! I think the way you explained it to her was wonderful. Death is hard on any child (and hard for them to understand)...but I think you did an excellent job in telling her what you did. I am still just so very, very sorry about Lily R.I.P. darling...you will be so greatly missed
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07-26-2007, 02:27 PM | #3 | |
I love Jackson too! Donating Member Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: Ohio
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I still miss Lily ALL the time. I sometimes wonder if I'm losing my mind because every now and then, I smell her sweet puppy scent. I even smell it at work, am I crazy??????!!!!!?????
__________________ Selina, mommy to Jake and Jackson. RIP baby Lily Coming soon: Gracie | |
07-26-2007, 02:46 PM | #4 |
Izzy's Momma Too! Donating Member Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: Stuart, Florida
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| I think you handled that beautifully Especially since you are grieving as well
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07-26-2007, 02:49 PM | #5 |
Tinkerbell, My Little Flutterpup Donating Member Join Date: Feb 2005 Location: Beautiful California!
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| 4 year olds only need to know enough to make them content. I think you did wonderfully. I am very sorry for your loss as well. |
07-26-2007, 05:12 PM | #6 | |
My Angels Donating Member Join Date: Oct 2006 Location: Colorful Colorado
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I dont think you are crazy. I believe pets cross over just like humans do and they are still with us even tho we cant see them. Some leave signs like maybe a light flickering or a dragonfly or butterfly you seem to see alot of all of a sudden and I am sure that pets are able to leave scents or signs to let us know they are still with us too. | |
07-26-2007, 05:29 PM | #7 |
Mimi & Gabby too! Donating Member Join Date: May 2006 Location: Vineland, NJ
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| Oh Selina....Your little precious Lily is playing with my precious Lilly and they are looking down at us. I'm having such a hard time dealing with her death just as much as you are having a hard time with the death of your baby. I also smell her and sometimes think she is coming from around the corner. Larissa is such a sweet little girl and how beautiful of her to say she was sorry. If you need to chat please feel free to PM...I need it and I know you need it too. |
07-26-2007, 05:38 PM | #8 | |
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__________________ Selina, mommy to Jake and Jackson. RIP baby Lily Coming soon: Gracie | |
07-26-2007, 05:38 PM | #9 |
No Longer a Member Join Date: Jul 2004 Location: South Florida
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| death When my youngest was 7 she was explaining death to her 10 yr old sister...she had a liter bottle of soda..she told her when the bottle was full of soda it was like your spirit in your body and when the soda was gone, you had an empty bottle or body left..the "good" stuff was gone to Heaven and the empty bottle went to the "bottle grave yard"...LOL |
07-26-2007, 06:08 PM | #10 |
Blessed by Otis & Ollie Donating Member Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Plainfield, Indiana
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| I agree Selina, that was a great explanation to your granddaughter. When I lost my first yorkie (RIP Shorty) I always thought I saw him. I would reach out to pet him at night in bed. It was so incredibly hard. I knew he was sick and wasn't going to get better. I got Otis a few months before he passed away. I still miss my little Shorty dog, his pictures are all over my house. I can't wait to hear about your new baby!!!
__________________ ~Paula~ proud mommy of ~Otis (yorkie) & Oliver (shih-poo) |
07-26-2007, 06:25 PM | #11 |
Donating YT 500 Club Member Join Date: May 2007 Location: upstate ny
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| My sister passed away last year. Her youngest was only 4 years old. I'm not sure that even now he understands. It's so sad. But yet, kids are so resilient and they just seem to take things in stride. My youngest is 3 and he'll say something to my nephew about his mom and my nephew is so cute but says, "Nick, I told you my mom is dead." and it's all so matter of fact when they have these conversations as if he's saying how many times do I have to tell you I don't want to eat my vegetables. It makes me want to cry and laugh at the same time. It's never easy to lose someone you love but sometimes I think the little ones understand things better than we do.... |
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