Asti..the Real Story..

[daisysis]

Today, my heart is still so torn up because not only did I lost my baby girl ASTI.. I KILLED HER.. MY action caused her death..
I left the big gate open and she was outside and she fell in the fish pond and drowned..MY CARE--LESS-NESS CAUSED-HER -DEATH..
I do not know what came over me . I have never been that stupid before
I have watched that little girl so carefully for years now that I do not what to do with myself. this morning, this afternoon.. I also keep thinking to myself what if that was one of my grandchildren???
Have I become so fibble minded.????????????
I know some of my tears is sorrow is self pitty but, how do you stop those feelings???
I am lost today...My other pets have helped alot being here I won't even let them go out to the big yard now and the fish pond will be removed
(it is only a little 4in deep black plastic tub).. but my yorkies are to tiny to get out if the fall in..
Bless you all that have giving me your thoughts and love through this time.
MAYBE TOMMORROW WILL BE A BETTR DAY.

[janedks3406]

so sorry for your loss, hang in there..........

[yorkieusa]

Bless your heart. I'm so sorry! Please don't blame yourself, though, because we ALL make these same kind of mistakes. Sometimes we are lucky and there are no consequences, except a lesson to not do it again and sometimes there are dire circumstances such as in your case. It is not your fault. It was just an accident. Please know that I'm thinking of you. Blaming yourself is a natural thing. We all feel we have to blame someone when we are in such deep grief. There is nothing that can be gained from your doing this to yourself and it will not help the situation. Try very hard to think of other memories of her and remember those.

[JeanieK]

I am so sorry. I know the guilt is overwhelming, but some things are out of our hands.

Perhaps Asti lost her life to save your grandchildren..
Because of her death, you are planning to remove the pond which might save a grandchild's life.

Everything happens for a purpose.

May the Lord hold you in his arms to help you through this difficult time.

[Lexi Rae]

oh sweetie ,im so so sorry for your loss... may god be with you .
i will be praying for you..

[LuvMySissy]

Originally Posted by yorkieusa

Bless your heart. I'm so sorry! Please don't blame yourself, though, because we ALL make these same kind of mistakes. Sometimes we are lucky and there are no consequences, except a lesson to not do it again and sometimes there are dire circumstances such as in your case. It is not your fault. It was just an accident. Please know that I'm thinking of you. Blaming yourself is a natural thing. We all feel we have to blame someone when we are in such deep grief. There is nothing that can be gained from your doing this to yourself and it will not help the situation. Try very hard to think of other memories of her and remember those.

I can't say anything better than this. Hugs to you Debbie.

[Connie]

I am so sorry for you and the loss of your little Asti. Please don't blame yourself. Accidents can happen in the blink of an eye and we are all capable of human error, many times over. My heart goes out to you and I send heartfelt sympathy to you and will pray for you. Big hugs from Maddie and I. RIP little Asti.

[Tink's Mom]

Oh sugar, I am so sorry Asti went that way. These things happen because we are not perfect people. No matter how hard we try, things just happen. Try to forgive yourself. We understand.

[MeganS]

I'm so sorry. I can't imagine the guilt you must be feeling now. But PLEASE know that no matter what, it isn't your fault. We know you always watched to make sure everything was in Asti's best interest. Things just happen sometimes. There's no real reason for it, and no one is to blame, they just happen. I don't think there really is a way to make the pain stop...but I wish there was. I just feel so awful for you. In time, I promise you you'll be able to think more about the happy memories than what happened to her. You're in my prayers. *hug*

[red98vett]

Oh no I'm so so sorry !! MY heart goes out to you and please try to remember that you loved her and she KNOWS THIS....that's such a terrible tragedy and I feel so bad reading .... but in time you'll see it for what it was....an awful ACCIDENT and you can't beat yourself up over it..... it could happen to any one of us....

sending you a hug and my condolences on your loss.....

May Asti Rest in Peace and fly with the angels.....

[Grayson's mom]

Bless your heart! Please don't beat yourself up over this, I am so sorry

[chattiesmom]

The tears I am shedding now are for you -- I am so very sorry. I know you are hurting beyond hurt. Sending hugs

[Yorkiedaze]

I'm so sorry to hear of you loss. Please don't blame yourself for this. Accidents happen, and this is exactly what that was. I know your pain having lost one years ago myself.

[Tiggerwit]

I'm so very sorry.

I think I saw something the other day at the pet store. It was like an alarm for dogs that they wear on their collars for people with pools. I think it either goes off if they get near it or fall in it. Maybe get it for your other babies.

Again, I'm so very sorry.

[Doodlebug]

I am sorry you lost your baby. There are a lot of us here that are just plain lucky that we still have our babies with us. On more than one occasion I have accidentally held the front door open too long and Daisy ran out into the street. We live on a pretty busy street and she could have easily been hit by a car each time she got out. I know that I am extremely lucky to have her alive. Once on vacation she got out the motel door. We were SO lucky that we caught her. These accident have changed the way I live my life having small dogs. I mostly use the back door to come & go because if she runs out she will be in an enclosed yard. On vacation I will not remove a leash from her until we are tucked in for the night. I'm sure that many people here have their own stories. Please do not feel guilt over this, it was an accident.