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02-25-2009, 12:05 AM | #1 |
Donating YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Illinois
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| New Member Hello. I am pretty new to this site. I joined at the end of January. I have read many, many posts here and am almost jealous. Most people seem to know one another pretty well. I hope I am able to get to know alot of you . You all seem to be very caring, knowledgable and just a great group of people. I have had 3 Yorkies in the last 30 years. My first one, Misty, lived to be 16 years old. My second one, Kayla, lived to be almost 14. I lost her last July 15th. I was so heart broken. She was the light of my life and tugged harder at my heartstrings than any other. She was tiny and so precious. I still miss her so much. Well I got my third one, Abby, this past Nov. and she is such a tomboy. Nothing at all like my little Kayla. I feel kind of bad saying this but I think I may have gotten another dog a little sooner than I should have. It just seems as though I don't have that same connection with Abby as I did with Kayla. I was very protctive of Kayla especially the last couple of years of her life. She lost her eyesight a couple of years before she died and then she was pretty sick about the last month of her life. I feel bad that I don't feel as close to Abby as I should. Please don't think I'm a terrible person for that. I just don't know if that's normal. I waited longer between my first and second dog and perhaps I should have waited longer this time also. Please don't get me wrong. I do love her it's just not the same. Unfortunatley I don't have children so my dogs have always been my "kids". Sorry this is so lenghthy. I'm so happy I found this site. I'm hoping someone understands this. |
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02-25-2009, 12:15 AM | #2 |
Donating YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Sep 2008 Location: Dover, DE, USA
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| First let me say Welcome to YT! You will find so many great people and tons of information here. I can't say that I have experience in this area. But I can say that losses do take time and are difficult at best. Don't worry too much about making a connection with your new baby, eventually she will capture your heart in her way and make a completely new and different connection with you. You will find over time, you will be just as connected and protective of her as you were with your other little ones. I am sorry for your loss, but happy that your baby found you.
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02-25-2009, 05:27 AM | #3 |
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| Welcome to YT
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02-25-2009, 05:40 AM | #4 |
Donating YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Sep 2008 Location: With my yorkies
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| I'm so sorry for your loss. I know exactly what you mean! I lost my 12 year old baby girl, Becca, unexpectedly last May. The house was so quiet and empty without her that I started looking for another little girl in just days. I brought Chelsea home at 11 weeks old. She reminded me of Becca in a few things, but not what I felt were the important ones. I went through a several week period where I seriously considered finding her a new home because I didn't feel the bonding I'd felt with Becca. But, very slowly Chelsea has wormed her little way into my heart. She's her own little person who's unique and special just as she is and I love her to pieces. I've realized that I shouldn't have expected to feel an instant connection with Chelsea. My bond with Becca was created over many, many years together. Also, I was still grieving for Becca so strongly that I think I may have resented Chelsea for being there when Becca wasn't. Does that make sense? I had to have the time to say goodbye to my baby girl before I fully welcomed a new one into my heart. Don't misunderstand, I still think of Becca everyday and I am in tears as I write this, remembering her. She was so special! But now I can see that Chelsea is such a wonderful blessing to me as well. My advice is to give it time. You may never feel the exact same about your new baby, but you will develop a bond that grows stronger with every day, every new memory created. God bless.
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02-25-2009, 05:50 AM | #5 |
Donating Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: Wayne, MI USA
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| Welcome to YT!!!!!!!!
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02-25-2009, 05:58 AM | #6 |
Donating YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: TX
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| Hi! I understand totally what you are saying/feeling. I lost my sweet Annie B. suddenly last March. Within a week, with very little effort at all, Gracie Ruth came flying into my life. I thought it was maybe too soon also, but I couldn't ignore all the things that happened 'just right' to bring us together. I loved her from the very first minute, but there wasn't the connection that I had with Annie. Annie was my attached at the hip, sweet Princess girl. She didn't care what we did as long as we did it together. Gracie Ruth, ahh silly sweet little G, is a totally independent, I can do it myself, tomboy. It was hard at first, but now it's been almost a year and let me tell you we are very connected. Still not like Annie, but in our own unique to each other way, we are connected. Did I get her too soon, probably, would I regret - knowing her now as I do - not getting her, absolutely!! I know now that I was holding back my heart some in the beginning because of the tragic lost of Annie and I didn't want to fall in love with G and have that pain come back again so soon if something happened to her. So don't feel bad if you don't feel connect to Abby as you did to Kayla. Just keep loving her, and value her for the special qualities that she brings. The connection will come when your heart can open up a little more and let her in. Post some pictures when you can and feel free to post about either of them as often as you want. There are sooooo many people here that have been there and can understand. We all are quiet Yorkie crazy, and understand that they are not 'just a dog' but our kids.
__________________ If you think dogs can't count, put 3 biscuits in your pocket, then give him only 2. Gracie Ruth & Boo & Yogi & RIP Annie B. & Bonnie Lane |
02-25-2009, 06:37 AM | #7 |
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| Welcome to YT!
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02-25-2009, 06:50 AM | #8 |
Donating YT 500 Club Member | Glad to have you here! The best way to meet everyone is just to jump right in and contribute to the posts! You will love being here. It is a great site!
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02-25-2009, 07:44 AM | #9 |
Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Tallahassee, FL, USA
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| Awww! I am so sorry for your loss! I know exactly what you mean and how you are feeling! I had to put my baby girl down the day after Thanksgiving (sudden kidney failure) and she had been with me 16 years. It was one of the hardest things I have ever had to go through. I ended up getting Pixel a couple of months later and for awhile I couldn't help comparing him to my girl. I would keep thinking "Guinness would NEVER have done that," etc., but I have now bonded with him so much I couldn't imagine my life without him. It takes time to heal and time to bond. Just remember that each one is special in their own way and will never be able to replace the ones you lost. Big hugs!! |
02-25-2009, 07:49 AM | #10 |
Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Aug 2008 Location: Deer Park, TX, USA
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| First off, Welcome to the family. Secondly, I don't think you are a bad person. I think you are still grieving for your baby and just need time. I had a friend that went through this with her human babies. She lost her first one at birth and got pregnant again right away and then had a very hard time bonding, but one day something just clicked in her. I think you will do that same. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers.
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02-25-2009, 11:23 AM | #11 |
Yorkie Yakker | Welcome. I never thought I could love my 2nd yorkie Kona as much as my 1st Tiki. It did not take long....I got Kona as a suprise for my birthday. It just so happened that was the same day I found out Tiki had to have his 2nd hip surgery! At first I wanted nothing to do with Kona until I knew Tiki was okay. Everybody is doing good and I love them equally the same now.
__________________ Miz TiLLy's momma. Parti Yorkie. Never forget my TiKi and KoNa |
02-25-2009, 11:27 AM | #12 |
Donating YT 10K Club Member Join Date: Oct 2005 Location: Alabama
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| Welcome to YT! No need to be jealous. Many of us have been here for years, so in a way, we do 'know each other'. The more you post, the more you will find that applies to you as well. Glad to have you here. |
02-25-2009, 11:36 AM | #13 |
Donating Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: Lancaster County
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| I can understand that and I dont think your crazy. If something happened to Cora I would go crazy. She has had puppies and sometimes I can wait until they go so I can have my little girl back. They slime on her and abuse her and drive her crazy and I know that sounds mean but nothing could take the place of my girl. |
02-25-2009, 08:45 PM | #14 |
Donating YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Illinois
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| Thanks! I wanted to take this time to thank all of you for your replies. I was glad to see that I am not alone when it comes to connecting with a new little one. I still think about Kayla so much. Thank you all again for your understanding and kind words. |
02-26-2009, 08:32 PM | #15 |
Donating YT 4000 Club Member Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Iowa
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| Welcome to YT! I am sorry for your recent loss. We do not forget those furbabies - I often think of mine that have gone to Rainbow Bridge. Choosing when to get another pup is a difficult decision and there are many others who have also struggled with this, and the decision is sometimes questioned. Spend enough time here and you too will begin to feel like you know some people. And if you are fortunate enough to attend a yorkie meetup - you will meet some fantastic people. I have had the great privilege of meeting in person over 3 dozen YT members - and one of those members is now one of my closest friends. So maybe you will find other Illinois members who want to do a meetup or maybe you will decide to come to the 2nd annual International YorkieTalk Meetup this July in Alexandria, VA - there is a sticky all about this at the top of the General Forum. Also, some people post pictures of themselves, that gives you an idea of at least what they look like. We share all kinds of things here - life happenings, ask one another to pray for our family and friends, we often champion the same causes such as saving rescues, shutting down puppy mills, etc. We share in the joy of the new puppies, we grieve and even cry as we learn a YT member has lost a precious pet or has an ill pet. We rally around each other over a pet who has gone missing. We offer advice when someone has an ill pet, a food problem, a concern - and we are so grateful when we come here in need and find the advice, direction or concern we need to care for our furbabies. I have benefited by 2 members that have taken care of my dogs - 1 in my area, and one when I was visiting her city, out of state. I am not the only one who has experienced this type of love & care. Through PMs - Private Messages & posting on each other's profile pages you also gain a closeness. Friendships can build in the most unlikely places. Plus many of us have taken part in Gift Exchanges - when you shop for your Secret Buddy, I believe you gain an excitement about the person and their furbaby. Then when you get a gift you are thrilled to see who cared about you, and there is a bond there. We do lots of fun things here too - silly games, funny pictures, videos - you get to know a bit of people's personalities. You might find yourself attracted to a certain person because of how they write, the things they say, the wisdom and knowledge they share or what they are passion about. If you buy from the vendors here on YT you can form a bond there - excited when you see their new products, thrilled when you know the quality of their work. YT is really a great big family - and yes,
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