Cancer is such a horrific struggle....exaspirating struggle for the patient as well as the family and of course, the caregiver. It inevitably reaches a point when help is needed....the caregiver just can NOT do anything else for the patient...medically, the patient has reached a point where he can no longer even assist with minimal ADL's, and the caregiver has to realize she needs to give in to help. I know Ken had refused hospice help....he is now at the point when Patti can make that decision for both of their best interest. The strength and courage they have both shown during this struggle, will strengthen her for the future she will soon have to face. God prepares us for this time in our lives....He wont leave us alone, not for one minute...He supports us, He soothes our grieving hearts and souls, He is there for us to lean on....He will get Patti and Ken both, through this....I continue to pray for them to lean on Him, look to Him for their strength and restful peace.....Lord, have Mercy on this struggling couple, You have promised that whenever a group of voices are raised up to you in prayer, You would Hear and Respond....we are raising our voices and prayers up to You...bless this couple, these children of Yours, that are in the struggle of their life.....Hold them close to You....give them the Peace and Strength they both need from You.....In Jesus' name, Amen

I talked with Patti a little over an hour ago and Ken was in having an MRI. When he got done, she said she'd call once they got to his room and she hadn't called, so I just called her. The MRI did show something on, I think she said, the frontal part of the brain, but they haven't gotten a radiologist report yet. She said Ken is very scared and restless. While talking to Patti earlier, she looked up symptoms of brain tumor on her ipad and saw that many of the symptoms, Ken has been experiencing for the past few days. Patti does not know what she is going to do. I told her to talk to the hospital social worker tomorrow. She is alone there at the hospital now and I worry about her driving home sometime tonight...and made her promise she has someone escort her to her car when she does leave. She is in the pits of despair.

Holding both Patti and Ken in my thoughts and prayers.

My heart just breaks hearing this latest turn of events:( Patti I am so sorry for all you are having to experience right now. I pray for strength for you and for Ken as you face yet another hurdle in this horrible battle with Ken's cancer.

All Patti has to do is tell the oncologist that is attending Ken that she needs help, she does not know what to do, she needs support and strength and help, and they will get a social worker or a case manager and someone from hospice ...there is an army of staff trained to help families at this critical point...it always gets to this point, and they are there for her and Ken. I certainly do hope they have a wonderful, caring, well trained hospice staff...they will be invaluable for Patti now...both Ken and Patti need support and guidance from this point forward...the social worker or case manager will be consulted by the attending to step in. I am sure a minister or pastor will also be summoned to give prayful support...he will be able to calm some of Kens fear and restlessness....

Patti and Ken your in my thoughts and prayers.

Patti thinking of you and Ken may God give you both the strength to get you through this trying time...my love to you both

Patti, my heart is aching right along with yours. I pray that the doctors can give Ken some comfort. He has been through so much. Bless his heart. He is in God's loving hands. God promised us he would not give us more than we can bear. Sometimes that is hard to see because of how close we are to the person who is sick and see their tremendous suffering. We wonder how one person can handle so much suffering. God knows how much more Ken can handle so just keep your faith and remember that God knows best. He is our great Physician and will take care of Ken. Love to you both.

Last night about 1:00 when Patti was leaving the hospital, she called me and she was so exhausted, I was really worried about her driving the 30 some minutes home, so I told her I was staying on the phone with her till she was home. She made it home and was going to eat a little and try to get some sleep. She got a call from the hospital at 4:30 this morn saying that Ken had gone into congestive heart failure, but that they had him breathing okay now. Patti went back to sleep for a while and then headed back to the hospital. She found out that the MRI showed a series of small strokes and that is what caused all these latest problems. Patti is just beside herself and I told her to let someone know that she needs to talk to someone, as she needs help. Her daughter is taking off a half day at work and will be there around noon. Patti's sister left early this morn for Tennessee and I feel sick about that. Ken is still very scared and keeps saying he can't breath. Oh gosh...this is so awful. Thanks each and every one of you for your prayers and concern!

I will pray. When I was working for Macy's (retired end of February this year), the insurance paid TWICE to help my husband stop smoking. It worked both times but then he started again, both times.

He is also and has been for years a "borderline diabetic". I think the doctor has not diagnosed him outright because of the prexisting condition thing regarding insurance. Still, Geo continues to smoke AND eat all kinds of junk.

I am 64, Geo is 6 years younger than I am. He is an adult and has to make his own decisions. I have bugged him, pestered him, tried to scare him....still, the ultimate decision is his to make.

BTW, I need to lose a lot of weight. I lose great for a while and then gain it back. I guess I need to look at myself before talking about other people. But that is sooooo hard to do when you love someone isn't it.

Louise

I just wanted to add that I was "cured" of Systemic Lupis, something that CANNOT be cured. God can work miracles and we all need to pray for that right now and keep the prayers going up to the Lord.

With Christ's love,
Louise

This prayer was posted on facebook by Jesus Daily. I thought it was perfect and wanted to share:

My precious JESUS!!! Thank You for all the blessings in my life. I am not worthy. Please lead me to where you would have me be, and give me the words you would like me to say. I pray for a blessing of positive hope and encouragement for all of my family and friends going thru trials in so many ways. Send Your Holy Spirit to lift them from the drowning waters, and take them to the safe shore. I ask this in Your mighty name and for your sake sweet precious Lord. Amen!

Amen!

Ken and Patti are continually in my thoughts as we all pray for them. Thank you so much for the continued updates, Connie.

My thoughts and prayers are with Patti and Ken. How sad and difficult for both of them.

Dearest Patti and Ken, I hold you both in my constant thoughts and prayers.

I do hope Patti will ask for a hospital chaplain to spend a little time with her when she is visiting Ken. When I was in the same situation with my husband, a lady chaplain appeared like an angel, bringing a new sense of comfort and hope to a very sad and scarey time, especially as everyone is concentrating on the medical aspects of care.

Hugs to both Patti and Ken, and all the concerned family and friends including those here on YT who continue to offer support.