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[7TimesBlessed]

...........housebreaking probably took 2 months........sweetie, the puppy is not the real reason for your anxiety.....you are going through something else and the puppy situation just happens to be what you are dealing w at the moment.... everything you are mentioning is really only stuff that has a solution ...it's up to you if you want to share what you are really upset about..........

[soccbydo]

Originally Posted by 7TimesBlessed

...........housebreaking probably took 2 months........sweetie, the puppy is not the real reason for your anxiety.....you are going through something else and the puppy situation just happens to be what you are dealing w at the moment.... everything you are mentioning is really only stuff that has a solution ...it's up to you if you want to share what you are really upset about..........

Oh Jesus , so in other words even tho he is 5 months it has to be treated as an infant now come home

I am not upset at the pup, I am upset at my husband's stupid attitude towards the way I do things as you all told me to do. I only listened to EXACTLY what you all said and husband thinks I am mean and discriminating by crating one and not the other. There is nothing else going on. I didnt get a baby for that same reason, now I got an older dog and she told me ont he phone he was about 80% taken out and knew it, that was not so.

So tell me this, is it good to take him out individually or together with the pom so he can learn and pick up his rythum? I hear that dogs syrchronize after a while?

[soccbydo]

And my puppy the Pom is a boy not a girl, so two boys.

[Gingergirlsmom]

Okay....deeeeeeep breath!

It can take awhile for all to get used to each other. One thing that will go a long way is if you calm down.

Here's what finally worked for my hubby. We adopted a sweet little yorkie boy at a year old. He'd had lots of trauma in his young life and it was a challenge in the beginning.

Outlook is everything. All I saw was the wonderful things that were happening. DH was overwhelmed by the negatives...

Finally, one day I calmly explained to him that I would like to give things a try for another 4 weeks. If at the end of that time, dh wasn't feeling better about things, we'd take him back. No questions asked, no grief from me.

When dh stopped seeing everything through the lens of "oh my gosh, what have we done, look at how this has upset our lives" and started seeing things day by day...he fell as in love with this little guy as I was.

Sometimes we get too wrapped up in the big picture. Enjoy the good moments. Buy some belly bands (this will greatly reduce your stress). Realize the bad stuff is temporary (if you have to tell yourself you'll find him a new home in 2 months if you don't feel better, tell yourself that). It's too overwhelming if you let it be.

Find things to enjoy about your new pup. Find quiet moments to spend with your other dog. Realize that the turmoil is temporary.

Then you can get to business making things work...but you've got to relax first



Good luck!!!

[7TimesBlessed]

......first of all I don't appreciate you taking the Lord's name in vein....second of all I am going out now w my 3 babies to the beach, the rest of the YT'rs seem to have more compassion than I do so I'll let them put up w this nonsense.................good day..........

[abbie's mom]

He sure is a cutie pie.

I just LOVE this picture. When we went to visit Abigail's litter, there was one little female that did just exactly this, every time hubby stood still. She would find him, and lay her little head on his foot! It was so adorable, I almost took her instead of Abbie!

[YorkieShadow]

. Both your dogs are adorable. In most of the pictures I see the Yorkie laying down. is he acting scared? He may be because of it all being new to him and with your other male. jumping and pawing at him. even if hes just wanting to play. with them both peeing it sounds like your pom is now trying to mark his territory, it happens a lot with males. your not going to be able to train him in just a few days its prob going to take weeks even months, but you will be there. if you get upset the dog will feel this and it will be harder to train him

[soccbydo]

Originally Posted by Gingergirlsmom

Okay....deeeeeeep breath!

It can take awhile for all to get used to each other. One thing that will go a long way is if you calm down.

Here's what finally worked for my hubby. We adopted a sweet little yorkie boy at a year old. He'd had lots of trauma in his young life and it was a challenge in the beginning.

Outlook is everything. All I saw was the wonderful things that were happening. DH was overwhelmed by the negatives...

Finally, one day I calmly explained to him that I would like to give things a try for another 4 weeks. If at the end of that time, dh wasn't feeling better about things, we'd take him back. No questions asked, no grief from me.

When dh stopped seeing everything through the lens of "oh my gosh, what have we done, look at how this has upset our lives" and started seeing things day by day...he fell as in love with this little guy as I was.

Sometimes we get too wrapped up in the big picture. Enjoy the good moments. Buy some belly bands (this will greatly reduce your stress). Realize the bad stuff is temporary (if you have to tell yourself you'll find him a new home in 2 months if you don't feel better, tell yourself that). It's too overwhelming if you let it be.

Find things to enjoy about your new pup. Find quiet moments to spend with your other dog. Realize that the turmoil is temporary.

Then you can get to business making things work...but you've got to relax first



Good luck!!!

Thank for your post and advice. I will get belly bands, is this like a pad or something or a diaper? Do I let him pee in it and poop?

Ok, as of now I will try to CALM down internally. I want to keep him, he is sweet, very pretty and I see in him maybe trauma from the litter? He seems to have been neglected and has to rush and steal food. That is my impression as the way he approaches a bowl head down tail tucked and guzzling. I suspect he was abused by the other dogs as she realized she didnt want to keep this one anymore so no need to treat him great. This is my suspicion. I have never had an animal with this kind of paranoid beahvior so I dont know. And hte other things is I didnt raise him, so I dont knowwhat makes him tick or not, you know what I mean? I can tell my pom like the back of my hand. i nurtured him from a baby, he knows me inside out and I know him inside out. This is the only part I miss and so I have to find out ways to get to know him and what makes him tick and causes him to act this way.

[soccbydo]

Originally Posted by YorkieShadow

. Both your dogs are adorable. In most of the pictures I see the Yorkie laying down. is he acting scared? He may be because of it all being new to him and with your other male. jumping and pawing at him. even if hes just wanting to play. with them both peeing it sounds like your pom is now trying to mark his territory, it happens a lot with males. your not going to be able to train him in just a few days its prob going to take weeks even months, but you will be there. if you get upset the dog will feel this and it will be harder to train him

Yes, he is mostly lying down or hiding betwen our legs. I have never had two toy dogs in my life at one time, so this is a first time expereince for me.

So tell me about the peeing and marking. Shoul he be crated many times a day or only at night? My Pom normally will scratch the front door or nudge me to go out. He has not done this since the yorkie came last night.

[YorkieShadow]

Originally Posted by soccbydo

Yes, he is mostly lying down or hiding betwen our legs. I have never had two toy dogs in my life at one time, so this is a first time expereince for me.

So tell me about the peeing and marking. Shoul he be crated many times a day or only at night? My Pom normally will scratch the front door or nudge me to go out. He has not done this since the yorkie came last night.

I have never used a crate for my two, but I know a lot of people do. If you do use a crate I would not keep him in it very long. if you can keep him in one room so you can watch his every move and take him out as soon as you see him trying to potty and just say no potty outside and keep with it, he will soon learn to go out to potty.
wearing belly bands only wraps aroung their middle. yes they can still poop, it just keeps them from marking the furniture. if he pees in it you need to put a clean pad in it, you dont want him to run around wearing a wet pad and end up getting sore or infection. its just to help in pottying. let him wear it around the house and take it off every few hours and let him go out to potty then when he comes back in put it back on him.

Marking a lot of male dogs mark, even some females. its hard to break them , but you can do it. one male will try and pee over top the other males pee. and so on. just keep telling them no potty putside and keep taking them out.
Good luck

[soccbydo]

Originally Posted by YorkieShadow

I have never used a crate for my two, but I know a lot of people do. If you do use a crate I would not keep him in it very long. if you can keep him in one room so you can watch his every move and take him out as soon as you see him trying to potty and just say no potty outside and keep with it, he will soon learn to go out to potty.
wearing belly bands only wraps aroung their middle. yes they can still poop, it just keeps them from marking the furniture. if he pees in it you need to put a clean pad in it, you dont want him to run around wearing a wet pad and end up getting sore or infection. its just to help in pottying. let him wear it around the house and take it off every few hours and let him go out to potty then when he comes back in put it back on him.

Marking a lot of male dogs mark, even some females. its hard to break them , but you can do it. one male will try and pee over top the other males pee. and so on. just keep telling them no potty putside and keep taking them out.
Good luck

Ok thanks, I will get the belly bands, so it is not so much to pee in but to make them hold the pee then? I have to find a way to get one neutered. because in one year my house will smell like a sewer

[Yorkiekids]

Sounds like you need to go back to basic training. Are there any places you can take him for obedience training? I would definitely crate him, or limit the area where he can go.

[soccbydo]

Originally Posted by Yorkiekids

Sounds like you need to go back to basic training. Are there any places you can take him for obedience training? I would definitely crate him, or limit the area where he can go.

Oh yes, he will start Obedience at once on Sat. My Pom has been going to obedience but all the stuff he knows with regards to obdeience I taught him, but yorkie will be going on Sat religiously no doubt about that.

[hha]

You have to remember, little pups are scared, this is all new to him, within a day or two, he will fit right in..We had an obedience trainer come to help us train our 2 outside dogs, he said one thing that has stuck with me..When a dog does something wrong, it's NOT the dogs fault. DOGS DON'T MAKE MISTAKES, THE OWNERS DO.

[soccbydo]

Originally Posted by hha

You have to remember, little pups are scared, this is all new to him, within a day or two, he will fit right in..We had an obedience trainer come to help us train our 2 outside dogs, he said one thing that has stuck with me..When a dog does something wrong, it's NOT the dogs fault. DOGS DON'T MAKE MISTAKES, THE OWNERS DO.

Ummm I just got the dog at 3am this morning, I doubt it is my fault. Now If I had has him a month or two I would say yes, I just brought him home less than 12 hours ago