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Originally Posted by Gingergirlsmom  Okay....deeeeeeep breath!
It can take awhile for all to get used to each other. One thing that will go a long way is if you calm down. 
Here's what finally worked for my hubby. We adopted a sweet little yorkie boy at a year old. He'd had lots of trauma in his young life and it was a challenge in the beginning.
Outlook is everything. All I saw was the wonderful things that were happening. DH was overwhelmed by the negatives...
Finally, one day I calmly explained to him that I would like to give things a try for another 4 weeks. If at the end of that time, dh wasn't feeling better about things, we'd take him back. No questions asked, no grief from me.
When dh stopped seeing everything through the lens of "oh my gosh, what have we done, look at how this has upset our lives" and started seeing things day by day...he fell as in love with this little guy as I was.
Sometimes we get too wrapped up in the big picture. Enjoy the good moments. Buy some belly bands (this will greatly reduce your stress). Realize the bad stuff is temporary (if you have to tell yourself you'll find him a new home in 2 months if you don't feel better, tell yourself that). It's too overwhelming if you let it be.
Find things to enjoy about your new pup. Find quiet moments to spend with your other dog. Realize that the turmoil is temporary.
Then you can get to business making things work...but you've got to relax first
Good luck!!! |
Thank for your post and advice. I will get belly bands, is this like a pad or something or a diaper? Do I let him pee in it and poop?
Ok, as of now I will try to CALM down internally. I want to keep him, he is sweet, very pretty and I see in him maybe trauma from the litter? He seems to have been neglected and has to rush and steal food. That is my impression as the way he approaches a bowl head down tail tucked and guzzling. I suspect he was abused by the other dogs as she realized she didnt want to keep this one anymore so no need to treat him great. This is my suspicion. I have never had an animal with this kind of paranoid beahvior so I dont know. And hte other things is I didnt raise him, so I dont knowwhat makes him tick or not, you know what I mean? I can tell my pom like the back of my hand. i nurtured him from a baby, he knows me inside out and I know him inside out. This is the only part I miss and so I have to find out ways to get to know him and what makes him tick and causes him to act this way.