Am I being unreasonable?

[Shadow]

Well I will join the odd on out. Mind if I ask if you told your parents?

Originally Posted by Yorkie3

I guess I'm the odd one out. I wouldn't mind telling my parents. Of course I'm 52 now, but didn't mind it when I was younger either. After all, they're his parents and just want the best for him...or at least I would think they would. I usually didn't give them a chance to ask....I just told them...why be so secretive.

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[Tillys_mom]

Originally Posted by BubblPopElectrc

I think you're being unreasonable. It's his parents! Of course they are going to be interested in knowing how much he is going to be making (I could understand you not wanting to tell them how much you making).

I think it's fine for them to ask especially if they helped pay his tuition (not sure if they did or not). I also think you have to take in consideration his age- I believe that you are both fairly young, right? It's not like he is graduating from college all that many years later than the average college student.

Yeah we are both really young. I will be 21 this December and hubby is 23. They didn't pay his tuition nor have they ever offered to help us. I guess if everyone knew what they really put us through over the years then it would be different.

[Tillys_mom]

Originally Posted by Shadow

Well I will join the odd on out. Mind if I ask if you told your parents?

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No I don't mind ya asking, I haven't told my parents, and I intend to tell them the same as I do his folks. The only one in my family that would ask would be my grandpa. He is very nosey in everyones money.

[Txgurl06]

Originally Posted by Tillys_mom

Yeah we are both really young. I will be 21 this December and hubby is 23. They didn't pay his tuition nor have they ever offered to help us. I guess if everyone knew what they really put us through over the years then it would be different.

we are simply going by what you have told us. We honestly know nothing more to judge any other way. You may have these feelings because you know more but from what you have told us we told you our opinions. I was raised with many manners, no smacking, no elbows on the table, no singing at the table, no talking while your mouth is full, yes mam, no sir, thank you , your welcome, but i was never told it was rude to ask someone how much they make. But i do know my limits lol i would just straight up ask anyone how much money they make.
but i dont thinks its a something rude unless someone is trying to degrade you like they make way more money then you do and they are being mean by asking how much you make.

I dunno lol

[Tillys_mom]

Yeah and I understand where all of you are coming from. I guess I don't mind so much his parents knowing and my parents knowing, if it would just remain in that circle. I know it wouldn't though. His parents have done a lot of mental damage to me, I will never be the same. All the names they have called me for years, I'm lucky I remember my true name. I've went through several couseling sessions because of them. I don't want to bore everyone with their drama. That's off subject. If someone wants to know the full story I will feel comfortable talking about it through a PM.

[SladesMommy]

I don't really see that its a big deal that his parents know.

I'm beginning to interview for jobs too, and my mom is always asking the starting salary and I tell her. Although I do feel HORRIBLE telling her cause most jobs I'm looking at making $35,000+ as well as good benefits. Mom has worked at the same job all my life making less than $15,000 (probably much less when I was younger) working full time with NO benefits. I sure will be helping her out and paying her back for everything she's done for me once I start working.

[TootiesMom]

as the Mom of a soon to be college graduate(that I did pay for tho), I would ask too, just to try and protect her and steer her right, but if they are "blabbers" I would simply tell them that it is "enough" to support my family. I didnt have the greatest relationship with my inlaws in our earlier years, but the good news is, it gets better.... at least mine did...
good luck! If its really great, just SHOUT it to the world first... haha
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[SugarMama]

If you live in a small town where everyone knows everyone and his parents blab how much he's making it can cause problems for him at his new job. If he's making, or being offered, more than someone else at the company and they find out he could lose (or not be offered) his new job. Most companies have a policy that you can't tell your salary to others. If he's new on the job and this comes out they aren't going to care that it was his parents and not him that blabbed how much he made. Maybe you can try reasoning with your husband in this way instead of just telling him not to tell them. I've always been raised not to talk about money and at my last job where I worked for 10 yrs before becoming a SAHM it was forbidden to discuss salaries with anyone. Good luck. Go celebrate with your hubby and try not to think about your in-laws.