I'm not jealous

[bdbmamaw]

It sounds to me like it will be a great opportunity to build that man of yours up! When I find myself in your situation, I can't say enough about what a great guy my husband is and how blessed I am to have been the one he chose to marry. When the ex says something about how great he was while they dated, I just agree and let her know how true it is. (After all... He is a great guy!) When she says something negative, I just let her know that (1)... he's never done that around you, or (2)... how endearing you find his 'so called' bad habit, yourself.

Girl! Just hold your head up and just love your hubby in front of her. She'll hate it, he'll love it and you'll come out ahead!

[Graleyne]

Originally Posted by MyFairLacy

Aw, she better not insult Susanah...you should post this somewhere:

Rules for Non Pet Owners Visiting My House

1. They live here. You don't.

2. If you don't want their hair on your clothes, stay off the furniture.

3. I like my pets a lot better than I like most people.

4. To you, it's an animal. To me, he/she is an adopted son/daughter who is short, hairy, walks on all fours and doesn't speak clearly.

I think I AM going to print those out and place them someplace she can't miss them. I don't think she would be dumb enough to be mean to Susanah, but I am worried she may make some rude comment about the way DH and I treat her.

It's only one day. I'll just take a xanax and smile my way through it. If I can just mostly keep my mouth closed I think everything will be OK.

[Superstarkba]

Maybe those "things" in your house will just scare her away. OR maybe your cabinet doors will fly open in her face...lol. JK

[Graleyne]

Originally Posted by Superstarkba

Maybe those "things" in your house will just scare her away. OR maybe your cabinet doors will fly open in her face...lol. JK

I thought the same thing! LOL It's a mean thought, but omg it would be so funny!

[Superstarkba]

Yeah, it is. But if that happened, or anything strange, you wouldn't have to worry about her coming back. So is she coming tomorrow?

[Graleyne]

They are coming on Saturday. Can you feel my excitement?

On a positive note my Senseo should be here today or tomorrow so I can confuse her with my brand new coffee maker. I am so excited about getting that thing. I've wanted one forever.

[Superstarkba]

Awe, maybe.lol. I am not a coffee drinker.

[Ponyup]

First, I would set my husband straight. The last thing you need is to be on edge because of him. I would sit him down & explain that it makes you upset that he thinks you are jealous. That you are not jealous there are just people on this planet that happen to rub you the wrong way & she happens to be one of them. He should respect this & stop teasing you which should make you feel better. You & your husband need to be a united front or you'll feel like everyone is ganging up on you.

Second, grin & bear it. Make sure husband knows that you don't want this to be a regular occurence. My husband's best friend is married to a woman I cannot stand. She uses every oportunity to put me down to make herself feel better...my only saving grace is that they live 4.5 hours away. When I do have to do dinner with her I just try to ignore her. I know her comments to me are about her insecurities not mine. Kill her with kindness & if she makes an offensive comment just ignore her. My guess is she's looking for a reaction & wants to make you look bad.

Good luck....take deep breaths & remember you're the better person.

[JuicyGirl]

Originally Posted by Graleyne

I'm just mad that everyone thinks I'm jealous just because I don't like her, when that has absolutely nothing to do with it.

I totally understand what you're going through about the jealous thing. There is a girl I don't like who dates my bf's friend... she flirts with my bf and ignores me and treats me like s**t when he isn't around... I told my bf that I don't like her and he asked me if I was jealous! I don't think guys understand that we are intuitive about women who pretend to be something they're not.I think you should hire someone too and just spend the day getting pampered ( get a new outfit too with his credit card) lol that's what I would do

[BLowry]

You know what I would do??? I would have a "little chat" with the guests that you have in your house already....you know...the ones you can't see?...Scare the SH%^ out of her! LOL

Is that wrong?

[Graleyne]

Originally Posted by BLowry

You know what I would do??? I would have a "little chat" with the guests that you have in your house already....you know...the ones you can't see?...Scare the SH%^ out of her! LOL

Is that wrong?

LOL I thought about the same thing, I just worry that it'll scare the SH%^ out of myself as well!

[BabyFidgette]

Good luck! Females who play dumb, i.e. Jessica Simpson, erk me.

[adorame]

Man ,I have to give you credit for having to put up with this lady in the first place.!! Their is no way in hell I would want to entertain my husbands old ex girlfriend! I am a nice girl but gosh I would have to draw the line some were!

I really do not have any advice to give because this has never happened to me. Just kill her with kindness I guess. Or just talk to her when absolutely necessary. You don't have to be buddy buddy with her do you. How long do you have to endure this? What activities do you have planed for their visit? Maybe you could catch a movie that way you are mot having to talk.

I hope that she herself is at home fretting over how she should behave for you Good luck and I will keep you in my thought and praying that Saturday goes by real fast for you!!

You will have to let us know how this all turns out!

[Rae Rae]

I'm sorry you're going through this. This is the immature side of me, but if she does happen to make any remark about Susannah, use that as the bomb! Then just take all your fustration out on her! If you do that, maybe you don't have to worry about spending any more days with her?

Or just be the bigger person, act fake and suck it up. Put on an act like your an actor, make a thing out of it!

I know I myself would be immature about it, I wasn't like that though until Leo's ex tried to befriend me just to get back with him (she actually told me that she still loves him!)

[Rae Rae]

Originally Posted by JuicyGirl

I totally understand what you're going through about the jealous thing. There is a girl I don't like who dates my bf's friend... she flirts with my bf and ignores me and treats me like s**t when he isn't around... I told my bf that I don't like her and he asked me if I was jealous! I don't think guys understand that we are intuitive about women who pretend to be something they're not.I think you should hire someone too and just spend the day getting pampered ( get a new outfit too with his credit card) lol that's what I would do

I think guys don't understand sometimes that we KNOW what women do, how they act when they want something, etc. We ARE women...we can read women better than them! W/ Leo's ex (as I mentioned in the previous post) I called out all her actions before she did them, and sure enough they were right! She lived out of state, we got together and she came to visit someone here...and found out he was with me. I told him "Watch, next she's going to move back here.." SHE DID!!! So the guys might be dumb about it, that's why the need us!