First, I would set my husband straight. The last thing you need is to be on edge because of him. I would sit him down & explain that it makes you upset that he thinks you are jealous. That you are not jealous there are just people on this planet that happen to rub you the wrong way & she happens to be one of them. He should respect this & stop teasing you which should make you feel better. You & your husband need to be a united front or you'll feel like everyone is ganging up on you.
Second, grin & bear it. Make sure husband knows that you don't want this to be a regular occurence. My husband's best friend is married to a woman I cannot stand. She uses every oportunity to put me down to make herself feel better...my only saving grace is that they live 4.5 hours away. When I do have to do dinner with her I just try to ignore her. I know her comments to me are about her insecurities not mine. Kill her with kindness & if she makes an offensive comment just ignore her. My guess is she's looking for a reaction & wants to make you look bad.
Good luck....take deep breaths & remember you're the better person.
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