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pepe mint · 09-15-2007, 05:18 AM

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Originally Posted by Yorkiedaze

Your lucky that you find these things out "before" your married. You shouldn't be "looking" for a life-long mate. Just have fun being single. Being single isn't so bad. Living with someone is the hardest job you will ever have, so don't rush into it.

you should date nerdy guys....they are probably the ones that will treat you the best

i used to have the idea that I needed to date the "hot" guys. i had a standard and I stuck to it. but you know, they all think they can do better...no matter who they are with. they are always looking out to see if there is something better out there. it's sad. so i met my nerdy husband

yes, i have a hard time being married...because I am stubborn, independent, and very moody. but he adores me. he really does. i'm not saying it's because he couldn't do any better...i'm sure he could. but i'm saying that he was ready for a committed relationship. he wasn't on the look for the better looking person that might be out there. he was very happy to meet someone and allowed himself to love them. and allowed someone to love him back. a lot of the big macho guys out there....they may feel like they love or care for someone...but they won't allow themselves to REALLY feel it...and express it.

i am not trying to stereotype, but that is what I ran into during my 4 years of being alone.

I'm sure there are some extremely good looking, macho men that are amazing husbands.

I just couldn't find one LOL

SevenGirl · 09-15-2007, 05:21 AM

Sounds like you have run into a few jerks! Too bad you don't live here in Atlanta! My brother is single (and if he was ever a jerk he would have to answer to his big sister

)! LOL!

pepe mint · 09-15-2007, 05:22 AM

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Originally Posted by SevenGirl

Sounds like you have run into a few jerks! Too bad you don't live here in Atlanta! My brother is single (and if he was ever a jerk he would have to answer to his big sister

)! LOL!

hahahaha. TOO funny

Shadow · 09-15-2007, 07:25 AM

Be careful for what you wish for! Enjoy your single life.

momof4CA · 09-15-2007, 07:30 AM

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Originally Posted by Yorkieluv

You will really find the right person when you least expect it...When you stop looking, it will happen

I so agree!!!

If you are happy in you life and with yourself. EVERYTHING else will fall into place. Just be greatful that the jerk showed his true colors before you married him or spent years with him.

labrown · 09-15-2007, 07:32 AM

I was at the same place you were a few years ago. And you know what I did? I became my own best friend. I asked myself, how was your day? I learned that I don't have to go to others for advice or support when I can really hold myself up. Granted, I have some great friends, and loved spending the time with them, but I had to learn that there isn't anything I can't handle, and I don't need anyone to support me emotionally. It made all of my friendships better, because we weren't friends out of necessity, but out of desire. And it was also wonderful to know that when I met a guy, he only had the potential to be my friend. They all knew that I wasn't going to pursue romantic interests at that time in my life. And don't you really want a guy who is a friend first, and then more? Once I stopped looking for it, got my head on strait, and started pursuing what I wanted, then it fell in my lap. And trust me, I fought it tooth and nail, told this guy I didn't want to go out with him, but he didn't give up, and he is wonderful. I can't tell you how thankful I am for the time I gave to myself and no one else, it has changed who I am today, and made me ready for the relationship I am in.

Girl, I am almost 25, and I don't feel the need to be married. My brother is almost 33, and he isn't married. And it was hard for him to spend 12 years out of highschool without anyone, but he is a better man for it. Hmm, maybe you should date my brother...

zoeybear · 09-15-2007, 07:39 AM

I got married at 20 then divorced a year later. I didnt get married again untl I was 34. There were many times I thought I might be single forever, but that was fine with me. I had learned to spend time alone and enjoy it. I am happily married now, but it is like everyone else said, I wasnt looking for love. It found me. Go on trips, take a class, concentrate on you and what makes you happy, you will find there is more to life that you enjoy besides a man. Hang in there!!

momof4CA · 09-15-2007, 07:43 AM

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Originally Posted by pepe mint

you should date nerdy guys....they are probably the ones that will treat you the best

i used to have the idea that I needed to date the "hot" guys. i had a standard and I stuck to it. but you know, they all think they can do better...no matter who they are with. they are always looking out to see if there is something better out there. it's sad. so i met my nerdy husband

yes, i have a hard time being married...because I am stubborn, independent, and very moody. but he adores me. he really does. i'm not saying it's because he couldn't do any better...i'm sure he could. but i'm saying that he was ready for a committed relationship. he wasn't on the look for the better looking person that might be out there. he was very happy to meet someone and allowed himself to love them. and allowed someone to love him back. a lot of the big macho guys out there....they may feel like they love or care for someone...but they won't allow themselves to REALLY feel it...and express it.

i am not trying to stereotype, but that is what I ran into during my 4 years of being alone.

I'm sure there are some extremely good looking, macho men that are amazing husbands.

I just couldn't find one LOL

Okay I had to chuckle at this one! Don't tell my DH, but he is a very smart and intelligent NERD, with the biggest heart you will ever find. But, he is my night in shining armor. Now, remember...not telling DH...

pepe mint · 09-15-2007, 07:53 AM

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Originally Posted by momof4CA

Okay I had to chuckle at this one! Don't tell my DH, but he is a very smart and intelligent NERD, with the biggest heart you will ever find. But, he is my night in shining armor. Now, remember...not telling DH...

i won't tell if you don't tell mine LOL

momof4CA · 09-15-2007, 08:11 AM

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Originally Posted by pepe mint

i won't tell if you don't tell mine LOL

It's a deal...(lol)

sabsab00 · 09-15-2007, 08:27 AM

You guys really do crack me up.

It feels good to have somewhere to talk to and complain about things without having someone point out nonsense (which is what my friends tell me) But I understand what you are all saying and I am going to TRY to focus on myself and better myself. And if that doesnt work then i'll just become a nun!

yorkieK9trainer · 09-15-2007, 08:33 AM

LMAO.....okay ladies, now go google your screen names!!!

You can cache these posts if nothing else. It's just the way the site is set up.

pepe mint · 09-15-2007, 08:39 AM

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Originally Posted by yorkieK9trainer

LMAO.....okay ladies, now go google your screen names!!!

You can cache these posts if nothing else. It's just the way the site is set up.

uh oh....good thing my hubby doesn't care to take the time to look something like that up LOL

Bizzymammabee · 09-15-2007, 08:54 AM

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Originally Posted by sabsab00

I guess im just impatient...but it does seem like guys my age are just looking for one thing...

LOL...girl they are all looking for that one thing. I think a hard part of dating now is that there are a great deal of single parents out there. It's an added hardship if your someone that wants to be with someone that has no children and want to make a family yourself.

What part of queens are you in? I am in glendale. Maybe I know some good singles that might interest you.

labrown · 09-15-2007, 08:55 AM

Alright! Matchmaking on YT! Maybe we can see about a love connection forum!

09-15-2007, 05:21 AM	#17
SevenGirl Bella-My Georgia Girl Donating Member Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: Duluth, Georgia Posts: 2,419	Sounds like you have run into a few jerks! Too bad you don't live here in Atlanta! My brother is single (and if he was ever a jerk he would have to answer to his big sister )! LOL! __________________ Elizabeth and Bella Official Members of the CRAZY Club and the PINK Club! Bella 's dressing up!

09-15-2007, 07:32 AM	#21
labrown T&T-DYNOMITE! Donating Member Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: Austin, TX Posts: 2,111	I was at the same place you were a few years ago. And you know what I did? I became my own best friend. I asked myself, how was your day? I learned that I don't have to go to others for advice or support when I can really hold myself up. Granted, I have some great friends, and loved spending the time with them, but I had to learn that there isn't anything I can't handle, and I don't need anyone to support me emotionally. It made all of my friendships better, because we weren't friends out of necessity, but out of desire. And it was also wonderful to know that when I met a guy, he only had the potential to be my friend. They all knew that I wasn't going to pursue romantic interests at that time in my life. And don't you really want a guy who is a friend first, and then more? Once I stopped looking for it, got my head on strait, and started pursuing what I wanted, then it fell in my lap. And trust me, I fought it tooth and nail, told this guy I didn't want to go out with him, but he didn't give up, and he is wonderful. I can't tell you how thankful I am for the time I gave to myself and no one else, it has changed who I am today, and made me ready for the relationship I am in. Girl, I am almost 25, and I don't feel the need to be married. My brother is almost 33, and he isn't married. And it was hard for him to spend 12 years out of highschool without anyone, but he is a better man for it. Hmm, maybe you should date my brother... __________________ TBone Tina & Lauren

09-15-2007, 07:39 AM	#22
zoeybear Misssing Baby Chloe Donating Member Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: California Posts: 4,186	I got married at 20 then divorced a year later. I didnt get married again untl I was 34. There were many times I thought I might be single forever, but that was fine with me. I had learned to spend time alone and enjoy it. I am happily married now, but it is like everyone else said, I wasnt looking for love. It found me. Go on trips, take a class, concentrate on you and what makes you happy, you will find there is more to life that you enjoy besides a man. Hang in there!! __________________ We give dogs time we can spare, space we can spare and love we can spare. And in return, dogs give us their all. It's the best deal man has ever made. -M. Acklam

09-15-2007, 08:33 AM	#27
yorkieK9trainer YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: North eastern Illinois Suburbs Posts: 1,669	LMAO.....okay ladies, now go google your screen names!!! You can cache these posts if nothing else. It's just the way the site is set up. __________________ "Big things come in small packages" http://www.myspace.com/yorkiek9trainer

09-15-2007, 08:55 AM	#30
labrown T&T-DYNOMITE! Donating Member Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: Austin, TX Posts: 2,111	Alright! Matchmaking on YT! Maybe we can see about a love connection forum! __________________ TBone Tina & Lauren

09-15-2007, 07:25 AM	#19
Shadow No Longer a Member Join Date: Jul 2005 Location: California Posts: 5,368	Be careful for what you wish for! Enjoy your single life.

09-15-2007, 08:27 AM	#26
sabsab00 Donating Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: queens Posts: 1,256	You guys really do crack me up. It feels good to have somewhere to talk to and complain about things without having someone point out nonsense (which is what my friends tell me) But I understand what you are all saying and I am going to TRY to focus on myself and better myself. And if that doesnt work then i'll just become a nun!