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xchristiex · 08-23-2007, 07:00 PM

Does anyone dread their step children??? I know it sounds horrible..and heartless..please help!!!!

Shadow · 08-23-2007, 07:20 PM

Im sure there are plenty that feel like you do. Some kids have never had any discipline and can be a pain to be around .

Cupcake · 08-23-2007, 07:21 PM

I am on the opposite end. I can't stand my step mom, she is evil.

xchristiex · 08-23-2007, 07:23 PM

Actually, i've never met this child....but i will SOON..and i don't know how i'm going to feel about it..

Shadow · 08-23-2007, 07:32 PM

What do you mean?

xchristiex · 08-23-2007, 07:36 PM

Long..long story. i'll try to make it short. i started dating this guy, that had recently broke up with someone eles, that someone was pregnant. she had the baby, and the child is now 8 months old. my guy has seen this child 3 times, she has kept the baby from him, he just won joint custody in a nasty court case. its a bunch of drama...and i hate it. i'm stuck in the middle, and now he is supposed to be getting this child for the 1st time soon.

stedmansmommy · 08-23-2007, 07:39 PM

Well who knows, you may absolutely fall in love with this precious little one!

I say, wait and see what happens before you say that you dread them

xchristiex · 08-23-2007, 07:42 PM

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Originally Posted by stedmansmommy

Well who knows, you may absolutely fall in love with this precious little one!

I say, wait and see what happens before you say that you dread them

very true, and i've thought about this. i hope this is what happens, but i just don't know. i've had plenty of time to think about it..but the more i think, the worse it gets.

sweetr72 · 08-23-2007, 07:44 PM

Oh a baby...you can attach to a baby quite easily...try adapting to pre-teens much much harder!! At least this child will know you from as far back as he can remember and love you like a mother...I dont think you have anything to dread lol...babies are fun!!

Dawn

xliloliverdiorx · 08-23-2007, 07:45 PM

are you sure that its the step child you hate or the childs mother? I mean unless you have other step children that you are talking about the child is only a baby and really the baby cant help whatevers happening.

My ex boyfriends step mom was like this too with his mother. They cannot stand eachother, they hate eachother so much that when he gets married his fiance is going to have to have two bridal showers, one with his step mom there and another with his birth mom there. I really think its alright for you to dislike the childs mother depending on if the situation is really terrible (like in my ex boyfriends step mothers situation, I can see why she hated her).

However, it seems to me if you should be hating anybody you should be dislking the birth mother if the situation with her is really that terrible.

YorkieShadow · 08-23-2007, 07:47 PM

Awww Its just a baby. No mouthing back or any thing. lol I think if you give it a chance youll get very close to this little one. Babys that age are too adorable. Just their smile will win you over.

xchristiex · 08-23-2007, 07:47 PM

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Originally Posted by sweetr72

Oh a baby...you can attach to a baby quite easily...try adapting to pre-teens much much harder!! At least this child will know you from as far back as he can remember and love you like a mother...I dont think you have anything to dread lol...babies are fun!!

Dawn

I know i know, i LOVE babies..and i can't even BELIEVE something like this would cross my mind. I'm just praying everything works out, and i haven't even mentioned the baby mama drama LOL

Timmy · 08-23-2007, 07:49 PM

Oh gosh that is a horrible situation you are in but remember this is a child and this child has no fault. He didn't ask to be in this world and let alone this situation. Also he is still young where you guys can teach him. I was in a different situation because my step daughters were older and I had a hard time but not because I hated them it was because of the baby momma drama... I love the girls though and they love me. This baby is going to grow on you and although you are feeling like you are right now might not seem right but to me it is understandable...I think its more that you are feeling like you are not going to be #1 anymore because the baby will get all the attention...trust me it will get better....the love for you child is so much different than the love for your other half. Wish you luck sweety...its going to take some time.

Oh and BTW I don't hate you for feeling like this....I've felt the same way

xchristiex · 08-23-2007, 07:50 PM

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Originally Posted by xliloliverdiorx

are you sure that its the step child you hate or the childs mother? I mean unless you have other step children that you are talking about the child is only a baby and really the baby cant help whatevers happening.

My ex boyfriends step mom was like this too with his mother. They cannot stand eachother, they hate eachother so much that when he gets married his fiance is going to have to have two bridal showers, one with his step mom there and another with his birth mom there. I really think its alright for you to dislike the childs mother depending on if the situation is really terrible (like in my ex boyfriends step mothers situation, I can see why she hated her).

However, it seems to me if you should be hating anybody you should be dislking the birth mother if the situation with her is really that terrible.

It's not her, she acts stupid and has tried to cause problems..but that's her doing. And i know the child did not choose her to be the mother, it's not the child's fault. It's more the less, i'm in a strange situation, with someone i love, and a baby that isn't mine. It's alot to take in.

JoyRenee · 08-23-2007, 07:50 PM

Oh yes, a baby... Babies are easy to attach to. and they attach easy as well. Full of innoncense and Love. This could be such a postive experience that you could Love and think about this... This baby is a part of this man that you are seeing. That right there should make this Baby very special.

08-23-2007, 07:21 PM	#3
Cupcake Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Mar 2007 Location: San Diego Posts: 80	lol I am on the opposite end. I can't stand my step mom, she is evil. __________________ Cupcake's mommy http://www.dogster.com/dogs/504097

08-23-2007, 07:23 PM	#4
xchristiex Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: USA Posts: 77	Actually, i've never met this child....but i will SOON..and i don't know how i'm going to feel about it.. __________________ I love my lil' man!

08-23-2007, 07:36 PM	#6
xchristiex Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: USA Posts: 77	Long..long story. i'll try to make it short. i started dating this guy, that had recently broke up with someone eles, that someone was pregnant. she had the baby, and the child is now 8 months old. my guy has seen this child 3 times, she has kept the baby from him, he just won joint custody in a nasty court case. its a bunch of drama...and i hate it. i'm stuck in the middle, and now he is supposed to be getting this child for the 1st time soon. __________________ I love my lil' man!

08-23-2007, 07:39 PM	#7
stedmansmommy I Love My Lil' Punkin's Donating Member Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: Stedman and Tatum's World :) Posts: 15,331 Blog Entries: 5	Well who knows, you may absolutely fall in love with this precious little one! I say, wait and see what happens before you say that you dread them __________________ Mommy Loves Stedman and Tatum! They have us wrapped around their little paws!

08-23-2007, 07:50 PM	#15
JoyRenee YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: York, Pa Posts: 754	Oh yes, a baby... Babies are easy to attach to. and they attach easy as well. Full of innoncense and Love. This could be such a postive experience that you could Love and think about this... This baby is a part of this man that you are seeing. That right there should make this Baby very special. __________________

08-23-2007, 07:00 PM	#1
xchristiex Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: USA Posts: 77	Some of you might hate me for this.. Does anyone dread their step children??? I know it sounds horrible..and heartless..please help!!!! __________________ I love my lil' man!

08-23-2007, 07:20 PM	#2
Shadow No Longer a Member Join Date: Jul 2005 Location: California Posts: 5,368	Im sure there are plenty that feel like you do. Some kids have never had any discipline and can be a pain to be around .

08-23-2007, 07:32 PM	#5
Shadow No Longer a Member Join Date: Jul 2005 Location: California Posts: 5,368	What do you mean?

08-23-2007, 07:44 PM	#9
sweetr72 No Longer a Member Join Date: Aug 2006 Location: Ontario, Canada Posts: 6,111	Oh a baby...you can attach to a baby quite easily...try adapting to pre-teens much much harder!! At least this child will know you from as far back as he can remember and love you like a mother...I dont think you have anything to dread lol...babies are fun!! Dawn

08-23-2007, 07:45 PM	#10
xliloliverdiorx YT Addict Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: Wisconsin Posts: 301	are you sure that its the step child you hate or the childs mother? I mean unless you have other step children that you are talking about the child is only a baby and really the baby cant help whatevers happening. My ex boyfriends step mom was like this too with his mother. They cannot stand eachother, they hate eachother so much that when he gets married his fiance is going to have to have two bridal showers, one with his step mom there and another with his birth mom there. I really think its alright for you to dislike the childs mother depending on if the situation is really terrible (like in my ex boyfriends step mothers situation, I can see why she hated her). However, it seems to me if you should be hating anybody you should be dislking the birth mother if the situation with her is really that terrible.

08-23-2007, 07:47 PM	#11
YorkieShadow BANNED! Join Date: Jul 2005 Location: USA Posts: 9,999	Awww Its just a baby. No mouthing back or any thing. lol I think if you give it a chance youll get very close to this little one. Babys that age are too adorable. Just their smile will win you over.

08-23-2007, 07:49 PM	#13
Timmy Mimi & Gabby too! Donating Member Join Date: May 2006 Location: Vineland, NJ Posts: 3,208	Oh gosh that is a horrible situation you are in but remember this is a child and this child has no fault. He didn't ask to be in this world and let alone this situation. Also he is still young where you guys can teach him. I was in a different situation because my step daughters were older and I had a hard time but not because I hated them it was because of the baby momma drama... I love the girls though and they love me. This baby is going to grow on you and although you are feeling like you are right now might not seem right but to me it is understandable...I think its more that you are feeling like you are not going to be #1 anymore because the baby will get all the attention...trust me it will get better....the love for you child is so much different than the love for your other half. Wish you luck sweety...its going to take some time. Oh and BTW I don't hate you for feeling like this....I've felt the same way