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stedmansmommy · 08-23-2007, 07:51 PM

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Originally Posted by xchristiex

very true, and i've thought about this. i hope this is what happens, but i just don't know. i've had plenty of time to think about it..but the more i think, the worse it gets.

I'm sure thinking about it alot has just got you nervous is all

I know when I "over think" too much on things (especially things that I am nervous about) - I just make myself sick over it, and then I start getting full of doubt

Just try and clear your head and get your mind off of it for a while (I know that's easier said that done) - and wait until you actually meet this little one. Like I said, you may absolutely fall in love, babies are very easy to get attached too

And what the other poster said makes alot of sense - are you sure that you don't just dislike the MOTHER of the baby? Are you nervous that she may try and steal your boyfriend back now that the new baby is in the picture?

Just something that crossed my mind that I thought could be making you nervous/upset.

Shadow · 08-23-2007, 07:51 PM

Dread and hate are two different emotions.

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Originally Posted by xliloliverdiorx

are you sure that its the step child you hate or the childs mother? I mean unless you have other step children that you are talking about the child is only a baby and really the baby cant help whatevers happening.

My ex boyfriends step mom was like this too with his mother. They cannot stand eachother, they hate eachother so much that when he gets married his fiance is going to have to have two bridal showers, one with his step mom there and another with his birth mom there. I really think its alright for you to dislike the childs mother depending on if the situation is really terrible (like in my ex boyfriends step mothers situation, I can see why she hated her).

However, it seems to me if you should be hating anybody you should be dislking the birth mother if the situation with her is really that terrible.

xchristiex · 08-23-2007, 07:52 PM

Thank you so much. U really do understand.

stedmansmommy · 08-23-2007, 07:53 PM

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Originally Posted by xchristiex

It's more the less, i'm in a strange situation, with someone i love, and a baby that isn't mine. It's alot to take in.

And you know what - that is TOTALLY understandable. I myself have never been put in that situation, but I can only imagine that it must be pretty awkward

xliloliverdiorx · 08-23-2007, 07:56 PM

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Originally Posted by xchristiex

It's not her, she acts stupid and has tried to cause problems..but that's her doing. And i know the child did not choose her to be the mother, it's not the child's fault. It's more the less, i'm in a strange situation, with someone i love, and a baby that isn't mine. It's alot to take in.

oh i couldnt even begin to imagine the situation you are in. But im sure you will get to know and love the baby. Goodluck!

xliloliverdiorx · 08-23-2007, 07:58 PM

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Originally Posted by Shadow

Dread and hate are two different emotions.

I ment to mostly say dislike but when i start writing dislike sometimes i write hate. I didnt realize she said dread... sorry.

xchristiex · 08-23-2007, 08:00 PM

Thanks everyone for the feedback, it really does help writing about this, and talking to others...even if its just over the internet. I feel a little better

stedmansmommy · 08-23-2007, 08:00 PM

Ok just one more thing and I promise I'll go away LOL

Just remember one very important thing throughout this whole ordeal: It is not the baby's fault

I'm sure you already know that - but honestly, just try your hardest to love and accept the baby, and get close to it. I'm sure it will grow to love you as well

stedmansmommy · 08-23-2007, 08:01 PM

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Originally Posted by xchristiex

I feel a little better

Awwww, good!!!

Chin up girl!!

Everything will be ok!

xchristiex · 08-23-2007, 08:03 PM

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Originally Posted by stedmansmommy

Awwww, good!!!

Chin up girl!!

Everything will be ok!

Thanks babe, maybe i just need some up lifting, that's all!

chloeandj · 08-23-2007, 08:10 PM

Just remember, this child only deserves love and goodness. It is not their fault.

Treat the baby as you would want your child treated, and think about if the situation was flipped and it were you in the mom's position. You don't HAVE to love this child or feel bonded with them as it is not your child, just treat her well.

mizzwanned · 08-23-2007, 08:11 PM

No but I dread my stepdad sometimes, actually he's just my mom's bf but for over 8 yrs. But my stepmom, dad's wife I love. She's nice

xchristiex · 08-23-2007, 08:15 PM

I'll post again in a couple weeks and give an update on this..

wemple2 · 08-23-2007, 08:15 PM

I think it's okay to dread something you feel uncomfortable about, there's nothing wrong with that. But you'll see once you have gotten through the awkward stage...you're going to love being a part of the babies life that your man gave life to. Good luck and try to enjoy every minute of it.

xchristiex · 08-23-2007, 08:22 PM

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Originally Posted by wemple2

I think it's okay to dread something you feel uncomfortable about, there's nothing wrong with that. But you'll see once you have gotten through the awkward stage...you're going to love being a part of the babies life that your man gave life to. Good luck and try to enjoy every minute of it.

Thanks thanks thanks, i really appreciate that...

08-23-2007, 07:52 PM	#18
xchristiex Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: USA Posts: 77	Thank you so much. U really do understand. __________________ I love my lil' man!

08-23-2007, 08:00 PM	#22
xchristiex Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: USA Posts: 77	Thanks everyone for the feedback, it really does help writing about this, and talking to others...even if its just over the internet. I feel a little better __________________ I love my lil' man!

08-23-2007, 08:00 PM	#23
stedmansmommy I Love My Lil' Punkin's Donating Member Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: Stedman and Tatum's World :) Posts: 15,331 Blog Entries: 5	Ok just one more thing and I promise I'll go away LOL Just remember one very important thing throughout this whole ordeal: It is not the baby's fault I'm sure you already know that - but honestly, just try your hardest to love and accept the baby, and get close to it. I'm sure it will grow to love you as well __________________ Mommy Loves Stedman and Tatum! They have us wrapped around their little paws!

08-23-2007, 08:11 PM	#27
mizzwanned Donating YT 11K Club Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: new york Posts: 14,007 Blog Entries: 2	No but I dread my stepdad sometimes, actually he's just my mom's bf but for over 8 yrs. But my stepmom, dad's wife I love. She's nice __________________ Primrose, Teddy..RIP, Livie..RIP, And can never forget my duo Sophie and London, Run in Peace <3

08-23-2007, 08:15 PM	#28
xchristiex Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: USA Posts: 77	I'll post again in a couple weeks and give an update on this.. __________________ I love my lil' man!

08-23-2007, 08:10 PM	#26
chloeandj Tinkerbell, My Little Flutterpup Donating Member Join Date: Feb 2005 Location: Beautiful California! Posts: 6,112	Just remember, this child only deserves love and goodness. It is not their fault. Treat the baby as you would want your child treated, and think about if the situation was flipped and it were you in the mom's position. You don't HAVE to love this child or feel bonded with them as it is not your child, just treat her well.

08-23-2007, 08:15 PM	#29
wemple2 Wee Winston Wiggles Donating Member Join Date: Mar 2007 Location: Kewanee, Illinois Posts: 9,666	I think it's okay to dread something you feel uncomfortable about, there's nothing wrong with that. But you'll see once you have gotten through the awkward stage...you're going to love being a part of the babies life that your man gave life to. Good luck and try to enjoy every minute of it. __________________ As Ever, Kathy Intruducing Bentley Winston and Spencer: RIP My Sweet Angels