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06-02-2007, 01:03 PM | #1 |
Luv my Angel, too! Donating Member Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: USA
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| My DH is Driving Me NUTS!!!! I tell you - there are times I seriously want to pop his head off his body!!! He has been on a rampage lately about all the "stuff" in the house. I consider myself somewhat of a decorater and I like grouped items on the wall and I have a few collectibles. Well HE decided that we were moving the furniture around in the living room and buying a flat screen TV and he wants the living room how HE wants it because he hasn't decorated one room in the house. PLEASE!!!! Keep in mind we've been in this house for 22 years now and have redecorated several times!! Right now I just want him to go away!! I can't stand it when he gets in moods like this and he is totally and completely unreasonable. If he had his way, the entire house would be white, there would be nothing hanging on any wall nor would there be anything on any surface. Even after boxing up tons of stuff, he's still not happy. I basically told him I'm keeping everything else because it has sentimental value to me and I can't help that he doesn't know what that is!! All this because some co-worker of his came over 6 months ago and commented about how "crowded and uncomfortable" our living room was. Like I give two sh*ts about what some other guy who has a 6000 sq ft house has to say about my 1800 sq ft house. Sorry, just needed to vent.
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06-02-2007, 01:20 PM | #2 | |
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These men are so unreasonable sometimes. If it would be up to mu hubby the house would be all white too...so you're not alone. Hang in there and give your babies kisses from us Maria
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06-02-2007, 01:52 PM | #3 |
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| Oh no Jodie . . I hope this is going to be a short phase (mood) for him. But yes, can relate when it comes to husbands nagging about stuff Unfortunately for both of you, you both have different taste in decorating . . .and whilst most couples are that way (same here) it is the norm that husbands just gives in to their wives. I guess you and I are the exception. Hubby thinks I have neglected my house completely ever since I started go.fetch. a few items here and there and it feels like I am a clutter bee to him already MEN Last edited by Tiger's Mom; 06-02-2007 at 01:54 PM. |
06-02-2007, 01:58 PM | #4 |
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| To me it sounds like it's really all about the flat screen. I say this 'cause that's what I am going thru right now. I don't have to clean out. I already did that when we moved...got rid of everything...right down to the bed and dishes. But now everything has to revolve around the flat screens and speaker systems he has had put in. Men....can't live with them and can't live without em. |
06-02-2007, 02:11 PM | #5 |
Yorkie Kisses are the Best! Donating Member | Girl I FEEL YOUR PAIN... My husband is PART of the decor and with no break there's lots of days I just want to get in the car and keep on driving....men can be buttheads can't they ? I think it's all about the tv too....why not let him have it ....then, gradually move your stuff back a little at a time....he'll NEVER know the difference and you'll have your house the way you like it Poor girl - and after you've been so sick too - I know you probably don't even have the energy for all this. |
06-02-2007, 02:14 PM | #6 |
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| Hi Jodie...I feel for you girl but this is where the art of compromise comes into play. My husband and I have different tastes too but sometimes I give in to him and sometimes he gives in to me. I do, however, draw the line at dead animals in the house (taxidermy)! We've always had an agreement...I get the inside and he gets the outside. That worked for 20 years or so and then he retired...all of a sudden...he wanted a say in the decorating decisions since he was home more. I slowly let him have input and you know what I leared? He actually has pretty good taste! When we moved here he wanted a big screen plasma t.v. and I mean he wanted a huge one. But, 'we' chose a tastefully sized plazma and he built a fireplace mantle for it to sit on...it does look nice and I enjoy it too but I was against it in the beginning. I think he scared me when he used the word 'huge'! I used to go in for the heavy country decorating (pinks, blues, teddy bears, bunnies, baskets, crocks...you know, stuff everywhere!) but after seeing the homes of a friend who is a 'minimalist' I started thinking about my decorating ways...I saw the light and decided to simplify! I gave up the pink and blue country colors that were so feminine and went with neutrals so I could use different colors for contrast...this made him feel better too. I still get to enjoy 'my' things but they are contained in smaller areas and arranged differently now and his favorites are also included in the whole scheme of things. We had a life changing experience in '02 that made us realize it was time to let go of some things...they just weren't that important to us anymore. We had a few yard sales, gave some things away and gave some family items to other family members. We are both comfortable with less now but that doesn't mean we love our things any less... Good luck...2 people with totally different styles can live in the same house...it takes some work but it can also bring out some interesting ideas that weren't thought of before! |
06-02-2007, 02:24 PM | #7 |
Luv my Angel, too! Donating Member Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: USA
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| I had actually started removing some of the stuff that I just didn't want anymore - but that wasn't good enough!! Every decorating that has been done has been with his input as to paint color and when we got new furniture, he had a hand in picking it out. He already bought the TV, so that isn't an issue. I'm just so sick of him saying that there isn't one room in the house in which he feels comfortable!! And as far as the compromise goes - I'm the only one doing it!! He just makes his demands. So, now that he has his new TV and a more pared down living room, I'm sure I'll never see him again. And then he'll complain because I'm on YT!!
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06-02-2007, 02:32 PM | #8 |
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| I believe a firm kick in the ass is in order Men. Mine is outside worshipping his car right now.
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06-02-2007, 02:42 PM | #9 |
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| I can sympathize with you. My Husband often wants to be included in the decorating decisions. His taste iis different than mine. Hes helping me decorate My Daughters room (his Mother is helping too) and I have had to put My foot down on a couple of things those two have come up with. He did come up with a neat dea of lighted shelves hes going to put in there for her dolls though
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06-02-2007, 02:47 PM | #10 |
Yorkie Kisses are the Best! Donating Member | HAHAHHAHAHAHAHAHA !!!!!!! THANK You for that laugh !!! OMG that was a good one ! |
06-02-2007, 03:10 PM | #11 |
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| Jodie, my prayers are with you for strength & patience. I'm a screamer, Chuck knows better than to try that on me. I have a BIL who calls himself a minimalist, watches TV all day, shuts himself in "his" room at night & pees in a bottle. My sister is ready to boot him. I think he's turning into Howard Hughes. I'm mentally trying to plan Villette's 25,000 party.....did anyone else notice that she's at 24,800+...it won't be long now. Hey Jodie, how about a road trip to Houston???
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06-02-2007, 03:11 PM | #12 | |
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At least some of your men want to help decorate. If I went away for a week, I'd come back to a total wreck. Mine is a slob. Wish he cared how the place looked.
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06-02-2007, 03:13 PM | #13 | |
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Well, I say....aren't our homes with hearts and personalities better than their homes that just look like an impersonal picture out of a catalog?! Hang in there, honey. Sure, give him his one room, if it's important to him....but it's NOONE else's business what your house looks like!
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06-02-2007, 05:55 PM | #14 | |
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Jodie: I'm sorry you are going thru this. Your husband can be glad he doesn't live in my house. I have what I call "s**t piles" lying around and my husband & I both are good at "overlooking" them. We've lived here 21 years and a long time ago, I gave my husband an ultimatum, paint the walls or I'm hiring someone. He didn't and I hired a painter. The only thing my husband said was, it looks good. Jodie, maybe if your husband says he doesn't feel comfortable in any room in the house, maybe he would feel comfortable living out in the garage! Seriously, I hope things improve. Hang in there and when you need to vent, were always here to listen.
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06-02-2007, 06:05 PM | #15 |
Donating YT 3000 Club Member | why do guys enjoys empty room My brother is the same way he only has what he need in there otherwise no pictures nothing but a bed and electronices |
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