Depressed & Confused :(

[SweetCuteness]

The answer is No, No, No, and NO!!! What a dick. Of course you could still go to school and become a doctor if that is your goal. Maybe not right away, but you certainly should let go of your dreams and goals because of this jerk.

I was in a realtionship with a guy like this a long time ago. Unless you leave him now, you're going to start to believe the mean things he's telling you. You deserve better than that. If you want him to be a part of the boys' lives, he can. But I definitely wouldn't want him to continue to be a large part of yours.

You're still young, and there are a lot of guys out there that will treat you the way you deserve to be treated. You also still have a lot of time left to continue your education and fulfill your dreams.

Don't let this guy push you around and verbally abuse you. He needs to go.

[SweetCuteness]

Originally Posted by JeanieK

His verbal abuse and disrespect is his way of controlling you. Tell the jerk to take a hike.

You are far better off without him, and if your goal is to become a Dr. then more power to yiou. It might take longer, but it's not impossible.

There is so much help out there for single Moms, you're almost better off without a man.

I think the kids deserve to know their father, but I don't agree that it is always what is best. It usually just complicates things, especailly if the father is disrespectful to the mother.

I wish you the best of luck in what ever you decide to do. But sweetie, Dont's EVER let a man put you down, control you or abuse you.

[mizzwanned]

Originally Posted by GORJESS

jayden and javier

Javier is one's of my sister's twins names-Daniel y Javier. Those are really cute. I think anything is possible, if you still want to go to Puerto Rico I think you can, do you have family there? Or you can go to school in Chicago until a little time passes, then when you are ready go over there. Or stay in Chicago, you can do what YOU want with your life. Just because you are having babies does not mean you can't have what you want, yes you have to care for them and do the best for them but you can still go to school while you do that, part time or full time, you can do it. Just get those credits girl. If I was in your situation I would tell the father to go to but I know that it is hard to do that because he's the father. Really you don't need him, there are many single mother's out there that have done fine, my mom for example wanted to be a nurse. She was one in her country but when she came here she had to start all over again and she had me and my brother. She put her career on hold for a little, when we were really young then went back to school and she's an RN now, and works in a hospital. She did it and I remember her going to school. She was much older than you, being that you're only 18 I think you can still be a doctor if you want. I don't think that guy is good for you if he is telling you you're nothing without him and all that crap. Don't let him stop you from anything.

[pnb]

I am a single parent. I have two 5 and 7 year old boys. My exhusband was an alcholic and would metally abuse me as well. I lived with his drinking and abuse for 10 years. I left him when my oldest was 2.5 years and my youngest only 6 weeks old. The day I left him was the happiest day of my life and I have nevr looked back. He is in my kids life and sober. I have accomplished so much since leaving him, I have my own house, my children are SO happy, and I have a great job. There is so much out there for single parents that you would not believe there are grants for college and much more. I wish you the best of luck and congrads on the twins boys.Please don't let him think that you can't make it w/out him because You CAN!

[SweetCuteness]

Originally Posted by pnb

I am a single parent. I have two 5 and 7 year old boys. My exhusband was an alcholic and would metally abuse me as well. I lived with his drinking and abuse for 10 years. I left him when my oldest was 2.5 years and my youngest only 6 weeks old. The day I left him was the happiest day of my life and I have nevr looked back. He is in my kids life and sober. I have accomplished so much since leaving him, I have my own house, my children are SO happy, and I have a great job. There is so much out there for single parents that you would not believe there are grants for college and much more. I wish you the best of luck and congrads on the twins boys.Please don't let him think that you can't make it w/out him because You CAN!

I'm sorry that you had to go through that with your ex, but it's so awesome that everything turned out okay.

There really are a TON of options for single parents. Plus, would you want your twins growing up seeing the arguing and abuse day in and day out? It's your decision, but if he continues to act this way to you, it's my opinion that you should leave.

Good luck girlie!

[LunasMomma]

Sweetie, I'm so sorry that he's being such a BRICK wall What a dummy he is! He should be PROUD that you want to continue with your schooling. You deserve someone that is proud of you and wants good things for you (and the babies).